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SmokeAndMirrors

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So I wrote the words "penis-behind-every-corner feminist," followed by a recommendation to get a vibrator, and as it does, my brain lept somewhere else entirely.

Why don't men and sex toys seem to mix?

Sex toys are quickly losing their stigma for women, especially as better-made options beyond cheap, toxic jellies hit the market in large numbers and the internet does its work of causing conversation.

Despite that, most of the demand for sex toys is still for women, and sometimes couples, but men's toys are far fewer in number. Some men also seem averse to trying them, or even their partner using them.

I can understand why this is for P-spot toys -- there's still a big stigma against a straight man putting anything in his butt, no matter how much he might like it.

But there's other stuff out there. Rings and vibrators and sleeves... admittedly it's an under-developed market, probably due to relatively undeveloped demand, but there's stuff out there.

Why don't men usually try it? I mean, I get that your hand works, but for a lot of women with toys, our hands work too. It's just something different. It also helps you reach places your hands can't.

Why are some men uncomfortable with women they're with using sex toys?

As I was thinking about this, something occurred to me. Although many of them DON'T, some men's toys, like sleeves, have realistic vulvas into which you thrust and there's a big stigma against that. I've heard men describe it as "shameful."

And yet, there's realistic dildos on the market. I don't think I'd have one myself -- it's a little uncanny valley to me. But it's not considered shameful to have a realistic dildo.

Guys, help me out. Why are sex toys scary?
 
Because we have foreskins. Well, most of us do anyway. Why do we need toys? Why waste money? Why would I put something in my butt? WTF?
 
Henrin said:
Because we have foreskins. Well, most of us do anyway. Why do we need toys? Why waste money? Why would I put something in my butt? WTF?
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Most men in America don't.

It's not that anyone needs toys. But we all buy a lot of things we don't strickly need. Why is trying something new in masturbation not one of them for most men?

Because men have a spot in there that is very pleasurable and it is not easily reached by their own hands. :shrug:
 
Really though, what is with those toys where the man is ****ing a toy that looks like a vagina? How pathetic is that?
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
Most men in America don't.

It's not that anyone needs toys. But we all buy a lot of things we don't strickly need. Why is trying something new in masturbation not one of them for most men?
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Because it serves no purpose.

Because men have a spot in there that is very pleasurable and it is not easily reached by their own hands. :shrug:
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Yeah, great. Not interested in that.
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
So I wrote the words "penis-behind-every-corner feminist," followed by a recommendation to get a vibrator, and as it does, my brain lept somewhere else entirely.

Why don't men and sex toys seem to mix?

Sex toys are quickly losing their stigma for women, especially as better-made options beyond cheap, toxic jellies hit the market in large numbers and the internet does its work of causing conversation.

Despite that, most of the demand for sex toys is still for women, and sometimes couples, but men's toys are far fewer in number. Some men also seem averse to trying them, or even their partner using them.

I can understand why this is for P-spot toys -- there's still a big stigma against a straight man putting anything in his butt, no matter how much he might like it.

But there's other stuff out there. Rings and vibrators and sleeves... admittedly it's an under-developed market, probably due to relatively undeveloped demand, but there's stuff out there.

Why don't men usually try it? I mean, I get that your hand works, but for a lot of women with toys, our hands work too. It's just something different. It also helps you reach places your hands can't.

Why are some men uncomfortable with women they're with using sex toys?

As I was thinking about this, something occurred to me. Although many of them DON'T, some men's toys, like sleeves, have realistic vulvas into which you thrust and there's a big stigma against that. I've heard men describe it as "shameful."

And yet, there's realistic dildos on the market. I don't think I'd have one myself -- it's a little uncanny valley to me. But it's not considered shameful to have a realistic dildo.

Guys, help me out. Why are sex toys scary?
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real dildo is preferable
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
I can understand why this is for P-spot toys -- there's still a big stigma against a straight man putting anything in his butt, no matter how much he might like it.
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To reply to this first. No, straight men don't like to have things put in (as in inside) their butts. Who the hell told you this? I speak ofc only from my own perspective but I'm pretty sure it's generally valid for all straight men.

Secondly. Men don't need very advanced toys.... our penis is our toy and we can work with it with whatever we have "handy" if you catch my drift.

And also there's another factor. It's the same factor for why women have tons and tons of clothes made for them and parfumes and make-up and whatever. Women buy more of those things and spend more time and money to get the right kind of acccessories... where as men... we kinda don't. Except metrosexuals. Doesn't mean we don't have taste, some of us have very good taste in clothes and accessories and all that, but we know what we want, we know what we need and we know how much we want to spend on it. It's a different mentality all together.
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
Some men think it does serve a purpose.
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Blowup dolls, fake plastic vaginas, etc serve no purpose. They can however think whatever they want. They are still pathetic.

Why is it pathetic?
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Why would it not be pathetic? You are ****ing yourself with something that looks like the real thing and yet isn't. How is that not pathetic?
 
Whoa, whoa, whooooa, waitaminute there Sammy. Why would any straight man like anything shoved into his ass.....that's some BS there. Hey.....I had to get checked for Cancer. Sent to a Proctologist.

Besides checking his hands first before he did his business :shock: ......which then he did. Let me tell you somethin'
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and that was just his finger.
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SmokeAndMirrors said:
So I wrote the words "penis-behind-every-corner feminist," followed by a recommendation to get a vibrator, and as it does, my brain lept somewhere else entirely.

Why don't men and sex toys seem to mix?

