Fathers' Epic Response to Daughters Facebook Post (1 Viewer)

[Aunt Spiker]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

Maybe he should try to understand his daughter's views - and pour his own damn coffee :shrug: I think he's an ass. I'm not actually feeling sorry for him - I feel bad for her. Maybe I shouldn't: but I do at the moment.

I pay the kids for chores - they do them well and it teaches them the value of money. It's a win-win for us. If he wants his daughter to DO these chores and then WANT to get a job so she could appreciate the fruits of her ard work then maybe he should have made her earn a living a little from the start? If he appraoched parenting differently without spoiling her she would have had a completely different view on life - most likely. he's at fault for creating this situation.

Before my kids live on their own: they know how ot budget money, save and spend it wisely - I don't think this dad here has realized that it's up to him to TEACH these things - it's not something in life that will materialize as a value overnight when you turn 18.

So - I think it's great he's changing HIS parenting ways but I think he needs to take a double-look at HOW he is as a parent and a person towards his child.

 

[Connery]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

Nothing like kids to push your buttons and drive you crazy, however, he should be setting an example rather than shooting the place up. Maybe the kid has a point, who knows. I wonder how he treats his parents.

 

[Enola]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

She is a little brat whining on FB and got busted. My kids did chores. Sometimes I paid them, sometimes I didn't. Depended on if I could pay the rent that month or not.
The only thing I didn't like was him shooting the laptop. He should have sold it and kept the money for her rent. Ungrateful little witch.

 

[Arcana XV]

Assuming this isn't all just a prank to get tons of hits on YouTube, I can't even begin to count the ways this was a bad idea from a parenting point of view. I have a daughter who's about the same age and this is not the way you deal with these things. He showed about the same level of maturity his 15 year old kid did. He responded to typical teenage, childish behavior in the most idiotic way possible. Destroying her computer because of a few disrespectful words on Facebook? Really? This is how a mature adult handles a completely normal teenager? I know better than anyone how infuriating they are at that age, but I also know how lucky I am that she's not out doing drugs, drinking herself into a coma or getting pregnant or worse. Teenagers through the ages have been complaining about life being unfair and parents ruining their lives and how much everything sucks. It's what they do, you ****ing idiot. Get a clue and start acting your age. You're not going to get your kid under control by being even more immature than she is. Moron.

 

[disneydude]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

I thought his response was completely appropriate until he put the bullets through the computer. He had made his point prior to resulting to violence. The violence was simply gratuitous. It didn't strengthen or add anything to his message.

 

[Dragonfly]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

I thought his response was completely appropriate until he put the bullets through the computer. He had made his point prior to resulting to violence. The violence was simply gratuitous. It didn't strengthen or add anything to his message.

How funny would it be if he got a little visit from the police? To check the gun registration, to check his claims on exploding hollow-point bullets, and to check how far he was from neighbors houses and public roads when he fired that gun 9 times.

 

[herenow1]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

I thought his response was completely appropriate until he put the bullets through the computer. He had made his point prior to resulting to violence. The violence was simply gratuitous. It didn't strengthen or add anything to his message.

I didn't see it as violent, rather a controlled statement.

 

[Goshin]

Because being a good daddy is caring enough to use hollowpoints....

Interesting.

Well.... I don't have a problem with what he did, as such, but that's probably not how I would have handled it.

First of all, there's a disconnect somewhere. I have a 16yo, and I can pretty much guarantee he'd never dream about posting something like that on FB, and probably not saying anything of the sort even just among his own friends in private. He understands that as a family we work together for our mutual well-being, and he knows that the adults in his life are carrying a heavier load of that burden than he is, and why. He knows that dollars don't grow on trees, they come from hard work, sweat and effort, stress and discipline.

He knows I've made many sacrifices for his sake and I can safely say he respects that too much to pitch such a fit as this girl did.

Now... I'm lucky and I know it. I have a teenager who has some common sense and generally doesn't go off the reservation with the drama; he actually talks to me and listens to me and doesn't usually do anything too stupid. Yup, I am blessed. I know everybody isn't so fortunate, no matter how much effort they put into parenting.

But I can't help but think there's a disconnect here in the family relationship. Something missing.

I could be wrong; maybe she's just a little bitch and her Dad finally had all of it he could take. It's like that sometimes.

