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OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
I have a life here and my kids. Also at this point its an infatuation rather than meaning so much to me.Why not go there and support her rather than distract her if she means so much to you?
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
I'd want to know what your intentions are and if you're being fully up front with her.
Like, say you just think it would be "fun" to get to know her and to get laid for a while and you know that you're a needy kind of guy who will make all kinds of inhuman demands on her time while she "entertains" you, but you're really not looking for a relationship right now and plan on bouncing once this thing stops being pure "fun" and becomes "work".
Did you tell her that?
If so, and she's still interested, then she's an adult and there's no reason for you to be making decisions for her.
If that's what you're interested in, though, and you're all like, "No baby, I really want a relationship", because telling her the truth would be you getting in the way of your game?
Yeah, it'd be a dick move getting involved with her.
Mind you, I'm not accusing you of anything here. Obviously I don't know you at all. It's just more fun and colorful to paint you as a cad in this wholey hypothetical example.
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
We aren't in love.
Its the way I tend to do relationships. I tend to know the girl really well before taking the next step. My relationships tend not to have much of a dating phase as a result.
As far as more advanced steps, my instincts tell me its a distinct possibility, but I never ask a girl out unless it is. I haven't been with many girls but with one exception all of my relationships have been long term and domestic.
However it factors into my consideration. If there's no chance, I would rather cut my losses and move on. There is always someone else around the corner.
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
Most people here are giving you rotten advice.
Break it off - seriously, break it off. The absolute MINIMUM you should have between you is a casual friendship/phone buddy. If you try and make it work, you will end up resenting her because of the fact that you'll be unable to have even the basics with her - quick lunch, quiet face-to-face talk, even a stress-releasing jog.
Your schedules are going to be a problem for both of you - mostly for her, however. If you want to be friends, that's great. When she gets out of nursing school, then you can re-examine. As of right now, pursuing something will end in misery.
Not true, my wife and I lived 400 miles apart for 4 years and made it workas a dating couple, then we got married.
You're the extreme minority.
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
l would listen to my heart ,mega.
please use headphones when doing so
OK so here is the situation.
This girl and I are hitting it off. We currently are in the introduction, telling the other about ourselves stage. However there is complication.
She lives a distance away (about 150 miles). She is a full time mom and works a lot of hours. She is working on her nursing degree.
My thoughts are this: while I would enjoy this whole thing, I honestly feel that the best and most respectful thing I can do is not further complicate her life. I would be very happy to see her make her dreams come true and I feel I would be a distraction.
What would you do if you were in this situation?
What's the urgent urgency? Just go with the flow. It may not happen anyway, but if you are interested in her, and she is interested in you, let her make the decision if you are standing in her way. If she likes you enough, she'll make room for you. When a woman tells a man that she can't see him because she's too focused on her career, that's code for, "I'm not really interested in you enough to make time for you."
Have you talked to her about what you are saying to us? Questioned her about whether or not you are taking up too much of her time?
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