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Maybe it's me, maybe it's my lack of understanding of the male mind, but I've run across this a few times with male friends. They don't realize they're aging, or if they do, they think they're doing it a lot better than they are.
Currently I have a dear old friend living with my partner and I, it's temporary for now, but he's here trying to recover/recoup...whatever, and he thinks he's "all that AND a bag of chips" when in all actuality he's only slightly above average. Granted, I think he looks amazing "FOR HIS AGE" but he definitely looks his age.
A lot of guys who fall prey to that are the dudes who were "pretty boys" when they were younger and always had people telling them how "hot" they were. They still have that mindset.
I have the problem of forgetting that my 48 year old body just isn't capable of doing what my 25 year old body did. Or if it is capable it takes much, much, much, much ... longer to recover.
Maybe it's me, maybe it's my lack of understanding of the male mind, but I've run across this a few times with male friends. They don't realize they're aging, or if they do, they think they're doing it a lot better than they are.
Currently I have a dear old friend living with my partner and I, it's temporary for now, but he's here trying to recover/recoup...whatever, and he thinks he's "all that AND a bag of chips" when in all actuality he's only slightly above average. Granted, I think he looks amazing "FOR HIS AGE" but he definitely looks his age.
Maybe it's me, maybe it's my lack of understanding of the male mind, but I've run across this a few times with male friends. They don't realize they're aging, or if they do, they think they're doing it a lot better than they are.
Currently I have a dear old friend living with my partner and I, it's temporary for now, but he's here trying to recover/recoup...whatever, and he thinks he's "all that AND a bag of chips" when in all actuality he's only slightly above average. Granted, I think he looks amazing "FOR HIS AGE" but he definitely looks his age.
Some of us just don't give a **** what others think. Apparently he thinks that because he's single... and needing to "recover/recoup". However we age is predetermined by genetics... I thought woment found "confidence" sexy? BWAHAHAHA.
I may grow old, but I'm never going to grow up. Life is to short. Heck, some parts of my body wakes up faster than others in the morning. I can't do what I did in my 20's or 30's. I know I have and am aging (60 next summer). I accept what nature has delt me and others.
A lot of guys who fall prey to that are the dudes who were "pretty boys" when they were younger and always had people telling them how "hot" they were. They still have that mindset.
I have the problem of forgetting that my 48 year old body just isn't capable of doing what my 25 year old body did. Or if it is capable it takes much, much, much, much ... longer to recover.
Maybe it's me, maybe it's my lack of understanding of the male mind, but I've run across this a few times with male friends. They don't realize they're aging, or if they do, they think they're doing it a lot better than they are.
Currently I have a dear old friend living with my partner and I, it's temporary for now, but he's here trying to recover/recoup...whatever, and he thinks he's "all that AND a bag of chips" when in all actuality he's only slightly above average. Granted, I think he looks amazing "FOR HIS AGE" but he definitely looks his age.
Yeah, that's my friend's problem too. He absolutely refuses to "grow up." I'm sorry, but I don't find that attractive at all, I find it infuriating. I already raised my son, I'm not going to raise another mother's son...GROW UP MEN!
Yeah, that's my friend's problem too. He absolutely refuses to "grow up." I'm sorry, but I don't find that attractive at all, I find it infuriating. I already raised my son, I'm not going to raise another mother's son...GROW UP MEN!
but I think we aren't as tied to our body image, as we are to our image being built upon our accomplishments or lack thereof.
Why do you use this one man to denigrate all men?
Heck, in another thread, you said you only saw men as sex objects, so perhaps it is YOU who should grow up.
to be fair, i think i know plenty of men who would be cool with that plan.
Well I can assure you he was never concidered to be a "Pretty boy" by any stretch. He was, however, a rugedly handsome guy, kinda still is...for his age.
As a young man he joined the Army, became a partrooper and Ranger. When he got out he started a career at thirty as a snowboarding instructor, gained certification as an instructor/trainer and freestyle coach at Breckenridge and Vail, and during the off season got his certification as a White Water River guide and Kayak freestyle instructor.
But about ten years later his body started catching up to him. He had a nearly fatal accident that nearly crushed one side of his face and he had to have his eye socket reconstructed. He's beated his body up to the point that now, he's not willing to admit that he simply can't do what he once was able to do.
Unfortunately he was born with one major flaw, he has cronic infant broncitis (COPD, now) and last fall had to have a lung drained...and doctors ordered him off the mountains.
That's why he moved from the Rockies to Central PA, with me.
I think that if your image were tied to physical accomplishments, as this guy's appears to be, it would be more challenging.
Well everybody is different. I am just talking generally. If people's self worth is tied up in some physical characteristic, then losing that is going to be difficult. But generally speaking, most men aren't tied to their physical appearance. Those that do would be the exceptions that prove the rule.
I don't think men are as tied to physical appearance, but physical activity? Yeah. Big, time.
you may have gotten in right in the beginningMaybe it's me, maybe it's my lack of understanding of the male mind, but I've run across this a few times with male friends. They don't realize they're aging, or if they do, they think they're doing it a lot better than they are.
Currently I have a dear old friend living with my partner and I, it's temporary for now, but he's here trying to recover/recoup...whatever, and he thinks he's "all that AND a bag of chips" when in all actuality he's only slightly above average. Granted, I think he looks amazing "FOR HIS AGE" but he definitely looks his age.
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