Me, I would have sat down with my child and had a long talk before doing anything else. I do "guilt trip" really well and can reduce the average teenager to blubbering tears and sobs of "I'm sorry, I'm so sorry" within 15 minutes. :mrgreen:

I wouldn't have shot up a perfectly good laptop either... that's just wasteful. I would have took it for my own use, or put it away, or sold it if I wanted to get rid of it.

BTW, hollow point bullets do not explode.

 

[Your Star]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

Guys a dick. Kid was venting, no harm.

Glad I'm not his kid.

 

[Helix]

1. looks fake

2. dad should have just talked to the daughter one on one. if this video is real, his "one up" probably will result only in more rebellion, bad feelings, and a poor relationship.

3. shooting her computer was stupid.

4. looks fake.

 

[1Perry]

1. looks fake

2. dad should have just talked to the daughter one on one. if this video is real, his "one up" probably will result only in more rebellion, bad feelings, and a poor relationship.

3. shooting her computer was stupid.

4. looks fake.

Yep, how many smokers do you know that can go over 5 minutes on a rant and never take a drag? It was just another of the long list of cliche's.

 

[SheWolf]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

The dad does seem to be really strict, but I don't think he is acting. He seems to be really pissed off, and I believe it.

I think he was trying to embarrassed his daughter online, because she probably embarrassed him by writing such a disrespectful letter. He did teach her a lesson, but some will say it went too far and he was too harsh.

 

[herenow1]

Assuming this isn't all just a prank to get tons of hits on YouTube, I can't even begin to count the ways this was a bad idea from a parenting point of view. I have a daughter who's about the same age and this is not the way you deal with these things. He showed about the same level of maturity his 15 year old kid did. He responded to typical teenage, childish behavior in the most idiotic way possible. Destroying her computer because of a few disrespectful words on Facebook? Really? This is how a mature adult handles a completely normal teenager? I know better than anyone how infuriating they are at that age, but I also know how lucky I am that she's not out doing drugs, drinking herself into a coma or getting pregnant or worse. Teenagers through the ages have been complaining about life being unfair and parents ruining their lives and how much everything sucks. It's what they do, you ****ing idiot. Get a clue and start acting your age. You're not going to get your kid under control by being even more immature than she is. Moron.

I have two teenagers and more coming up after them. I wouldn't call it ''normal'' behavior as my kids would never post such a thing (especially about mom and dad) on FB. Number one, they are respectful of not only us, but others in authority. Number two, we monitor their FB, and because of this, they aren't dropping the ''f'' bomb every other status update. They also have never yelled at either of us, told us they hated us, or whatever other behavior others deem as '' normal''. My kids aren't perfect but if I must say so myslef, my hubby and I are raising our kids to be appreciative and respectful. We also receive compliments on a regular basis about our kids, so it's not just me being biased. Wow, I didn't realize how blessed I am to have kids that don't resemble this girl, until after typing that all out!

 

[Your Star]

Assuming this isn't all just a prank to get tons of hits on YouTube, I can't even begin to count the ways this was a bad idea from a parenting point of view. I have a daughter who's about the same age and this is not the way you deal with these things. He showed about the same level of maturity his 15 year old kid did. He responded to typical teenage, childish behavior in the most idiotic way possible. Destroying her computer because of a few disrespectful words on Facebook? Really? This is how a mature adult handles a completely normal teenager? I know better than anyone how infuriating they are at that age, but I also know how lucky I am that she's not out doing drugs, drinking herself into a coma or getting pregnant or worse. Teenagers through the ages have been complaining about life being unfair and parents ruining their lives and how much everything sucks. It's what they do, you ****ing idiot. Get a clue and start acting your age. You're not going to get your kid under control by being even more immature than she is. Moron.

This all over.

 

[Aunt Spiker]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

My parents worked WAY too hard to earn money in order to destroy something that was worth hundreds of dollars because of my bratty behavior.

What my parents did: deprive me of my 'toys' - assign a value to them - and make me do *extra* chores to save up money (really - just numbers on paper since I proved I couldnt' be trusted sometimes) and once I worked off the value - I earned it back.

I've taken that approach to my kids - much better than destroying something that I myself could use or benefit from.

Does this Dad have an appreciation for things? I don't think he does - maybe he does now? But if he's so willing to throw money away like that I think it's no wonder that his daughter is without such values. . . he mentioned being raised differently where he believed in hard work and not giving someone the easy road - so what changed him?

 

[Manc Skipper]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

He's a violent asshole, barely in control of himself, let alone the child..

