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Post Conception Opt-Out FOR MEN

Thanks again for showing that you really only want women to 'pay the consequence' that suits some men's agendas. πŸ‘ πŸ‘ πŸ‘
Who is us? LMAO, YOU keep posting that lie and cant back it up and with anything that makes it factual.
 
He KNOWS she decides, so if he's not willing to accept her decision...why does he sleep with her? Isnt he responsible for his decision? If not, why not?

He knows she'll act in her best interests...why doesnt he act in his best interests?
LMAO sounds like every failed anti-equality pro-discrimination argument ever

"women, blacks, gays etc etc KNOW what the current rules are, lower pay/no service/cant vote/ less rights / cant get an abortion in this state , job termination etc etc why dont they just take it . . . . . . . . blah blah blah
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Of course it's a consequence, it's an expensive, painful procedure with the potential for infertility, infection, and even death. It's just happens to be a 'consequence' you resent like hell. And that some men resent like hell that they cant demand women accept

Thanks again for showing that you really only want women to 'pay the consequence' that suits some men's agendas. πŸ‘ πŸ‘ πŸ‘

So spare us the BS.
The BS is yours in this case."(I)nfertility, infection, and even death" are possible consequences of both maintaining a pregnancy and abortion, but the choices themselves are not consequences. Abortion is never a consequence, but an action that can have consequences. Same with pregnancy. Getting pregnant is a consequence. Choosing to remain pregnant is an action that can have consequences. And I am not suggesting that consequences only come from one's own decisions or choices. One can be pregnant and not know and still will have to deal with all the possible consequences of being pregnant. Likewise, one can suffer the consequences of another's actions, such as a broken jaw when another punches them without provocation. I will make one exception, but that is more based upon technicality. A miscarriage is in truth and medically called an abortion, a natural abortion. That type of abortion is indeed a possible consequence of being pregnant. However, I doubt that is ever what you meant in all the times that you have claimed an abortion as a consequence.
 
But they are not precedents for what you are calling for since what you are calling for is an abdication of responsibility not a transfer of it. The precedencies all show a transfer of responsibility. Even the California ones.
A precedent need only show that it is possible for a man and woman to sign a contract preconception that voids the man's responsibility post conception


It's close enough
 
Because she freely took it from him. After that she is permitted to opt out of being a parent. He should have that same right. Otherwise equality is just a meaningless fluff word.
Actually no she does not. Again, if she had that right to opt out of being a parent, she could do that for any of her genetic offspring post conception, pre-birth, regardless of where they were gestating. The fact that she she cannot if that genetic offspring is being gestated in a surrogate woman shows that the right is not one of divesting themselves of parental responsibilities. And I can all but guarantee you that if we ever got to the point of artificial womb technology, she would not be allowed, short of adoption, be allowed to divest herself of her parental responsibilities. The key factor would be that the ZEF is not in her body. Do not mistake the result of exercising a right as the right itself.
 
A precedent need only show that it is possible for a man and woman to sign a contract preconception that voids the man's responsibility post conception


It's close enough
The precedent would also have to show that it happen within the bounds of physical intercourse, as opposed to outside it. You cannot ignore all other factors when making the claim of precedent. Can you show me in law where such a contract has been recognized by the law in any state? Now I will say that we both could probably come up with many cases where it effectively happened because the law never got involved; i.e. since the woman never went to the state for aid, it was never brought up to show that the state did not recognize the contract. But that doesn't show that the contract was valid. A crime not reported is still a crime (parallel, not direct comparison).
 
The precedent would also have to show that it happen within the bounds of physical intercourse, as opposed to outside it. You cannot ignore all other factors when making the claim of precedent. Can you show me in law where such a contract has been recognized by the law in any state? Now I will say that we both could probably come up with many cases where it effectively happened because the law never got involved; i.e. since the woman never went to the state for aid, it was never brought up to show that the state did not recognize the contract. But that doesn't show that the contract was valid. A crime not reported is still a crime (parallel, not direct comparison).
It has happened in California and other states. It is referred to as traditional surrogacy rather than gestational surrogacy. It has happened only because there is no law preventing it and some judges have upheld the contracts.


But it is a very gray area of law that needs to be codified clearly
 
It has happened in California and other states. It is referred to as traditional surrogacy rather than gestational surrogacy. It has happened only because there is no law preventing it and some judges have upheld the contracts.


