should breast feeding in public be allowed

[Maximus Zeebra]

It's not? Gosh. Silly me. I thought I saw something about boobies and breast feeding in the thread title. Oh, my bust. It say's "breasts," not "boobies." And given the humerous tone throughout the thread, I thought I was "in the flow of traffic." Silly me.

You see, this is just cultural confusion at play here. In America, boobies are breasts. We have other such names, but I prefer boobies. What names for breasts do they have in your country? And what country would that be?

Is it the tone of the thread and my involvement that you find immature or is immaturity really a holding of Internet grudges from thread to thread?

I personally prefer the word "****".
:mrgreen:

 

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......................CONGRATULATIONS..................................
:2dance: :cheers: :bravo: :2party: :congrats:




*if it was mentioned before, sorry, but this is the first I heard

BWG! Thanks so much! I hope the little guy (it's a boy) is a Democrat. *wink wink*

 

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Well of course my reaction is strong. It's very annoying to deal with looks and have to converse with people (with my child preent) about what I'm doing. With all the crap going on in the world I just can't believe people have issues with public breastfeeding. I remember one woman who just refused to believe my son was 9 months old. I told her, "Well hey maybe that's why he is running around at such an early age....'cause I'm breastfeeding him. " She looked all insulted by that and yet she, a perfect stranger, had felt the need to come up and give me her two cents but somehow my two cents was rude?

As far as I'm concerned if women can walk around with the crack of their arse and a g-string hanging out then how can anyone bat an eye at women breastfeeding? And these same goofs who are "offended" by public breastfeeding are the same goofs who go absolutely insane when someone tells them that bottlefeeding isn't as good. :roll:

And to tell you the truth I didn't give a ratz arse what they thought but I was pretty god damn pissed that some felt the need to come and engage me in conversation about what they thought with my kids right there. Talk about no manners and rudeness.

I agree with you that it is terribly rude for anyone to say something to you. I don't know why you wouldn't have ignored them. By acknowledging their words, you give their words importance. Or you could have said, "Thank you for your thoughts. Have a nice day."

Yes, there are more important issues going on in the world, but does that somehow mean that we can't have feelings about the lesser things that go on? Yeah, I don't like seeing women's G-strings, but in also not liking seeing a woman pop her boob out in public, I don't have to weigh which one is more egregious, do I? If it bothers me, it bothers me. What's a more egregious offense to you may be less of one for me. But to lecture people on how "absurd" they are because of how they feel about this issue since it doesn't match up with your feelings is rather immature, if you ask me.

 

[Stace]

BWG! Thanks so much! I hope the little guy (it's a boy) is a Democrat. *wink wink*

Hey, you didn't tell me you were having a boy! Hooray! Baby boys are awesome! :mrgreen:

 

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Hey, you didn't tell me you were having a boy! Hooray! Baby boys are awesome! :mrgreen:

I think when we discussed this in private, I didn't know then. No prom dress shopping!

 

[Stace]

I think when we discussed this in private, I didn't know then. No prom dress shopping!

Hey, I kept it a secret!!

 

[aps]

Hey, I kept it a secret!!

Stace! When I looked at my post subsequently (and beyond the "edit" phase), I realized that my italics might imply something like that, which I did not mean at all. Please forgive my boo boo! :3oops:

 

[doughgirl]

Congratulations aps..........When is the baby due?

 

[ARealConservative]

ARealConservative ...........thanks for that hilarious joke!!!!


Yea guys like boobs dont they? And bigger is better to many woman, if ya get my drift !!!!!!!!!!! :rofl

Well, unlike man's infatuation, the one you just mentioned has a slightly more practical application to explain itself......if ya get my drift.

 

[talloulou]

Yes, there are more important issues going on in the world, but does that somehow mean that we can't have feelings about the lesser things that go on? Yeah, I don't like seeing women's G-strings, but in also not liking seeing a woman pop her boob out in public, I don't have to weigh which one is more egregious, do I? If it bothers me, it bothers me. What's a more egregious offense to you may be less of one for me. But to lecture people on how "absurd" they are because of how they feel about this issue since it doesn't match up with your feelings is rather immature, if you ask me.

No it's not immature. What's immature is being concerned that a woman who is breastfeeding her baby "shouldn't pop her boob out in public!" There is no rational or logical reason to be offended by a woman feeding her kid. Most women who attempt breastfeeding or state an intention to breastfeed quickly give up once the child is born. Perhaps the fact that they get stares and rude comments if they dare feed the baby while being out of the house contributes to that problem. It is ridiculous and it is absurd and it is you who is immature.

