Aurora151989
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Aurora151989 said:couldn't find a section for this so here goes
Why is it that now, social services has parents so afraid of being arrested that they can't even discipline their kids correctly?
Old and wise said:I don't think anything was said about 'beating' your kids. There is nothing wrong with an occasional spanking when they deserve it.
I got spanked many times when I was young and it made me a better person because I deserved it. And I thank my parents for doing it instead of ignoring me like so many parents do these days.
Perhaps if parents disciplined their kids once in a while, there wouldn't be as many brats as there is now.
Aurora151989 said:couldn't find a section for this so here goes
Why is it that now, social services has parents so afraid of being arrested that they can't even discipline their kids correctly? Kids aren't dumb, they know that if their parent tries to discipline them, they can always cry abuse, and this results in kids who are simply out of control. We blame the parents for the kid's behavior but we should really blame child protective services for putting such fear into parents.
alphieb said:There are other ways to discipline your kids besides spanking. Try time out or taking something away from them, that can be very painful. When you get upset with someone in a social setting or work, do you hit them? Of course not....so why should we hit our kids? What kind of message does that send? Battery is a crime.
Old and wise said:Lack of parental guidance and lack of discipline is the reason why there are so many wild kids in todays society.
But, there are a lot of parents that have never grown up either.
mixedmedia said:I agree with these statements. But I don't think spanking or not spanking is the issue. It may sound a little new age-y or silly, but I think many people are simply out of touch with meaningful, purposeful ideas. They don't reflect anymore. Our values are all out of whack - and I'm not talking about "family values." Superficiality and materialistic obsession have made people cynical and to a large degree disrespectful of each other. In kids today it so readily apparent. Even the very young. Not sure I worded that right....
Brutus said:Hmm... I'd have to say the issue is a toss up. On one hand, parents should be able to punish their children in any way they see fit (as long as it does no long-term damage) to make sure that their children behave properly. Yet, on the other hand, children (or anyone for that matter) should never deny an action out of fear. For example, kids who are underage and don't drink out of fear are just as bad as those that do, because instead of seeing that it is wrong they blindly follow. Every action should be done out of principle. Maybe the best remedy for bad actions is a good long discussion that your child is engaged in. Let them talk, and make their arguements the best that they can, then refute their arguements and make sure they understand what they did wrong and why it was wrong (though this can only be applied at an older age). "because I said so" is the crappiest lamest excuse for an arguement, and it only makes your child resent what you told him or her to do more.
Aurora151989 said:Kids aren't dumb, they know that if their parent tries to discipline them, they can always cry abuse,
alphieb said:There are other ways to discipline your kids besides spanking. Try time out or taking something away from them, that can be very painful. When you get upset with someone in a social setting or work, do you hit them? Of course not....so why should we hit our kids? What kind of message does that send? Battery is a crime.
Brutus said:Yet, on the other hand, children (or anyone for that matter) should never deny an action out of fear.
Do you have a son over two?
Maybe the best remedy for bad actions is a good long discussion that your child is engaged in. .
teacher said:Do you have a son over two?
teacher said:Do you have a son over two?
ddoyle00 said:How many times have you heard "Well, my parents spanked me and Im gonna spank my kids"?
When a child does someting wrong, the adult gets upset and spanking the kid offers instant gratification for the adult.
There are different and less painful ways to instil order and discipline in children other than physical punishment. It would be nice to see a study done where parents who physically discipline their kids try a different approach for six months and record the data. But doing it just cause their daddy beat them is wrong.
tecoyah said:Oh...Timmy.....I love you......SMACK
What does this tell a child....and how does this correspond to Violence in society?
We will NEVER hit our children....NEVER
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