Opposing political views and marriage

[americanwoman]

Can people who have opposing views make a relationship work? Could a neo-con and liberal find true love together or will their political views get in the way of a great relationship? What do you think?

 

[WI Crippler]

Can people who have opposing views make a relationship work? Could a neo-con and liberal find true love together or will their political views get in the way of a great relationship? What do you think?

Just depends on the level of severity of their views. My wife and I have opposing views on some things, but we don't get so worked up about the stuff it interferes with normal day to day life.
If peoples identities are formed along their political views and they cannot accept people with different views, then I don't see it working out so well.

 

[Stace]

Just depends on the level of severity of their views. My wife and I have opposing views on some things, but we don't get so worked up about the stuff it interferes with normal day to day life.
If peoples identities are formed along their political views and they cannot accept people with different views, then I don't see it working out so well.

Ditto. Hubby and I disagree on a few things, but it's not a major part of our life. We're not so wrapped up in politics that it causes any issues.

 

[talloulou]

My husband and I frequently argue about stuff in the newspaper, on the radio, ect. Politically he's a moderate that often leans to the left. I lean to the right. There have been occasions where we simply just have to drop the issue and agree to disagree or the arguements would never end. The worst is around voting time. I don't care who he votes for but he actually gets really upset if I'm voting for someone he considers to be the "wrong" one. Or if it's an issue where you vote to approve or reject something on the local level he gets a little nuts when we disagree insisting that my vote is cancelling his out. :rofl

I don't think I could be married to someone who was far left as that would be too much! :shock: But since we're both basically moderates who lean in slightly different directions it keeps things interesting. Too much agreeing might be boring.

 

[FallingPianos]

my grandparents were political opposites. they were also the sweetest couple I've ever known.

 

[1069]

My husband and I are both pretty extreme liberals.
As time has gone on, he's become more of a libertarian type liberal, however, and I've become more of a socialist.
I guess we still agree on a lot of the basic things.
Politics aren't as important to him as they are to me; he's not as involved in activism, he doesn't like to debate or discuss politics as much as I do.
Lately, his hobbyhorse has been animal rights issues, to the exclusion of nearly everything else.

 

[CaptainCourtesy]

I think it depends on whether the views transcend and overtake the relationship. If at the end of the day, the relationship trumps the couple's individual political positions, then the views can be dealt with.

 

[bhkad]

I could easily get along with a liberal woman as long as she was pro-life and supported the War on Terror & the GWB.

Otherwise I think my lack of respect for her would grow in time to become real contempt. Or else I would never think of her as my loving partner, just a **** buddy.

I REEEEALLLLLY can't understand some of you who could just put aside the fact that a woman was ok with convenience murders of babies. And I would never support or encourage someone who was so intellectually lacking as to make a mistake about our national security and call Iraq an unnecessary war. To me that would be like someone removing their car's air filter and throwing it away and not replacing it when the old one got clogged with dirt.

You need SOMETHING there to keep the bad stuff from getting where it doesn't belong.

We need a NON-EXTREMIST government in Iraq to keep Iran from taking over and expanding their extremist empire.

 

[Cold Highway]

I couldnt be with someone who is an evangelical scum bag and believes discrimination against gays is ok.

 

[mikhail]

Argueing about politics for me is more like debating than argueing in a i hate your guts right now way.

 

[rivrrat]

My BF and I disagree on some things. He has much more of a militaristic "kill em all" attitude. Really our main disagreement is on the war, though he's slowly coming to my side. Muahahahaha He does have insight I don't have though, since he fought over there for a couple years. However, that also has led to some prejudice on his part that I do not like to see or hear from him.

I couldn't be with a really religious person, because I just wouldn't be able to fully respect them I don't think. Not on the level I'd need to. And I'm sure they'd get sick of me rolling my eyes all the time.

I'm really not sure I could be with someone who had socialist or totalitarian views, either. Not if they were extreme. I could deal with someone who was anti-choice, but we'd just have to agree to never talk about it. I would end up getting far too upset with their desire to not allow me to control my own body, so again.. the respect thing would come into play.

I guess in short, it really depends just how extreme they are and on what issues. I'm in the middle, so I can tolerate some "leftness" and some "rightness".

 

[americanwoman]

Too much agreeing might be boring.

I agree with that. Me and my husband agree on many things but also disagree and I love to argue politics with him. We're both independent moderates but he is slighty more conservative, but ask him and he's more liberal :roll: :mrgreen: . It's fun but at the end of the day it doesn't interfere with our relationship. He's gets me real works up sometimes but it's all in good fun.


I don't think I could be with someone who was a neo-con or some kind of extreme liberal or just intolerant of other views. I would like someone to be open minded to all views.

 

[bandaidwoman]

My husband is a libertarian/republican, I am liberal. He is southern baptist and I am a Diest with Buddist philosophies. We have been happily married with children for over ten years. Great sex life, great conversations, we respect each others views.

 

[Thelost1]

Most people aren't as into politics as we are, so i assume that it would't matter for them.

However, there are polls that have consistantly shown that people don't want their kids to marry atheists, though, so who knows?

I would like to see Michael Moore and Ann Coulter get together, though.

 

[RightinNYC]

I used to have occasional angry hate-sex with a girl whose parents worked in the Clinton White House and who was the president of a Young Democrat organization. That was sustainable for a couple hours at a time, but it wouldn't have worked in the long term.

On the other hand, I've dated girls who I had fundamental political differences with where it wasn't a problem at all. I think the hardest is when one person is very into politics and the other isn't at all.

And it can work for some people, just look at James Carville and Mary Matalin.

 

[Jerry]

Can people who have opposing views make a relationship work? Could a neo-con and liberal find true love together or will their political views get in the way of a great relationship? What do you think?

If 2 people are just siting at the table talking, then sure, they could make it work.

If she wants to abort his child against his will, there's a problem.
If he doesn't take monogamy seriously, but she does, there's a problem.
If one is a Conservative Jew and the other is a liberal Muslim........

 

[Real Korimyr #9]

If 2 people are just siting at the table talking, then sure, they could make it work.

If she wants to abort his child against his will, there's a problem.
If he doesn't take monogamy seriously, but she does, there's a problem.
If one is a Conservative Jew and the other is a liberal Muslim........

Exactly. It isn't political views that cause the problem... it's differences in moral views and in lifestyles that cause a problem.