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[windovervocalcords]

What philosophy intrigues you now?

I'm interested in Marshall Rosenberg's work on non-violent communication.

At the beginning of Marshall 's presentation in a Palestinian refugee camp, an angry Palestinian father stood up and screamed, "You murderer!" Using his NVC skills, Marshall Rosenberg sensed that this man was venting his anger toward America at him personally. Instead of reacting defensively, Rosenberg connected with the man's deep feelings of frustration and his need to be heard. Al most instantly, the tension in the room was diffused and a productive conversation about difficult issues facing those in the camp continued, with both sides sharing and listening respectfully. At the end of the evening the same man who had yelled "Murderer" invited Marshall home to a Ramadan dinner. Focused on shared human needs and heartfelt connection with others, NVC promises to help guide us to a more peaceful world.

visionary leader who's mission- world peace, nonviolent communications: Marshall Rosenberg

 

[Lita456]

What philosophy intrigues you now?

I'm interested in Marshall Rosenberg's work on non-violent communication.

At the beginning of Marshall 's presentation in a Palestinian refugee camp, an angry Palestinian father stood up and screamed, "You murderer!" Using his NVC skills, Marshall Rosenberg sensed that this man was venting his anger toward America at him personally. Instead of reacting defensively, Rosenberg connected with the man's deep feelings of frustration and his need to be heard. Al most instantly, the tension in the room was diffused and a productive conversation about difficult issues facing those in the camp continued, with both sides sharing and listening respectfully. At the end of the evening the same man who had yelled "Murderer" invited Marshall home to a Ramadan dinner. Focused on shared human needs and heartfelt connection with others, NVC promises to help guide us to a more peaceful world.

visionary leader who's mission- world peace, nonviolent communications: Marshall Rosenberg

Don't we wish they all turned out that way? (o:

Unfortunately, people are too angry to want to be able to "talk it out" - they're angry, we're angry, no one wants to give in an inch.

 

[windovervocalcords]

Don't we wish they all turned out that way? (o:

Unfortunately, people are too angry to want to be able to "talk it out" - they're angry, we're angry, no one wants to give in an inch.

Lita--

The Palestinian man did not start out 'wanting to talk it out'. He started out angry and unwilling to give an inch.

This is just one example of how using non-violent communication works to create peace.

I am so excited about this man's work!

 

[Goshin]

What philosophy intrigues you now?

I'm interested in Marshall Rosenberg's work on non-violent communication.

At the beginning of Marshall 's presentation in a Palestinian refugee camp, an angry Palestinian father stood up and screamed, "You murderer!" Using his NVC skills, Marshall Rosenberg sensed that this man was venting his anger toward America at him personally. Instead of reacting defensively, Rosenberg connected with the man's deep feelings of frustration and his need to be heard. Al most instantly, the tension in the room was diffused and a productive conversation about difficult issues facing those in the camp continued, with both sides sharing and listening respectfully. At the end of the evening the same man who had yelled "Murderer" invited Marshall home to a Ramadan dinner. Focused on shared human needs and heartfelt connection with others, NVC promises to help guide us to a more peaceful world.

visionary leader who's mission- world peace, nonviolent communications: Marshall Rosenberg

Not entirely new. Back when I was a cop, we learned "verbal jujitsu", a communication method designed to deal with uncooperative subjects, with an object of achieving compliance without having to go physical.

One of the first lessons, however, and emphasized throughout, was that it doesn't always work and you have to be always ready in case the other guy suddenly decides to take it physical.

Communication only works when both parties are willing to talk rather than fight. Negotiation only works when both parties prefer a settlement to violence. Diplomacy is good, but it has its limits.

 

[Lita456]

Lita--

The Palestinian man did not start out 'wanting to talk it out'. He started out angry and unwilling to give an inch.

This is just one example of how using non-violent communication works to create peace.

I am so excited about this man's work!

No, I understand that.....that's how it started out, but it was worked out... I meant people today, many don't want to work things out, and are just angry, it would be nice if they followed Marshall Rosenberg and paid attention to it.

 

[windovervocalcords]

No, I understand that.....that's how it started out, but it was worked out... I meant people today, many don't want to work things out, and are just angry, it would be nice if they followed Marshall Rosenberg and paid attention to it.

Well, don't give up on human beings and the peace movement. Rosenberg is making an impact all over the world--in many countries.

Take heart. Don't get too depressed and cynical.

 

[Intransigent Atheist]

Thank you for posting this topic. This may seem trite in comparison to what this man is doing, but I have seen similar techniques used by my partner in her therapist practice to help couples resolve disputes.

 

[OxymoronP]

Well, linguistic Jui Jitsu is a great tool. Turning enemies into friends is one of the most powerful weapons around just as Sun Tzu relayed in his Art of War.

 

[Oftencold]

I'm interested in Marshall Rosenberg's work on non-violent communication.

Nonsense.

Violence is an extremely effective form of communicative, which when used properly, ends many arguments. It has always, is always and always will be the preferred form by certain groups of people.

 

[Lita456]

Well, don't give up on human beings and the peace movement. Rosenberg is making an impact all over the world--in many countries.

Take heart. Don't get too depressed and cynical.

Trust me, I try not to, but I always seem to get disappointed Wind.....

 

[windovervocalcords]

Trust me, I try not to, but I always seem to get disappointed Wind.....

Just consider that over fifty countries have trained people in non-violent communication......this is a growing phenomena.

Peace is possible, one heart and mind at a time, one community at a time.

 

[First Thought]

Nonsense.

Violence is an extremely effective form of communicative, which when used properly, ends many arguments. It has always, is always and always will be the preferred form by certain groups of people.

Maybe I missed it, but the OP does not say that violence is not an effective form of communication.

 

[windovervocalcords]

Maybe I missed it, but the OP does not say that violence is not an effective form of communication.

We are talking about non-violent communication and peacemaking, and philosophies and trainings that inspire us.

Are you saying that you ascribe to a philosophy that promotes violence as an effective form of communication?