Still would like to know if you find what the woman above wearing is sexually provocative since she's revealing skin. I mean wouldn't this also turn a lot of men's heads?
CHRIS,
Maybe you can ask Gath our questions since he only seems to be responding to you
Ok Gath, since your focus right now seems to be on date rape and college campuses, please tell me if you think this pic is provocative. The picture below is how most college and high school girls dress to parties. They are not wearing the type of bikini pic you posted, and that pic is not realistic unless the woman was on the boardwalk or the beach. If your gf went out with the girls, would you tell her to change b/c she might attract rapists?
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~Most rapists aren't sociopaths, they just got carried away
~Conservative women(dressed) are the least likely to be raped
~Men will look for the female that's dressed the most promiscous for sex-are you assuming that he won't stop if she says stop/no?
~If a woman dresses provocative she is signaling that she wants sex
You do know that even conservative women have put on some heels and a nice skirt before right? Women don't just dress one way all the time. You may go out and see a lady wearing pants and a shirt one week, run into her a month later and she's wearing a short form fitting dress. Many times women dress how they feel. If it's a Sat night and a woman who normally dresses more conservative, decides to dress a tad more revealing, it shouldn't be a cue that she's on the prowl. Even if a woman is single and dresses sexy to get the attention of a man, it doesn't mean she wants to have sex that night!
vsIt can be discounted.
ChrisL said:The only kind of rape I could see where clothing would play any factor whatsoever is date rape.
Basically Gathomas, I could easily say that a woman who accepts a date from any man is technically putting herself at risk. On that note, perhaps people should have chaperons or something. Really that makes as much sense as the things you are suggesting.
Rape is never the victim's fault or responsibility because, more so than ANYTHING she does, it is the rapist's mentality and just being in the wrong place at the wrong time, and the existence of men who have the mentality that allows them to rape women that is the biggest contributing factor.
Agree here. There are miscommunications where the accused did not have the intention of forcing sex and the victim did feel violated. The only situations I accounted for(honestly hadn't considered this type for the purposes of this particular aspect of rape cases) where those of intent, where the rapist knew consent wasn't present and proceeded anyway.It seems people are attributing rape to a "one size fits all" profile. Though there are more common reasons of anger, control and repression, there are also instances of misinterpretation. Those types typically don't lead to full on rape, though they can instigate sexual assaults.
For instance; horny guy being playfully, teased by inebriated female. She doesn't really want to go all the way, while he's thinking her signaling of "NO", now means "Oh Yes, bring it on!" In her state of increasing intoxication, she's semi unconscious of what's occurring and wakes later, wishing, it hadn't happened and thinks she was raped. Often it amounts to a sexually aggressive male (young) being frustrated and not knowing when to stop.
My point is, females dressing provocatively will get you hit on more often but probably not raped. The amount of rapes occurring on women for their clothing styles are probably a very low percentage. The amount of sexual assaults on younger females for being inexperienced and putting themselves in bad situations, is much more common.
I've noticed that Gath & Chris should get a room at the nearest motel.CHRIS,
Maybe you can ask Gath our questions since he only seems to be responding to you
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If it can play a factor, then it cannot be discounted.
If it can be discounted, it cannot play a factor.
This can only be resolved by you ChrisL, Gathomas88 cannot but point out the contradiction above.
The very first page he claimed it generally was not a factor, and that in NO case is would it justify rape.
I've noticed that Gath & Chris should get a room at the nearest motel.
Both in their 20's, she's an ENFP and he's an INTJ.
It's a match made in heaven.
It would, which is exactly why people have done things that way for most of human history. As I said before, date rape has only really become a major problem since our society began encouraging more generally "loose" sexual behavior in the post 1960s era anyway.
Does this mean that we have to go back to doing things the way they were before? No.
It simply means that women are going to have to put in the extra effort necessary to keep themselves safe in the new and significantly more dangerous sexual environment the modern world has created.
I never denied that.
However, this doesn't change the fact that there are certain things women can do to avoid making themselves obvious targets.
I've noticed that Gath & Chris should get a room at the nearest motel.
Both in their 20's, she's an ENFP and he's an INTJ.
It's a match made in heaven.
Well thanks, but I'm in my 30s. :mrgreen:
Agree here. There are miscommunications where the accused did not have the intention of forcing sex and the victim did feel violated. The only situations I accounted for(honestly hadn't considered this type for the purposes of this particular aspect of rape cases) where those of intent, where the rapist knew consent wasn't present and proceeded anyway.
