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Ever been to St. Lawrence County? I feel safer in Harlem.
No idea of the county, but very early in life, just entering my twenties, I happened to venture from my large city to a really tiny economically dying upstate NY town - staying a bit.
I was taken back by the despair and lack of opportunity - or even hope - for the small crowd of young people I ran with. Half of their peers had moved away, and the small group left was like a miserable, unhappy, desperate, dysfunctional, inter-related family. I was surprised to find that due to their being such a small limited same-age cohort of only 15-20, many of them had dated each other over the years! I was taken back by that.
And now the girls were all paying attention to the new guys in town, much to the chagrin of the local boys who often were their ex's or their "sometimes thing"! Yow, the emotions often flew! It became tedious as hell, and pretty damn uncomfortable.
I swear, the desperation & despair was highly palpable in everything we did. Right then & there I blessed my days of being a city-boy. I sometimes, as an adult, toy-around with the idea of retiring in a more rural area. But I can't imagine being young in that situation. I felt for those young people. Even more so, when just before I left two of them (separately) asked me to take them with me "to see the city". I politely refrained.
Life for teens & early twenties in places like that must be crushing. But this was a very, very, small dying town. Hopefully larger or more economically viable small towns don't suffer from what I saw in that little back-water hamlet I was in.
That experience stayed with me until today.