All of that is well fine, but it doesn't explain why you think exposing the deep complexity of your personal feelings is appropriate or even wise. I think it's not. Unless you're at the doctor's office or filling out legal paperwork, nobody cares about your gender. You shouldn't care about it either.
There are plenty of things about myself that I am secretly proud of. If I choose to tell someone, I do so by accepting the risk they will not like it. That's their right. Look at it this way; some people can only get turned on by the most disgusting, dangerous, unhealthy, and abusive things. I've known men who could only have sex while the woman was bonded, gagged, and being beaten. Nothing else could get them going. If that's the way their body or mind works, I feel bad for them, it's something they're gonna have to deal with. If they choose to reveal that to the world they do so at their own peril. Nobody would ever ask them a question like that so all they have to do is keep it to themselves to avoid being seen or treated differently.
There are some things which should always be kept to yourself, and I believe penis size, poo colour, and self-identified gender fall into that category.