It seems people are attributing rape to a "one size fits all" profile. Though there are more common reasons of anger, control and repression, there are also instances of misinterpretation. Those types typically don't lead to full on rape, though they can instigate sexual assaults.
For instance; horny guy being playfully, teased by inebriated female. She doesn't really want to go all the way, while he's thinking her signaling of "NO", now means "Oh Yes, bring it on!" In her state of increasing intoxication, she's semi unconscious of what's occurring and wakes later, wishing, it hadn't happened and thinks she was raped. Often it amounts to a sexually aggressive male (young) being frustrated and not knowing when to stop.
My point is, females dressing provocatively will get you hit on more often but probably not raped. The amount of rapes occurring on women for their clothing styles are probably a very low percentage. The amount of sexual assaults on younger females for being inexperienced and putting themselves in bad situations, is much more common.
Agree here. There are miscommunications where the accused did not have the intention of forcing sex and the victim did feel violated. The only situations I accounted for(honestly hadn't considered this type for the purposes of this particular aspect of rape cases) where those of intent, where the rapist knew consent wasn't present and proceeded anyway.
Exactly. It's not a factor in most rapes, but it can be, and sometimes is, a contributing factor in some rapes. The kinds of rapes where this is most common are date rapes; though, even then, it is probably not the major factor involved so much as generally unsafe behavior.
Some posters in this thread are trying to deny even that. I'm sorry, but I'm simply not buying that argument.
Look at it this way. I'm a straight man. Going into a gay club by myself is pretty much always risky.
However, if I go in wearing a skin tight pair of neon pink bicycle shorts and tight T-shirt tied off above my waist, I'm only making it worse, because I am now deliberately attracting the attention of everyone in the room in a sexual fashion. If I'm not actually planning on having sex with anyone, it is simply a bad idea to go out of one's way to give off that impression.
It seems people are attributing rape to a "one size fits all" profile. Though there are more common reasons of anger, control and repression, there are also instances of misinterpretation. Those types typically don't lead to full on rape, though they can instigate sexual assaults.
For instance; horny guy being playfully, teased by inebriated female. She doesn't really want to go all the way, while he's thinking her signaling of "NO", now means "Oh Yes, bring it on!" In her state of increasing intoxication, she's semi unconscious of what's occurring and wakes later, wishing, it hadn't happened and thinks she was raped. Often it amounts to a sexually aggressive male (young) being frustrated and not knowing when to stop.
My point is, females dressing provocatively will get you hit on more often but probably not raped. The amount of rapes occurring on women for their clothing styles are probably a very low percentage. The amount of sexual assaults on younger females for being inexperienced and putting themselves in bad situations, is much more common.
I don't think it really does play a factor. I was only humoring him, and maybe acknowledging that on a rare occasion it might play a small (VERY small) role. Wearing provocative clothing is most certainly NOT a contributing factor in rapes. Rape counselors have stated as much in my links. I would think they would be "experts" in their field.
Bingo!! We can go home now.
Gath, thanks for answering but I want to know if you thought the girl in the pic was dressed provocative and would you tell your GF to change clothes?
Also could you find a pic of a woman who is dressed provocatively? A pic that would be more realistic and not on the beach. Just trying to decipher what clothing is more ''dangerous'' for a woman. Thanks
Again, you're talking about behavior as opposed to what a person is wearing. Most women do wear provocative clothing at the club and it really doesn't play a role in who gets raped.
Exactly. It's not a factor in most rapes, but it can be, and sometimes is, a contributing factor in some rapes. The kinds of rapes where this is most common are date rapes; though, even then, it is probably not the major factor involved so much as generally unsafe behavior.
Some posters in this thread are trying to deny even that. I'm sorry, but I'm simply not buying that argument.
Look at it this way. I'm a straight man. Going into a gay club by myself is pretty much always risky.
However, if I go in wearing a skin tight pair of neon pink bicycle shorts and tight T-shirt tied off above my waist, I'm only making it worse, as I am now deliberately attracting the attention of everyone in the room in an overtly sexual manner. If you're not actually planning on having sex with anyone, it is simply a bad idea to go out of one's way to give off the impression that you might be.
This won't get me assaulted in and of itself, in all likelihood, but it could contribute to a misunderstanding that might increase the likelihood on an assault occurring.
Why do I not believe that you really believe this?
No, men need to take extra efforts to extinguish the sort of misogynistic thinking that leads them to "expect" something on a date, or to assume things about women because of how they are dressed, if what you say is the case. That is disgusting to say that women have to change anything when they are NOT the problem.
Again, you say one thing and then contradict yourself. You obviously put some level of responsibility on the woman (who is hurting no one) instead of putting ALL the blame on the rapist.
