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I'm not sure how you get over it. I've never had it, personally. I just don't give a ****. If they're not with those people any longer, there's a reason. They're with ME now, and that's what I focus on. Not the past. The past is the past. Who they slept with previously is completely irrelevant to my relationship with them.Ok. So how many of you have a limit to when it comes to deciding on a wife/husband do you say no due to how many sex partners they have had? I guess I am a bit insecure and at times feel worthless. I do not have too many sex partners so I know any wife-if there ever will be-will have more partners than I. There are not that many women who are virgins at my age or who are not in relationships or who are not fooling around with random people. So how do you get over that insecurity?
You know my dad after a year of marriage with my mother told her that he did not love her. And I think it had to do with the fact that he loved someone else one of his past lovers. He never forgot about her and after thirty years of marriage he cheated on my mom with this lover from a long time ago. Its a fact that if a woman sees a previous lover regardless of how the relationship ended she is most likely going to try and meet up with him. And that will lead to infidelity.
I have no idea what this is even supposed to mean. Why would you marry someone you don't love and plan on lying and being unfaithful to?So what do you guys say? I figure that it is best to have sex with prostitutes regardless if I get married. I won't stop having sex with random women if I do get married because I know that the difference between the two of us. Is that she will have been in love with a past lover who may still be in her thoughts more than I. If I were to continue having sex with random women while still being married I will not lose anything because I never loved to begin with.
Its a fact that if a woman sees a previous lover regardless of how the relationship ended she is most likely going to try and meet up with him. And that will lead to infidelity.
I married a Virgin, I wouldn't know what that's like. Now that I'm over 30 if my wife were to leave/die I guess I'd have to settle for a spoilt woman... but I'd hate too.
Ok. So how many of you have a limit to when it comes to deciding on a wife/husband do you say no due to how many sex partners they have had? I guess I am a bit insecure and at times feel worthless. I do not have too many sex partners so I know any wife-if there ever will be-will have more partners than I. There are not that many women who are virgins at my age or who are not in relationships or who are not fooling around with random people. So how do you get over that insecurity?
You know my dad after a year of marriage with my mother told her that he did not love her. And I think it had to do with the fact that he loved someone else one of his past lovers. He never forgot about her and after thirty years of marriage he cheated on my mom with this lover from a long time ago. Its a fact that if a woman sees a previous lover regardless of how the relationship ended she is most likely going to try and meet up with him. And that will lead to infidelity.
So what do you guys say? I figure that it is best to have sex with prostitutes regardless if I get married. I won't stop having sex with random women if I do get married because I know that the difference between the two of us. Is that she will have been in love with a past lover who may still be in her thoughts more than I. If I were to continue having sex with random women while still being married I will not lose anything because I never loved to begin with.
I married a Virgin, I wouldn't know what that's like. Now that I'm over 30 if my wife were to leave/die I guess I'd have to settle for a spoilt woman... but I'd hate too.
I for once agree with you MrVicchio.
But as I've come to discover. There are some advantages to having an experienced woman
I married a Virgin, I wouldn't know what that's like. Now that I'm over 30 if my wife were to leave/die I guess I'd have to settle for a spoilt woman... but I'd hate too.
Ok. So how many of you have a limit to when it comes to deciding on a wife/husband do you say no due to how many sex partners they have had? I guess I am a bit insecure and at times feel worthless. I do not have too many sex partners so I know any wife-if there ever will be-will have more partners than I. There are not that many women who are virgins at my age or who are not in relationships or who are not fooling around with random people. So how do you get over that insecurity? You know my dad after a year of marriage with my mother told her that he did not love her. And I think it had to do with the fact that he loved someone else one of his past lovers. He never forgot about her and after thirty years of marriage he cheated on my mom with this lover from a long time ago. Its a fact that if a woman sees a previous lover regardless of how the relationship ended she is most likely going to try and meet up with him. And that will lead to infidelity.
it's absolutely NOT a fact, and don't blame your father's infidelity on the woman. And don't let your parent's life color your judgement.
So what do you guys say? I figure that it is best to have sex with prostitutes regardless if I get married. I won't stop having sex with random women if I do get married because I know that the difference between the two of us. Is that she will have been in love with a past lover who may still be in her thoughts more than I. If I were to continue having sex with random women while still being married I will not lose anything because I never loved to begin with.
I married a Virgin, I wouldn't know what that's like. Now that I'm over 30 if my wife were to leave/die I guess I'd have to settle for a spoilt woman... but I'd hate too.
Ok. So how many of you have a limit to when it comes to deciding on a wife/husband do you say no due to how many sex partners they have had? I guess I am a bit insecure and at times feel worthless. I do not have too many sex partners so I know any wife-if there ever will be-will have more partners than I. There are not that many women who are virgins at my age or who are not in relationships or who are not fooling around with random people. So how do you get over that insecurity? You know my dad after a year of marriage with my mother told her that he did not love her. And I think it had to do with the fact that he loved someone else one of his past lovers. He never forgot about her and after thirty years of marriage he cheated on my mom with this lover from a long time ago. Its a fact that if a woman sees a previous lover regardless of how the relationship ended she is most likely going to try and meet up with him. And that will lead to infidelity.
So what do you guys say? I figure that it is best to have sex with prostitutes regardless if I get married. I won't stop having sex with random women if I do get married because I know that the difference between the two of us. Is that she will have been in love with a past lover who may still be in her thoughts more than I. If I were to continue having sex with random women while still being married I will not lose anything because I never loved to begin with.
I don't care how many people my partner slept with before me and I don't rightly care how many he sleeps with besides me now. As long as I remain the only emotional attachment he has, that's all that matters to me. However, if I find out his distractions move from just ****ing to actually dating in some capacity, he will have to live with the guilt of that lover's death for the rest of his life because I will erase them.
I am not jealous at all but I am very territorial.
I understand that every marriage is different, but just because we love one another does not mean she would not cheat if given the opportunity to do so. Its why I am nervous because if she has had several serious relationships that lasted for more than 2 years. Than there are chances that she still will be hung up on that guy regardless of how time passes. I am not talking about a woman who has sewed her wild oats I am talking about a woman who has never been seriously promiscuous. That she basically will remember and quite possibly want to have a fling if it ever came up with a past lover.Dude.
I don't even know where to begin. Most of that is just so wrong and so far from reality that I don't think I can even unravel it.
I'm sorry your parents had a bad relationship, but that in no way means your life will be anything similar. It certainly does not supply a "general rule" about relationships.
Do NOT get married until you have gotten rid of all this baggage.
There is no way you can have a good marriage with all this crazy crap clogging your brain. You're going to have to set aside your preconceptions first and understand that every woman is an individual, and every marriage is different from every other marriage.
You need Mental Erase(tm). Badly.
You are territorial which is another form of jealousy. So you and your girl are both out and she sees a past lover who is a friend now. What do you do? You start to strut your presense around making sure he knows that she is yours. Am i right?
Nope. I have zero interest in his associations with other people. My only concerns are whether he comes home at night and that nothing impedes the growth and health of our personal relationship with each other. If he has past lovers (which I know he does) or even present lovers, it doesn't concern me in the slightest unless they begin to infringe on my space somehow. :shrug:
Jealousy is born of insecurity with yourself and mistrust of your partner. Neither of those are good things and are both very female traits to have.
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