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So if a female is flailing away at you and flinging dishes at you you should, as a self controlled male, just stand there and be a target? I've seen more than my share of guys with lumps on their head for daring to turn their back and walk out as "sweetie pie" bashed him with a telephone or a kitchen knife or, in one memorable case, a dildo.
As am I. I am simply pointing out that in a divorce case having criminal allegations, in the form of pending charges from the state, can be a motivation for one party to make such allegations against the other. Why assume that anything illegal actually happened?
That's no excuse fot a ho to go crazy. If she don't want a dude to go upside her head, she needs to behave.
If ya can't put him in jail, kill him in the media and maybe someone will get lucky and off the guy. Sounds about right.
Dildo !! That's hysterical. People are frkn nuts. If you can stop her from hurting you long enough to leave. That is the best course of action in my opinion. As to the question of who is in the wrong. If the female initiates the violence, then clearly she is the one in the wrong. But for a man to overpower her and do anything more than remove the threat and live is unwise.
And women need to control their physical selves, because if you anger a man to the point of rage and THEN initiate violence against him, you are invoking a self-fulfilling prophecy by doing the very things most likely to CAUSE him to become violent... and if you throw the first blow in such a circumstance, you have only yourself to blame for what follows. Don't expect a man to stand there while you spend an hour calling him every vile and hateful thing you can imagine, then proceed to slap him, spit on him, break lamps over his head and threaten to cut off his genitalia.
We don't expect a 200 lb man to take that off a 100 lb man without response.... why expect a man to take such extreme abuse, violence and assault from a women simply because she's not as muscular? We should not expect it.
But back to my original theme... nobody needs to be abusing anybody, domestically, and those who initiate such abuse are the abusers and the ones at fault.
What you are failing to comprehend is that a lot of women don't allow the man to back down. The more he backs off the more pissed off and violent they get.
She was the one who thought it was important to make their impending divorce public.
That would piss me off.
Yet it is easier for the woman to call the police, allege threats/acts of violence and have your unhappy man ass barred from entering the once blissful household.
I wonder what other dirty laundry, especially regarding the TM case might come out that they shared together if the animosity between them continues.
As I said before, many women make the simple process of leaving difficult. They end up so incredibly focused on whatever they see as the problem that when he tries to leave she just ramps things up all the more. There are guys like that too but it happens FAR more with women.
I wonder what other dirty laundry, especially regarding the TM case might come out that they shared together if the animosity between them continues.
So you are endorsing that whole "but she provoked me" mentality?
Pretty common story where the wife decides not to press charges and has to lie and say nothing happened.
Link?
I actually am yes. But my first instinct is to protect against real physical harm. The reality it that you can do more harm then me.
The woman is just as responsible for controlling herself but if she loses it a man needs to be able to just leave.
I had a man throw me against a wall and shove me into a shower and my response was to quietly walk to the phone and call the police. I tried to calm him down and he wouldn't have it. My only recourse was to call the police because he couldn't stop himself. He was very jealous and felt threatened when there was no need.
I don't doubt this. If a man can stop her without loosing control and really hurting her he certainly has a right too. I would say using your physical strength beyond what was required to remove her as a threat. Meaning, taking her weapon
If ya can't put him in jail, kill him in the media and maybe someone will get lucky and off the guy. Sounds about right.
The asshole punched his father-in-law in the face possibly breaking his nose. It doesn't matter if she pleads to let him go and claims him to be an angel ...that's assault.
He' going to jail.
I acknowledge that there are inequities here but any other course allows a man to administer a reaction that could be deadly. It is not an equitable fight. So given the reality of the inequality a man should have a little honor, acknowledge his advantage and leave. It's not like she could physically stop you from leaving.
Nonsense.
My wife once physically blocked the door. The only way to leave would have been to physically pry her loose, likely leaving bruises. On another occasion she stole my keys and threw them away.
Also, it is hard to simply walk away when she uses that chance to throw heavy **** at the back of your head. Just sayin'.
I acknowledge that there are inequities here but any other course allows a man to administer a reaction that could be deadly. It is not an equitable fight. So given the reality of the inequality a man should have a little honor, acknowledge his advantage and leave. It's not like she could physically stop you from leaving.
Sounds like we both may be too personally embedded in the receiving end of abuse to be objective.
Sorry you experienced that as well. I can understand the frustration of being accused of something of which you are not guilty based on nothing more then stereotypical behavior based on gender.
My ex-husband married a crazy woman and most of my sisters ( I have 5) are crazy ass b**ches. I get it. It's just that if you are going to try to come up with laws that protect the person who is most often physically weaker first, because they are most threatened even if their numbers are fewer, then you have to give more responsibility to men. Sorry, that's messed up but it's reality. I would hope that the system would look at the evidence more objectively and not gender stereotype but hell, they racially stereotype so clearly that's not something we can count on.
Yep. Somebody should leave, or at least serously chill out.
Yes, the last two are sisters.
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