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I need some online advice: My autism/ADHD is starting to get on my last nerves

marcus903

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It's been a whole year or two since I last posted on this website.

Anyway, I came on here because I need some advice. Please don't go "Google is your friend" or "use Yahoo! Answers" because Google is not always reliable and Yahoo! Answers is dead.

As you see, I am diagnosed with Austism, ADHD and possibly Asperger's. I've been diagnosed since I was probably a preteen. I am sometimes perceive as being smart and very inteligent because of my knowledge with computers and certain technology. My mother passed away from cancer back in 2014 (which put a change in my life). I am 21 years old and is interested in becoming a public bus driver when I get older.

But the problem is that I am suffering from intrusive memories that always causes me to scream, hit myself, and walk around. These intrusive memories used to result in me destroying other people's property and threatening to hurt myself. I'm on three sets of medications but I don't think they are helping with my intrusive memory issue.

I am also starting to think my disability is starting to hold me back. I don't have any "real" friends because the "friends" I have never call me and acts like they are busy. I also want to get my own drivers license very soon because while I am very intelligent with riding the bus (even to the point where I am going on random joy rides on the bus), I want to know how to get to places very quickly and when I want to. But I don't want an issue where I cause an accident because of my condition.

But what I am thinking that may have something to do with my condition is the fact that my father was never in my life and that I was raised by a single mother. Having no father figure has been saddening me every since I was little and I'm thinking that's the reason for the social issues I have. And I do have therapist I see every Tuesday and have a Transitional Coordinator and a peer specialist.

Can somebody please help me and figure out what I can do? I really appreciate it.

Edit: Please excuse the grammatical errors in this post.
 
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It's been a whole year or two since I last posted on this website.

Anyway, I came on here because I need some advice. Please don't go "Google is your friend" or "use Yahoo! Answers" because Google is not always reliable and Yahoo! Answers is dead.

As you see, I am diagnosed with Austism, ADHD and possibly Asperger's. I've been diagnosed since I was probably a preteen. I am sometimes perceive as being smart and very inteligent because of my knowledge with computers and certain technology. My mother passed away from cancer back in 2014 (which put a change in my life). I am 21 years old and is interested in becoming a public bus driver when I get older.

But the problem is that I am suffering from intrusive memories that always causes me to scream, hit myself, and walk around. These intrusive memories used to result in me destroying other people's property and threatening to hurt myself. I'm on three sets of medications but I don't think they are helping with my intrusive memory issue.

I am also starting to think my disability is starting to hold me back. I don't have any "real" friends because the "friends" I have never call me and acts like they are busy. I also want to get my own drivers license very soon because while I am very intelligent with riding the bus (even to the point where I am going on random joy rides on the bus), I want to know how to get to places very quickly and when I want to. But I don't want an issue where I cause an accident because of my condition.

But what I am thinking that may have something to do with my condition is the fact that my father was never in my life and that I was raised by a single mother. Having no father figure has been saddening me every since I was little and I'm thinking that's the reason for the social issues I have. And I do have therapist I see every Tuesday and have a Transitional Coordinator and a peer specialist.

Can somebody please help me and figure out what I can do? I really appreciate it.

Edit: Please excuse the grammatical errors in this post.

Marcus, I am sorry you are having these problems. Life often seems very complicated.

My advice to you us to be very specific with your doctor, transitional coordinator and peer specialist. It's very possible you need an adjustment in your meds...or even a new one or two. Be as example-specific with them as you have been with us.

You are a good written communicator, so I trust you are as forthcoming in person. If not, it's something you need to work on. Sometimes its hard for people to tell their octors, "Hey, this isn't working. I need more help."

My few suggestions besides professional help might be that you not label yourself so quickly. We have to be careful that labels don't become excuses. As to your dad, believe me, you are not alone. Far from it. Kids growing up without same-sex role models are plentiful. So are kids who have been physically and emotionally abused. They rise above it. You can, too. No excuses. ;)

How about a once a week volunteer job for you? It will help build your self-confidence and self-esteem. And think of the good you could do for others.

I hope you find something I said of value. I sure do wish you the best.
 

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It's been a whole year or two since I last posted on this website.

Anyway, I came on here because I need some advice. Please don't go "Google is your friend" or "use Yahoo! Answers" because Google is not always reliable and Yahoo! Answers is dead.

As you see, I am diagnosed with Austism, ADHD and possibly Asperger's. I've been diagnosed since I was probably a preteen. I am sometimes perceive as being smart and very inteligent because of my knowledge with computers and certain technology. My mother passed away from cancer back in 2014 (which put a change in my life). I am 21 years old and is interested in becoming a public bus driver when I get older.

But the problem is that I am suffering from intrusive memories that always causes me to scream, hit myself, and walk around. These intrusive memories used to result in me destroying other people's property and threatening to hurt myself. I'm on three sets of medications but I don't think they are helping with my intrusive memory issue.

I am also starting to think my disability is starting to hold me back. I don't have any "real" friends because the "friends" I have never call me and acts like they are busy. I also want to get my own drivers license very soon because while I am very intelligent with riding the bus (even to the point where I am going on random joy rides on the bus), I want to know how to get to places very quickly and when I want to. But I don't want an issue where I cause an accident because of my condition.

