Kelzie said:
You didn't say anything directly about my family, but you did state that a family isn't whole without both genders. Mine was. My mom as a female was irrelevant. My mom as a caregiver who loved us was not.
And it depends on how you define broken. I certainly didn't see it that way.
I'm trying to walk on egg shells here, as this is an inherently sensitive topic for lots of people.
I'm a little unclear on something: by "
Mine was", did you mean that your home was 'broken'. or no?
For the record I do believe that, all things being equal, 2 parents are better than one, though I stop short of saying that fathers are irrelevant to their children's well being, or that a woman can be a dad. I think that we are crossing the issues of single parent homes -vs- fatherless or motherless homes.
I would say that a "
broken" home is one where the marriage failed and the parents split. I would also distinguish a 'broken home' from a "
dysfunctional" home, because the parents can allow fighting, tension, abuse, neglect, etc., with out divorcing. Though broken and dysfunctional homes sheer commonalities, I make a distinction so as to represent the majority dynamic.
I would say that a home that only ever had one parent is, to some degree, dysfunctional. The parent that is there is forced to take on extra burdens which the second parent would have otherwise performed.
Some of the experiences I speak from are:
*My mother having left my family when I was @ 6;
*Learning first hand that no baby sitter, daycare, of subsequent girlfriend or eventual second wife of my dad's could have replaced her;
*Observing the long-tem effects of my mother's leaving and absence on my sisters;
*Finally seeing the long-term effects that her leaving and absence have had on me;
There are many other things as well, but I don't think anyone here is interested in other people's dirty laundry.
This is just for the liberal hard-core God-haters out there: I'm a big Dr. Laura fan! Dr. Laura has, over the last 10 years that I have listened to her, articulated what I have always instinctively known (
for example, when I was forced to choose which parent I was going to live with I instinctively knew that a boy my age needed to be around a male role-model, so I chose my dad), has helped me put things into perspective and, just maybe, guided me to maturing into the person I am today.
The above was probably trolling, but I would be attacked by these folks anyway so it may as well be on my terms
