WTF... Talk about ridiculous assumptions. No, I don't think all rape is sex.
gosh so ridiculous. who would make such an absurd claim?
You must hate feminists or discussing sexism, right? Women talking about sexism and it's existence is absurd, bitching, and moaning?
i think often it is bitching and moaning. "oh woe is me, it's so unfair, life is so hard, i face so many obstacles being a woman..." :roll: i have low tolerance for American citizens of any stripe claiming that life has somehow handed them a short stick. but everyone wants to be a victim.
as for discussing it, obviously i don't hate discussing it, as here I am doing so. I just find it's claims to be rather ludicrous.
You're coming off really insulting and dismissive IMO...
well understand that i'm not dismissing you because you're a woman - i'm disimissing your arguments because they are wrong.
You're lecturing is unnecessary. I don't have a problem with people making individual choices, and I generally don't because I am a Libertarian
if that is true, then you should know better. in the competition of the free market, any business who pursues a hiring or payscale policy that is racist, sexist, ethnicist, religiousist, etc; is
choosing to reduce it's economic output relative to costs. If Business A decides to pay it's women 4/5ths of what it pays it's men who are just as productive, then the women whose labor is worth more than that will go work at Business B, who will immediately see an increase in efficiency and production, and will proceed tp take A's market share. the free market is a swift and ruthless eliminater of businesses who put into place policies that do not seek to maximize economic efficiency.
I have a problem with you saying it's always a woman's choice
then you should be happy that I have not; you are projecting an attitude and set of assumptions onto me that do not fit. I use the phrases "mostly" and "generally" a lot, and I think that does fit.
. It's simply a tradition
which is not wrong. there is nothing wrong with tradition, my wife and I are both very happy with traditional roles and we enjoy the "traditional" aspects of them. Tradition is a variety of things - not just the 'democracy of the dead' but the combined experience of those who have existed before you - the manners in which your society has discovered through long trial and error work best. it is that which chucks tradition overboard that must justify itself, not those who choose to remain within it.
it even causes reverse sexism in family courts... Woman are usually always rewarded children in divorce, that's a judges choice. You can't argue that that's a woman's choice. Men have to fight harder for full custody of their children, but generally, since men are the providers and women the caregivers... our courts are slanted towards giving the woman the children and making the father pay child support (provide). Woman are assumed the better parent to care for the children and men the better parent to provide, because it's been the tradition long before women had rights. Those gender biased assumptions and roles still exist. Now just because society is still biased towards women and men being caregivers and providers, you're trying to say it's ALWAYS a choice just because women have rights now.
you are trying to draw a similarity here which does not exist. the government does not have the automatic and instant feedback mechanism that a business operating in the market does. it is therefore simple and easy (even perhaps easier) for a government to pursue a sexist/racist/whathaveyou model than a business, which faces potential death if it tries to do so. If you want to argue that women in public service are earning less than men in public service who work the same jobs, same hours, etc; then
that is a charge that could hold water and - if there is evidence - should be looked into.
Again, stop your lecturing and making assumptions. Taking care of children is not a lowly task. I never said that... You're the one arguing that taking care of children is an economic lowly duty that women choice to do, therefore they are worth less in the job market...
you are mistaken. i am saying that taking care of children reduces your worth in the job market; nowhere do I say that it is lowly. on the contrary, the most important function of society is the proper care and raising of children.
Why the hell do only women CHOICE to do it? A man can do it just as well, if he were willing
a man might in comparison to
a woman. but generally i think that women are better suited to it, which is probably why most couples end up having the wife take the lead in that regard. Women tend to have higher "EQ"'s, and a stronger desire to do so, both of which are critical.
I even mentioned "housewife shaming" before, which I personally have a problem with. Women shouldn't feel shamed because they choice to be housewives.
amen. it is a shame that people think that their choice to place that before an income-generating career somehow means they are being lowered, either by themselves or by society and employers in general.
I never said that is sexist for women to stay home and do it. I explained why it's institutionalized and why it's sexist..
so it's not sexist. it's just institutionalized sexism. right. got it.
wait, wait, no, i lost it. something cannot both be sexist and not sexist. either women staying home to raise kids is "just tradition" and "sexism" or it's not.
it seems you are not fully sure what you believe here.
It's sexist to expect women to be paid less because they are mothers, as your initial comment indicated.
no it's not. their being mothers means that their work will be more limited than (for example) single childless women. women who are mothers tend to work fewer hours, need more flexible schedules, and generally seek out safer rather than higher income employment. their labor can be depended upon less in future planning. there are a whole host of solid, economic reasons why the labor of someone who chooses to be a mother is worth less than soemone who chooses not to be.
It's sexist to not be willing to do those things as a man.
is it sexist not to be willing to do those things as a woman? or is it merely the individual being selfish, if that is what their family needs?
Well, now you know how it feels.... You use the word choice, but I have explained why, women make that choice more than men make that choice...
no you haven't. you've claimed it was institutionalized sexism before claiming it wasn't sexism. you seem to have this loose concept of "tradition" floating around, but you don't appear to have a solid definition of it, or how it functions, nor do you seem to allow for the possibility that women tend to be more emotionally attached to their children, especially when young (carrying and giving birth to them will do that). you present a two-dimensional world in which people who make Decision A only make it for Reason B unless of course they don't, but they are..... you completely fail to take into account the myriad complexities of human beings and their interactions.
And again, in you're little world, it's only women who choice to do those things and 100% of the time... Women always choice to take care of children. Women always choice to stay home and put the kids on the bus. Men don't choice to .
generally, that is correct.
Again, you say, "being a mother depresses your wage earning," but not being a father....
being a father does too, just less so. the less demands a family places on you, the more demands your work can, which tends to increase your compensation. women tend more to take a central role in the family, which is why mothers labor tend to becomes more depressed as far as pay goes.
To me, I can spot that you have gender biased views as to what parenting means for a woman and for a man. What does "being a father" actually mean to you? Working and providing? Playing sports with the kids after he is done working?
:shrug: playing with the kids is definitely part of it; but if you mean to ask is being a father different than being a mother, then my answer would be generally yes. my job is to teach my boys how to be good men; and it's an example that I can set in ways my wife never can. if we hae a daughter, then my job is to teach her what she should expect from the men in her life; not a little by the example of how i treat her mother. boys who are raised without solid male role models in their lives tend to fail at lifes' challenges at extraordinarily high rates; whether the measurement is crime, scholastic failing, low income.... girls who are raised without solid male role models tend to become desperate for male attention, and often become sexualized in order to achieve it; they are more likely to become attached to abusive men, and more likely to have children out of wedlock, which creates a self-perpetuating cycle. we are currently a society in short supply of solid male role models, and it shows in the tearing in the fabric of society.
... and that's a modern choice, for both genders, you say?
i couldn't care less what is "modern". i care most for what provides for the best care and raising of children.
Exactly how am I hurting anybody with my posts?
sorry; i failed to be specific enough in my post here. I was switching more to a general "you" as in "when you do x you get y" rather than "when you, shewolf, do x...."
my apologies.