But it is a very gray area of law that needs to be codified clearly
Already gave you that link and showed that California requires the sperm to go through a physician in order for the transfer of parental rights to be valid. Post 1287 to be exact.
 
Already gave you that link and showed that California requires the sperm to go through a physician in order for the transfer of parental rights to be valid. Post 1287 to be exact.

TRADITIONAL SURROGACY IN CALIFORNIA

Traditional Surrogacy is permitted in California because no statute or published case law prohibits it. The Intended Parent may file a parentage order (pre or post-birth), but it would be at the discretion of the court whether and when to grant it.

 

TRADITIONAL SURROGACY IN CALIFORNIA

Traditional Surrogacy is permitted in California because no statute or published case law prohibits it. The Intended Parent may file a parentage order (pre or post-birth), but it would be at the discretion of the court whether and when to grant it.

Very good, and my link showed that it is only considered such if the sperm goes through a physician or sperm donor clinic. Show me the California law that provides for physical intercourse as the medium by which the sperm may be donated, and parental responsibilities transferred. Furthermore, surrogacy is the woman, not the man. Traditional vs gestational surrogacy describes whether the woman is genetically related to the offspring or not. So that also holds no precedence on a case for a man abdicating his parental responsibilities.
 
On this we agree. Subsequent possible decisions to a given consequence are not a consequence in and of themselves.
Agreed. I just woke up and about to head out for a walk. 4:30 am. Nobody out for another hour at least. Love it.
 
Believe as you wish.

Not at all. I would prefer a woman give their child up for adoption rather than have an abortion. There are plenty of couples who want to adopt a baby.
Tough noogies for them. Women are not broodmares for the barren.
 
What if he says, before he comes, is "I want all my sperm back" and she does not give it? Then that is stealing. She could be brought up on charges.
LOL...

He better pull out then before he gives it to her.
 
Actually while I think that case is very unfair, it 100% reinforces what I've posted about the child's rights superseding any prior contract. (post 1278) It's an unfortunate but perfect example.

It reiterates that if there isnt a commitment from 2 parents to support the child as the child's rights are written, then the court will still find the other parent and hold them accountable.

Sad, I hope that that does not become precedent for sperm donation but OTOH, I dont care that much since I dont really care if people can reproduce 'naturally.' There are 100,000 kids in the US waiting to be adopted and it's not like we need more people.

Thank you.



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The problem is not enough people want to adopt children. There is an age barrier and the older the child gets, the hgarder it is to find a parent to adopt them. There are more than enough people who want to adopt infant babies though, so they can raise them from infancy.
 
Yes, the laws as they stand are exactly what you say. Time to change those laws to reflect modern times and the equality we at least we say we prize. The laws are sexist as they stand now. The topic of this thread is changing those laws - not abiding by the ones as they are now.

You've never answered why she has no responsibility for picking a man with which to have sex (not your fluff word "sleep with"). The f-word would even be a more accurate choice of word as that is all they are doing. Giving the men the choice would dictate woman know the men better so they can choose better quality f-partners. If they want to use men instead of a vibrator then that choice - and all that follows - is all on her. Don't act like women are the victims here with zero self control and brain cells to pick a man who will willingly support his offspring. Not really such a tall order when you think of it.
The asshole who sired me promised the douche he impregnated that he would marry. In her 8th month, he ran off and married a woman who gave birth to his daughter 3 weeks after I was born. Anyone can promise the world, but renege when the time comes.
 
The asshole who sired me promised the douche he impregnated that he would marry. In her 8th month, he ran off and married a woman who gave birth to his daughter 3 weeks after I was born. Anyone can promise the world, but renege when the time comes.
There is a difference between what the douche's responsibilities are and whether he lives up to them. The fact that he run out on his responsibilities doesn't negate the fact that he had them. We aren't talking about whether rights and responsibilities get enforced, just whether they exist, are equal between men and women and what they actually are.
 
The asshole who sired me promised the douche he impregnated that he would marry. In her 8th month, he ran off and married a woman who gave birth to his daughter 3 weeks after I was born. Anyone can promise the world, but renege when the time comes.