Sex toys are quickly losing their stigma for women, especially as better-made options beyond cheap, toxic jellies hit the market in large numbers and the internet does its work of causing conversation.

Despite that, most of the demand for sex toys is still for women, and sometimes couples, but men's toys are far fewer in number. Some men also seem averse to trying them, or even their partner using them.

I can understand why this is for P-spot toys -- there's still a big stigma against a straight man putting anything in his butt, no matter how much he might like it.

But there's other stuff out there. Rings and vibrators and sleeves... admittedly it's an under-developed market, probably due to relatively undeveloped demand, but there's stuff out there.

Why don't men usually try it? I mean, I get that your hand works, but for a lot of women with toys, our hands work too. It's just something different. It also helps you reach places your hands can't.

Why are some men uncomfortable with women they're with using sex toys?

As I was thinking about this, something occurred to me. Although many of them DON'T, some men's toys, like sleeves, have realistic vulvas into which you thrust and there's a big stigma against that. I've heard men describe it as "shameful."

And yet, there's realistic dildos on the market. I don't think I'd have one myself -- it's a little uncanny valley to me. But it's not considered shameful to have a realistic dildo.

Guys, help me out. Why are sex toys scary?
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OK...let me try to explain this in terms that we can all understand...

- 2 hot chicks making out ="Excellent"
- 2 guys making out = "Gay"
- Sticking your penis into an electrical device = "Stupid"
- Watching some chick stick an electrical device into her = "Hot"

Case closed.
 
Rainman05 said:
To reply to this first. No, straight men don't like to have things put in (as in inside) their butts. Who the hell told you this? I speak ofc only from my own perspective but I'm pretty sure it's generally valid for all straight men.

Secondly. Men don't need very advanced toys.... our penis is our toy and we can work with it with whatever we have "handy" if you catch my drift.

And also there's another factor. It's the same factor for why women have tons and tons of clothes made for them and parfumes and make-up and whatever. Women buy more of those things and spend more time and money to get the right kind of acccessories... where as men... we kinda don't. Except metrosexuals. Doesn't mean we don't have taste, some of us have very good taste in clothes and accessories and all that, but we know what we want, we know what we need and we know how much we want to spend on it. It's a different mentality all together.
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Yes, I know that.

Being that like attracts like, I have been with some men who are more open minded than normal and have been open to having their P-spot touched. They're no less straight for doing so.

In fact, you can even access it in a less invasive way. Behind the testicles, the majority of men have a pressure point that will access it. Most men I've been with have either already known they like that, or allowed me to do it, and to most it feels very good.

But sex toys aren't really accessories, per se. For most women, they're quite private about it. Most women who own sex toys don't have "a collection." They've got one or two. The right kind of toys for the job they want done. Most of them could get off with their hands, but it just offers something different.

I don't know if men tend to have any fewer "accessories." They just have different kinds. It always amazes me how people don't see that there's not much difference between the typically "womanly" interest in aesthetic clothes and the typical "manly" interest in aesthetic cars. Who dominates the custom paint market? Men. It's pure aesthetics.
 
MMC said:
Whoa, whoa, whooooa, waitaminute there Sammy. Why would any straight man like anything shoved into his ass.....that's some BS there. Hey.....I had to get checked for Cancer. Sent to a Proctologist.

Besides checking his hands first before he did his business :shock: ......which then he did. Let me tell you somethin'
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and that was just his finger.
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Because it feels good. Having something in your butt does not make you gay.
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
Yes, I know that.

Being that like attracts like, I have been with some men who are more open minded than normal and have been open to having their P-spot touched. They're no less straight for doing so.

In fact, you can even access it in a less invasive way. Behind the testicles, the majority of men have a pressure point that will access it. Most men I've been with have either already known they like that, or allowed me to do it, and to most it feels very good.

But sex toys aren't really accessories, per se. For most women, they're quite private about it. Most women who own sex toys don't have "a collection." They've got one or two. The right kind of toys for the job they want done. Most of them could get off with their hands, but it just offers something different.

I don't know if men tend to have any fewer "accessories." They just have different kinds. It always amazes me how people don't see that there's not much difference between the typically "womanly" interest in aesthetic clothes and the typical "manly" interest in aesthetic cars. Who dominates the custom paint market? Men. It's pure aesthetics.
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I've heard both men and women have sexual nerve endings in their bums so to speak. :mrgreen:
 
Lutherf said:
OK...let me try to explain this in terms that we can all understand...

- 2 hot chicks making out ="Excellent"
- 2 guys making out = "Gay"
- Sticking your penis into an electrical device = "Stupid"
- Watching some chick stick an electrical device into her = "Hot"

Case closed.
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Ok. Well, two questions. Why is it stupid when men do it?

And why is it hot when women do it? That isn't a challenge question. Many men find it intimidating.
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
Because it feels good. Having something in your butt does not make you gay.
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It's nice that you found men that like it since you enjoy doing it. It just so happens that many men aren't comfortable with having things in their butts.
 
Henrin said:
Blowup dolls, fake plastic vaginas, etc serve no purpose.



Why would it not be pathetic? You are ****ing yourself with something that looks like the real thing and yet isn't. How is that not pathetic?
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ChrisL said:
I've heard both men and women have sexual nerve endings in their bums so to speak. :mrgreen:
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Yes, this is true. But men have an actual sexual organ only fully accessible from there.

Some women can orgasm from anal stimulation, but it's fairly uncommon, and probably from tangential stimulation of parts easier accessed from the vagina.
 
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