 

[SheWolf]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

The dad did get a little crazy, but daughter's post was unacceptable as well. She cussed her parents out and said she wouldn't be there for them when they're old and need someone to care for them...just because they make her do chores.... that's cruel. Any parent should be upset if their kid talked like that about them, behind their back, and online for everybody to see.

The dad was excessive but so was his daughter. She disrespected her entire family, and her parents really aren't that bad since they upgraded her computer. I don't really think her parents treat her as badly as she makes it out. She isn't grateful, and when kids try to play games like that with their parents... their parents will always win. per this video clip.

 

[MaggieD]

I think it's pretty funny. He did, too. She won't, though.

Frankly? I don't see anything wrong with it. She publicly humiliated her parents, their values and their family life. Time for a b.i.g. lesson. What he's done is basically take away her laptop (cellphone, too, I guess) and do it in a very public way. Teenaged girls are a handful. She'll laugh about it some day. She should be thankful she has a dad who gives a damn.

 

[Aunt Spiker]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

The dad did get a little crazy, but daughter's post was unacceptable as well. She cussed her parents out and said she wouldn't be there for them when they're old and need someone to care for them is...just because they make her do chores.

The dad was excessive but so was his daughter. She disrespected her entire family, and her parents really aren't that bad since they upgraded her computer. I don't really think her parents treat her as badly as she makes it out. She isn't grateful, and when kids try to play games like that with their parents... their parents will always win. per this video clip.

Upgrading a computer means you're a good parent?

But I only have his presented video to draw my opinion from - which isn't much . . . but part of me says that if he's willing to behave like that on camera - he's probably worse OFF camera.

 

[MaggieD]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

I thought his response was completely appropriate until he put the bullets through the computer. He had made his point prior to resulting to violence. The violence was simply gratuitous. It didn't strengthen or add anything to his message.

Yeah, better he should have found a kid who needed a laptop and given it away.

 

[CaptainCourtesy]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

Guys a dick. Kid was venting, no harm.

Glad I'm not his kid.

YS is right. Nothing but venting. Kids need this kind of release. It was NOT meant for the parents to see. In essence, he is punishing her for reading something in her private journal/diary that he read without her permission; he made it clear that she posted it in a way that he could not read it. When parents of clients of mine do something like that, they get majorly chastised by me.

 

[SheWolf]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

YS is right. Nothing but venting. Kids need this kind of release. It was NOT meant for the parents to see. In essence, he is punishing her for reading something in her private journal/diary that he read without her permission; he made it clear that she posted it in a way that he could not read it. When parents of clients of mine do something like that, they get majorly chastised by me.

But it's not a private post.... She did post it to all her friends on facebook, right? I can't agree with you. If he just found a letter on her computer like that, then I would agree, but it was on Facebook, so that's different.

 

[SheWolf]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

Upgrading a computer means you're a good parent?

But I only have his presented video to draw my opinion from - which isn't much . . . but part of me says that if he's willing to behave like that on camera - he's probably worse OFF camera.

I am just saying that I think the girl is being excessive, as well as the dad. She claims she's being treated like a slave and she's disrespectful, but her father spent over 100 dollars to upgrade her computer. He didn't have to do that. I don't think she's treated like a slave. She has a laptop, pretty nice looking one too, and her parents obviously let her play around on that laptop and havea FB.

I am not saying he is the best dad in the world either. I am just saying that they are both excessive, and the daughter does seem to be ungrateful.

 

[Your Star]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

But it's not a private post.... She did post it to all her friends on facebook, right? I can't agree with you. If he just found a letter on her computer like that, then I would agree, but it was on Facebook, so that's different.

Not really, she was venting towards her peers, people that will understand her, we all did this as a kid, about our parents, about our teachers, about other kids. It's normal behavior, shooting a perfectly good laptop because you get mad, and post it for the whole world to see is not, that is childish. If anyone should be chastised it should be him.

 

[CaptainCourtesy]

Re: 15 year old bashes parents on FB, Dad responds on FB

But it's not a private post.... She did post it to all her friends on facebook, right? I can't agree with you. If he just found a letter on her computer like that, then I would agree, but it was on Facebook, so that's different.

He was pretty clear that she posted it in such a way so he COULDN'T read it. He said something like, "you forgot that I'm an IT guy". It was something NOT for his eyes, but he somehow went and looked. That's not OK.