This sounds like a case of the "human vibrator" thing I was talking about - using a man as a tool instead of using a tool that won't result in pregnancy to achieve the big O. To me that speaks volumes of the nature of the character of both the woman and the man. Of course it isn't PC to questions a woman's character - only the man's character is allowed to be questioned. Good thing what you choose to do with your life isn't embedded in your DNA and you are free to choose your life from this day forward - regardless of what happened to you in the past and the solid footing you were denied. Build your own solid footing.
 
That is only because the laws are sexist and written blatantly in her favor... bot I have schooled you on this for years now. So you know and choose to lie.

LOL
You have failed to do so every single time you've attempted this. Dont lie.

Or...post it. Or post it again. Biology is unfair and laws cant change that. OTOH, I posted the laws that protect the child's rights and destroy your idea of an opt-out...yet you refuse to acknowledge that. That or anything else that dismantles your silly, selfish proposal.

But hey: show me the sexist laws. Which laws are sexist? Be specific. Cuz the ones related to abortion cant apply to men, so cant be sexist.

And then show me how you believe your opt-out as law would ever supersede the child's rights. If you want to change the law, it's the child's rights you need to go after, to weaken. That will be popular! πŸ˜† πŸ˜† πŸ˜†




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Very good, and my link showed that it is only considered such if the sperm goes through a physician or sperm donor clinic. Show me the California law that provides for physical intercourse as the medium by which the sperm may be donated, and parental responsibilities transferred. Furthermore, surrogacy is the woman, not the man. Traditional vs gestational surrogacy describes whether the woman is genetically related to the offspring or not. So that also holds no precedence on a case for a man abdicating his parental responsibilities.
We are going on circles



I want a NEW law
 
And until she is held equally accountable your "argument" is meaningless - there's a canyon of legal disparity between the male and female. Either you want equal rights or you don't. She knew going in that pregnancy was a likelihood - she can absolve herself of that likelihood - he should be allowed to too.

Name the unfair laws that dont pertain to abortion? Because the right to abortion is protected by the Const.

Remember, the is a choice men should be given. What percentage of men do you think will opt out and take this choice? If that number is significantly high - why are those types of men getting laid in the first place? Do women have so little common sense in choosing sex partners and self control when it comes to sex?

Almost all. And your judgements about men and women have zero to do with this discussion. Those are 'your feelings.' No one cares and they dont affect the law.

Realize the number one reason given for women to choose abortion is financial. Give men the same choice so equal rights can have some meaning.

So? The number one reason men want to opt-out is financial. What is your point? Pregnancy wont destroy a man's health or kill him. It wont affect his ability to keep a job. See? Sooo so unfail...to women, but we're not complaining.



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Yes, the laws as they stand are exactly what you say. Time to change those laws to reflect modern times and the equality we at least we say we prize. The laws are sexist as they stand now.

Which laws not pertaining to abortion are sexist? Name some?
The topic of this thread is changing those laws - not abiding by the ones as they are now.

You've never answered why she has no responsibility for picking a man with which to have sex (not your fluff word "sleep with").

Same question applies to him so it's not valid. And you havent answered my questions, please do.

The f-word would even be a more accurate choice of word as that is all they are doing. Giving the men the choice would dictate woman know the men better so they can choose better quality f-partners. If they want to use men instead of a vibrator then that choice - and all that follows - is all on her. Don't act like women are the victims here with zero self control and brain cells to pick a man who will willingly support his offspring. Not really such a tall order when you think of it.
I'm not interested in your feelings here. They have nothing to do with the law. You have not yet told me why men dont act in their own best interests and CHOOSE not to have sex with a woman. And then you also wont explain why he shouldn't be held accountable for choosing to take that risk. Please answer these questions. I know that you wont...because then you cant keep blaming the women.



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On this we agree. Subsequent possible decisions to a given consequence are not a consequence in and of themselves.
Yes they are in this case, because she only has 4 options, all are painful and can kill or do major health damage, and she HAS to pick one...and she doesnt even have a choice if she miscarries or dies.

So for this issue, she cannot escape consequences if there is a pregnancy, period.



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And then show me how you believe your opt-out as law would ever supersede the child's rights. If you want to change the law, it's the child's rights you need to go after, to weaken. That will be popular! πŸ˜† πŸ˜† πŸ˜†
Kind of funny that what is best for the child never seems to come up in these discussions, isn't it? Rather, only who should 'win' the battle between two people who no longer (or never did) care for each other.
 
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