It is so annoying, it makes me want to slap you.
It seems people are attributing rape to a "one size fits all" profile. Though there are more common reasons of anger, control and repression, there are also instances of misinterpretation. Those types typically don't lead to full on rape, though they can instigate sexual assaults.
For instance; horny guy being playfully, teased by inebriated female. She doesn't really want to go all the way, while he's thinking her signaling of "NO", now means "Oh Yes, bring it on!" In her state of increasing intoxication, she's semi unconscious of what's occurring and wakes later, wishing, it hadn't happened and thinks she was raped. Often it amounts to a sexually aggressive male (young) being frustrated and not knowing when to stop.
My point is, females dressing provocatively will get you hit on more often but probably not raped. The amount of rapes occurring on women for their clothing styles are probably a very low percentage. The amount of sexual assaults on younger females for being inexperienced and putting themselves in bad situations, is much more common.
Clothes themselves are not going to cause a person to get the wrong signals completely.
But here's the thing I see as the problem with this. It assumes that the guy wouldn't have taken that half-drunk or playful girl home had she not been wearing what she was wearing. Clothes themselves are not going to cause a person to get the wrong signals completely. Did the girl not say no at all during the buildup? Did he force himself on her quickly or take it in steps without her saying no? If she were passed out, would he have raped her still had she been wearing a pair of jeans or a more covering blouse? I would say how forceful she is in declining him or her ability/inability to decline him to begin with would be the real factor, not the clothes.
Bingo!! We can go home now.
Gath, thanks for answering but I want to know if you thought the girl in the pic was dressed provocative and would you tell your GF to change clothes? Also could you find a pic of a woman who is dressed provocatively? A pic that would be more realistic and not on the beach. Just trying to decipher what clothing is more ''dangerous''(in your mind) for a woman. Thanks
You seriously believe that?
If it walks like a slut, and looks like a slut...
Oh yeah, it happens, horny guy going too far because of "hot chick" dressed to reveal, yes way! Rare, probably but no doubt many a privileged celebrity or college jerk has done it.
You go to prison dressed that way and I promise you'll get raped....lol
I don't see where he disagrees that it's generally not a significant factor though.
And to be fair, the Yoga pants thread was about the pros and cons of certain attire in a public school setting. Rape was not really what trigged the provocative attire inappropriateness discussion.
We communicate with our appearance, it's absurd to claim otherwise. And no that never excuses rape (for the how many'th time!)
I didn't have any problem with what she was wearing. For a warm summer day out in public, it'd be absolutely fine.
For walking through a dark alleyway at night, I'd probably opt for something a bit more concealing just to be on the safe side. However, in that case, I'd probably simply go with her anyway. :shrug:
Something along these lines is more of what I was talking about. Not only is it revealing, but it is trashy.
It sends off vibes implying that a woman is sexually available, and not particularly hard to get.
I've seen (admittedly, much more attractive) young women wearing stuff worse than that in downtown Chas on several occasions. It's not terribly uncommon to even run across women in tight "booty shorts," midriff baring tank tops, and stripper heels pounding the strip looking for a good time.
Even if those women aren't looking to have sex per se, they are looking to get attention. If they're not careful to take the right precautions, they run the risk of getting that attention from someone who might misunderstand their intentions.
This could be a contributing factor in that person either not taking "no" for an answer or trying to take advantage.
Yes, but there's provocative and then there's provocative. The latter tends to get more attention from the "wrong" kinds of guys.
I also didn't deny that behavior plays the major role in this.
Here is my view in a nutshell.
See?
I think less "screwing around" in general would be a good thing. I have made no secret of that.
However, I'm hardly suggesting that we all live like the Amish instead. :lol:
If wishes were dollar bills, Chris, we'd all be billionaires. :shrug:
We already prosecute these rapists and make an active point of preaching against their behavior. Rape is still common; depressingly so where the issue we are currently discussing is concerned.
Whether you like it or not, there are certain things a woman is going to have to avoid if she wants to be safe. That's simple reality, and it isn't going to change any time soon. There really isn't anything else to it.
She is potentially hurting herself if she doesn't take care to defend her own best interests.
Again, this is simple reality. Concepts like "blame" don't even enter into the equation.
Should I "turn the other cheek?" :mrgreen:
You seriously believe that?
If it walks like a slut, and looks like a slut...
You can be erm... very sexual or a "Slut" but I don't see how that has anything to do with rape? are slutty woman more desireable? I always assumed a rapist would rape more so due to opertunity...then looks
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