You know breastfeeding for the first year is supposed to make kids smarter and I doubt you're gonna want to go a whole year without leaving your house, and I doubt that everyone around you is gonna always feel like you're being discreet enough, aaaah but then again you're going for a democrat so you probably only need to breastfeed a week before giving up. :mrgreen:

 

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No it's not immature. What's immature is being concerned that a woman who is breastfeeding her baby "shouldn't pop her boob out in public!" There is no rational or logical reason to be offended by a woman feeding her kid. Most women who attempt breastfeeding or state an intention to breastfeed quickly give up once the child is born. Perhaps the fact that they get stares and rude comments if they dare feed the baby while being out of the house contributes to that problem. It is ridiculous and it is absurd and it is you who is immature.

You know breastfeeding for the first year is supposed to make kids smarter and I doubt you're gonna want to go a whole year without leaving your house, and I doubt that everyone around you is gonna always feel like you're being discreet enough, aaaah but then again you're going for a democrat so you probably only need to breastfeed a week before giving up. :mrgreen:

LOL Sometimes your lack of insight makes me laugh. Just FYI--my mother has 4 kids--2 of us are twins, and she breastfed all of us. I asked her today if she ever did it in public. The answer was no.

 

[Stace]

aaaah but then again you're going for a democrat so you probably only need to breastfeed a week before giving up. :mrgreen:

I kind of take offense to that....being a liberal that's been breastfeeding for almost four months now, with plans to continue until at least his first birthday....I'm sure you were only joking, but still.

 

[Stace]

Stace! When I looked at my post subsequently (and beyond the "edit" phase), I realized that my italics might imply something like that, which I did not mean at all. Please forgive my boo boo! :3oops:

It's alright...no harm, no foul! :mrgreen:

 

[talloulou]

I kind of take offense to that....being a liberal that's been breastfeeding for almost four months now, with plans to continue until at least his first birthday....I'm sure you were only joking, but still.

I was just joking.

 

[talloulou]

LOL Sometimes your lack of insight makes me laugh. Just FYI--my mother has 4 kids--2 of us are twins, and she breastfed all of us. I asked her today if she ever did it in public. The answer was no.

How long did she breastfeed all of you? I just can't imagine being trapped in the house all the time. When the babies are older you can plan for feedings more and time your life around them I guess. But infants eat constantly and they tend to be highly unpredictable. Did she just stay home all the time? All my family is out of town so I was on planes alot with my babies and the planes tend to squeeze you all in like sardines so I don't really see how one could get around the public breastfeeding in that scenario and I don't see why anyone should be bothered by something the woman and child can't help except to give up on breastfeeding which seems a shame. Barbara Walters had commented that flying mothers should just feed a bottle for that time on the plane but a baby use to breastfeeding might not take to a bottle for the plane and I just don't see how feeding your kid is offensive.

 

[Stace]

Barbara Walters is on crack. She obviously hasn't met my kid! He used to take an occasional bottle ok, which I loved because it meant that Daddy could feed him sometimes, too. But then one day, he up and decided he didn't like bottles after all....unless Grandma is giving it to him!

 

[talloulou]

Barbara Walters is on crack. She obviously hasn't met my kid! He used to take an occasional bottle ok, which I loved because it meant that Daddy could feed him sometimes, too. But then one day, he up and decided he didn't like bottles after all....unless Grandma is giving it to him!

Barbara Walters is an uptight witch! When I use to travel on planes I would check in and request that I be seated next to a woman. I would explain that I would most likely be breastfeeding and they always sat me next to a woman no problem. I can totally understand why men might feel awkward being stuck right next to a breastfeeding woman on a plane as you are stuck too close together but I can't understand the women getting upset about it. On one flight I had an older woman change seats with a younger woman who couldn't deal. :roll: I just think it's all rather silly.

 

[aps]

How long did she breastfeed all of you? I just can't imagine being trapped in the house all the time. When the babies are older you can plan for feedings more and time your life around them I guess. But infants eat constantly and they tend to be highly unpredictable. Did she just stay home all the time? All my family is out of town so I was on planes alot with my babies and the planes tend to squeeze you all in like sardines so I don't really see how one could get around the public breastfeeding in that scenario and I don't see why anyone should be bothered by something the woman and child can't help except to give up on breastfeeding which seems a shame. Barbara Walters had commented that flying mothers should just feed a bottle for that time on the plane but a baby use to breastfeeding might not take to a bottle for the plane and I just don't see how feeding your kid is offensive.

talloulou, I don't have a problem with women breastfeeding in public, as long as they do it discreetly. The woman at the airport had areas where she could have sat where she wasn't facing the restaurant that I was sitting at. She was in a prime area where people were walking by. It would be one thing if she was covering up to some extent, but she was not. This is how I feel, and I would be lying if I said otherwise. If a woman was sitting next to me on a plane and breastfeeding but doing it discreetly, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

She breastfed us until we were 1 year old. I would have to ask her how she did it without doing it in public. I hadn't thought to ask that question.