But what I am thinking that may have something to do with my condition is the fact that my father was never in my life and that I was raised by a single mother. Having no father figure has been saddening me every since I was little and I'm thinking that's the reason for the social issues I have. And I do have therapist I see every Tuesday and have a Transitional Coordinator and a peer specialist.

Can somebody please help me and figure out what I can do? I really appreciate it.

Edit: Please excuse the grammatical errors in this post.

My advice? If the professional help you're getting isn't working, find another professional. "Professional' being the key word.
And my advice, being free, is worth every penny you paid for it, the same as everything else you'll get here and in similar places.
 

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I normally cringe when everyone's best advice is "seek professional help", because I don't feel that every professional is competent. My son is autistic and we went through a slew of professionals before we found someone who was actually competent enough to help him. The rest were hacks.

THAT SAID... your case seems multi-layered and you may be dealing with undetermined diagnoses. For that reason you should seek a professional. Even if you were on a forum where everyone was a professional, it's really hard to do this kind of work at a distance, in a meaningful way. The kind of support you need is definitely in person.

Do you have psychologists or social workers nearby? You might want to consult them just to find out if there are additional resources that could help you. If your problem is medical, then you may need an MD referral to the appropriate specialist. I'm thinking a psychologist trained in cognitive development, or trauma... because based on what you've written you have a bit of both aspects happening.

If your friends aren't a good support to you, then a long-term goal could be to make new friends. Depending on how big your town/city is, there may be meetup groups where you can find peer support. Such groups can be really useful! It's hard to rely on people who don't know anything about what you're going through.
 

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The absolute last thing you need is advice from random dip****s on the internet.
 

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......Can somebody please help me and figure out what I can do? I really appreciate it.

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Marcus. While not exactly advice....here's a forum for Autism and ADHD people where maybe you find advice and make new friends who understand what you're going through. It looks like a popular forum just judging by the volume of threads.

Index page | Wrong Planet Autism Community Forum
 

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It's been a whole year or two since I last posted on this website.

Anyway, I came on here because I need some advice. Please don't go "Google is your friend" or "use Yahoo! Answers" because Google is not always reliable and Yahoo! Answers is dead.

As you see, I am diagnosed with Austism, ADHD and possibly Asperger's. I've been diagnosed since I was probably a preteen. I am sometimes perceive as being smart and very inteligent because of my knowledge with computers and certain technology. My mother passed away from cancer back in 2014 (which put a change in my life). I am 21 years old and is interested in becoming a public bus driver when I get older.

But the problem is that I am suffering from intrusive memories that always causes me to scream, hit myself, and walk around. These intrusive memories used to result in me destroying other people's property and threatening to hurt myself. I'm on three sets of medications but I don't think they are helping with my intrusive memory issue.

I am also starting to think my disability is starting to hold me back. I don't have any "real" friends because the "friends" I have never call me and acts like they are busy. I also want to get my own drivers license very soon because while I am very intelligent with riding the bus (even to the point where I am going on random joy rides on the bus), I want to know how to get to places very quickly and when I want to. But I don't want an issue where I cause an accident because of my condition.

But what I am thinking that may have something to do with my condition is the fact that my father was never in my life and that I was raised by a single mother. Having no father figure has been saddening me every since I was little and I'm thinking that's the reason for the social issues I have. And I do have therapist I see every Tuesday and have a Transitional Coordinator and a peer specialist.

Can somebody please help me and figure out what I can do? I really appreciate it.

Edit: Please excuse the grammatical errors in this post.

Autism affects everyone differently. If you don't think your counseling and medication are working, it's because you haven't found the right psychologist or psychiatrist yet. If you live in a large city, it shouldn't be too much of a problem finding a doctor nearby who can help you.

Finally, you can't let yourself get too worried about your condition holding you back; if you start thinking like that too much, it'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Good luck in your endeavors.
 

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It's been a whole year or two since I last posted on this website.

Anyway, I came on here because I need some advice. Please don't go "Google is your friend" or "use Yahoo! Answers" because Google is not always reliable and Yahoo! Answers is dead.

As you see, I am diagnosed with Austism, ADHD and possibly Asperger's. I've been diagnosed since I was probably a preteen. I am sometimes perceive as being smart and very inteligent because of my knowledge with computers and certain technology. My mother passed away from cancer back in 2014 (which put a change in my life). I am 21 years old and is interested in becoming a public bus driver when I get older.

But the problem is that I am suffering from intrusive memories that always causes me to scream, hit myself, and walk around. These intrusive memories used to result in me destroying other people's property and threatening to hurt myself. I'm on three sets of medications but I don't think they are helping with my intrusive memory issue.

I am also starting to think my disability is starting to hold me back. I don't have any "real" friends because the "friends" I have never call me and acts like they are busy. I also want to get my own drivers license very soon because while I am very intelligent with riding the bus (even to the point where I am going on random joy rides on the bus), I want to know how to get to places very quickly and when I want to. But I don't want an issue where I cause an accident because of my condition.

But what I am thinking that may have something to do with my condition is the fact that my father was never in my life and that I was raised by a single mother. Having no father figure has been saddening me every since I was little and I'm thinking that's the reason for the social issues I have. And I do have therapist I see every Tuesday and have a Transitional Coordinator and a peer specialist.

Can somebody please help me and figure out what I can do? I really appreciate it.

Edit: Please excuse the grammatical errors in this post.

My oldest son has Asperger's and he went over to this site and got some information that helped him somewhat.

https://www.aspiescentral.com/
 
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