 

[talloulou]

talloulou, I don't have a problem with women breastfeeding in public, as long as they do it discreetly. The woman at the airport had areas where she could have sat where she wasn't facing the restaurant that I was sitting at. She was in a prime area where people were walking by. It would be one thing if she was covering up to some extent, but she was not. This is how I feel, and I would be lying if I said otherwise. If a woman was sitting next to me on a plane and breastfeeding but doing it discreetly, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

She breastfed us until we were 1 year old. I would have to ask her how she did it without doing it in public. I hadn't thought to ask that question.

Well I would say that I tried to "hide" a bit with my first in the beginning but as time went on I realized I was always gonna be offending someone no matter where I hid and running to the car and restrooms to feed got damn tiresome after awhile. By my second I really could care less what others thought and rarely noticed peoples looks unless they came up to me and said something. I was pregnant with my second while still breastfeeding my first and finally weaned my first right before the second was born. So there was no break in breastfeeding and it just became a reality and I was so accustomed to it that I didn't have time or concern with any silly notions that I should feel any shame about time or place.

And as far as the woman in the airport....have you been in airport bathrooms? They're disgusting. What should she do sit on a toilet and feed? I'm sure you think there were many spots where she could've gone to get out of your sightline but that probably would've placed her in someone else's sightline and once you've been doing it for awhile the "hiding" can get tiresome pretty quick.

It will be interesting to see if your viewpoint changes once you experience the reality for yourself.

 

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And as far as the woman in the airport....have you been in airport bathrooms? They're disgusting. What should she do sit on a toilet and feed? I'm sure you think there were many spots where she could've gone to get out of your sightline but that probably would've placed her in someone else's sightline and once you've been doing it for awhile the "hiding" can get tiresome pretty quick.

I agree--I would not want to do it in an airport bathroom. There were a whole row of empty seats at the gate facing the windows where people can look out and watch the planes. At least she's not facing the crowds of people passing by.

It will be interesting to see if your viewpoint changes once you experience the reality for yourself.

Yes it will be. You may be underestimating my modesty. I am pretty darn modest.

 

[1069]

I agree--I would not want to do it in an airport bathroom. There were a whole row of empty seats at the gate facing the windows where people can look out and watch the planes. At least she's not facing the crowds of people passing by.



Yes it will be. You may be underestimating my modesty. I am pretty darn modest.

Well, you don't have to breastfeed, if you find the idea distressing.
But if you do, I hope you won't let modesty interfere with your lifestyle; infants need to be breastfed very frequently.
I would recommend, if you plan to breastfeed, that you hook up with La Leche League and see if they have a local chapter in your area. I was involved with LLL when my kids were small, and through it I found a great network of wise, caring, and supportive women.

 

[doughgirl]

I don't care what a woman has to do on an airplane to keep her children quiet. Hell.... breatfeed them at 9 years old if ya have to........nothing is worse than sitting next to or in front of or in back of a screeming child. Whatever works for the woman is good enough for me......if others are offended to bad.

 

[Obama08]

I think it should depend on the location...
If its a crowded public area the women should try and do it in a restroom or away from the main area of people.
Although it is natural, some people may not want their children witnessing a tit being pulled out of a shirt.

 

[1069]

I think it should depend on the location...
If its a crowded public area the women should try and do it in a restroom or away from the main area of people.
Although it is natural, some people may not want their children witnessing a tit being pulled out of a shirt.

To that, I'd probably have to say, "Tough sh!t."
Perhaps they shouldn't take their children out in public, if they have a problem with their children witnessing how babies are fed.
I am fortunate enough to live in one of the very few cities in the US where it is not illegal for women to be topless in public.
Here, women are free to breastfeed anywhere in public, although certain private businesses (Walmart) do not allow breastfeeding on the premises, except in the restroom.
Mothers participating in public life and not being confined to their homes and babies eating on time and not experiencing hunger and discomfort take precedence to wishes of others not to see a tit (they can always avert their eyes, after all).
Not only that, but when you are breastfeeding, if you do not feed your baby on time your breasts become overfull and painful, and then begin to leak (and "leak" is putting it mildly- "gush" might be a more apt description), soiling your clothes and dripping all over the place.
I'd rather have mothers feeding their babies on time, regardless of the locale, than have them staggering around dribbling bodily fluids all over the place in public and potentially contaminating everything with disease.

 

[SpooK]

I don't care what a woman has to do on an airplane to keep her children quiet. Hell.... breatfeed them at 9 years old if ya have to........nothing is worse than sitting next to or in front of or in back of a screeming child. Whatever works for the woman is good enough for me......if others are offended to bad.

I hear that. Just like a week and a half ago I sat next to a young mom with a little cry baby kid. At first I didnt care, but then my ipod battery died. I was hating life!