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Leo

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Perhaps someone here understands what is going on - maybe one of the ladies can explain?

Julie and I have been going together for over six months - we get on really well (she comes from a similar background,) we have lots in common, even similar sociological views, and we do loads of stuff together.

But now an issue, which I had no way of foreseeing has raised its head. My aunt has a neighbour up in the mountains, and I know her slightly (she was very kind to me when I first arrived in Oz). This lady has recently bought a computer, but knows nothing about them, so I regularly help her out with it. Like I set up the operating system, installed all the software, and got her on the internet. I also help her out with things like chopping and stacking wood, and sometimes drive her to places (her old car is not always reliable).

She and Julie have met, and we all three sometimes go to places for Devonshire Tea and things like that. They seem to get on OK. But Julie now says this lady (who at 40, is older than my mum!) constantly 'flirts' (whatever that is supposed to mean) with me, and is only making excuses to see me alone in her house. I think my GF is actually jealous of this middle aged lady!!! Can anyone here work that out?

She wants me to stop going over to this lady's place, except when she or someone else is with me. I spend my weekends up at my aunt's place and this lady is her next door neighbour and friend - how can I do that without offending her? Like she has asked me to go over for afternoon tea tomorrow, and Julie has refused to go with me (but my aunt will be there).

This lady used to be a fashion model back in Germany, and is in terrific shape for a woman her age - but really, she could get anyone, why would she be interested in someone like me? I think Julie is just being paranoid - does anyone agree?
 
Girls are generally insecure which is why she's acting like this. She's afraid this women is going to seduce you and she'll lose you. Your girlfriend needs to be reassured that you're not interested in this lady. So let's get that out of the way first. You say she's beautiful and in great shape, but you never say that you're not interested in her. So... what would you do if this lady came onto you?
 
Leo said:
Perhaps someone here understands what is going on - maybe one of the ladies can explain?

Julie and I have been going together for over six months - we get on really well (she comes from a similar background,) we have lots in common, even similar sociological views, and we do loads of stuff together.

But now an issue, which I had no way of foreseeing has raised its head. My aunt has a neighbour up in the mountains, and I know her slightly (she was very kind to me when I first arrived in Oz). This lady has recently bought a computer, but knows nothing about them, so I regularly help her out with it. Like I set up the operating system, installed all the software, and got her on the internet. I also help her out with things like chopping and stacking wood, and sometimes drive her to places (her old car is not always reliable).

She and Julie have met, and we all three sometimes go to places for Devonshire Tea and things like that. They seem to get on OK. But Julie now says this lady (who at 40, is older than my mum!) constantly 'flirts' (whatever that is supposed to mean) with me, and is only making excuses to see me alone in her house. I think my GF is actually jealous of this middle aged lady!!! Can anyone here work that out?

She wants me to stop going over to this lady's place, except when she or someone else is with me. I spend my weekends up at my aunt's place and this lady is her next door neighbour and friend - how can I do that without offending her? Like she has asked me to go over for afternoon tea tomorrow, and Julie has refused to go with me (but my aunt will be there).

This lady used to be a fashion model back in Germany, and is in terrific shape for a woman her age - but really, she could get anyone, why would she be interested in someone like me? I think Julie is just being paranoid - does anyone agree?
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If you haven't even noticed her flirting, I'd say your girl might be the jealous type, in which case you need to set that straight so it's not a thorn in the side of the relationship.

If you agree with your girl that she's flirtatious and that that is unwanted attention, you need to be direct with the MILF, for the sake of you and your girl. Ending the behavior that is making your girl uncomfortable is more important than protecting a horny old woman's feelings.

Besides, older women are much more mature than younger women; they can take rejection much better. I doubt this lady will be anything but gracious.
 
Your girlfriend might be jealous, but in reality, she's just complimenting you. You should tease her back about what she's "afraid" of, and if she ever looks like she's on the verge of losing her cool, remind her that you're kidding and that you love her.

Women judge their self-worth based on how many fellow women (or people) approve. Don't be ashamed of her fretting. It's a sign of approval and desire. She actually might start getting clingy to you which might make her difficult to handle. Most guys have trouble just getting girls. You should be grateful for what you have.

The worst case scenario is she makes a scene, but you can take advantage of that very easily by telling her everything's OK and rising above the situation.

Maybe ask her if she's interested herself in your aunt's neighbor? ;)
 
Why are teenagers going out for tea?

That's just weird.
 
Leo said:
Perhaps someone here understands what is going on - maybe one of the ladies can explain?

Julie and I have been going together for over six months - we get on really well (she comes from a similar background,) we have lots in common, even similar sociological views, and we do loads of stuff together.

But now an issue, which I had no way of foreseeing has raised its head. My aunt has a neighbour up in the mountains, and I know her slightly (she was very kind to me when I first arrived in Oz). This lady has recently bought a computer, but knows nothing about them, so I regularly help her out with it. Like I set up the operating system, installed all the software, and got her on the internet. I also help her out with things like chopping and stacking wood, and sometimes drive her to places (her old car is not always reliable).

She and Julie have met, and we all three sometimes go to places for Devonshire Tea and things like that. They seem to get on OK. But Julie now says this lady (who at 40, is older than my mum!) constantly 'flirts' (whatever that is supposed to mean) with me, and is only making excuses to see me alone in her house. I think my GF is actually jealous of this middle aged lady!!! Can anyone here work that out?

She wants me to stop going over to this lady's place, except when she or someone else is with me. I spend my weekends up at my aunt's place and this lady is her next door neighbour and friend - how can I do that without offending her? Like she has asked me to go over for afternoon tea tomorrow, and Julie has refused to go with me (but my aunt will be there).

This lady used to be a fashion model back in Germany, and is in terrific shape for a woman her age - but really, she could get anyone, why would she be interested in someone like me? I think Julie is just being paranoid - does anyone agree?
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This isn't a woman thing, its a confidence and control thing. Act accordingly.
 
I know how to solve your problem. Buy me a flight to your country, introduce me to the MILF, I'll get her of your back (and onto her own) and do all that stuff for her. You'll no longer have to see her and I'll be gettin' some. Everyone wins.
 
Leo said:
Perhaps someone here understands what is going on - maybe one of the ladies can explain?

Julie and I have been going together for over six months - we get on really well (she comes from a similar background,) we have lots in common, even similar sociological views, and we do loads of stuff together.

But now an issue, which I had no way of foreseeing has raised its head. My aunt has a neighbour up in the mountains, and I know her slightly (she was very kind to me when I first arrived in Oz). This lady has recently bought a computer, but knows nothing about them, so I regularly help her out with it. Like I set up the operating system, installed all the software, and got her on the internet. I also help her out with things like chopping and stacking wood, and sometimes drive her to places (her old car is not always reliable).

She and Julie have met, and we all three sometimes go to places for Devonshire Tea and things like that. They seem to get on OK. But Julie now says this lady (who at 40, is older than my mum!) constantly 'flirts' (whatever that is supposed to mean) with me, and is only making excuses to see me alone in her house. I think my GF is actually jealous of this middle aged lady!!! Can anyone here work that out?...
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you may want to attempt to look at this from her POV.

perhaps this woman is indeed hitting on you, and when you go to her house..she will offer you sexual favors.
 
spud_meister said:
I know how to solve your problem. Buy me a flight to your country, introduce me to the MILF, I'll get her of your back (and onto her own) and do all that stuff for her. You'll no longer have to see her and I'll be gettin' some. Everyone wins.
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Since there are no mountains in Devonshire, and the lady helped him when he "first arrived in Oz" he might just be in your country. You could always hitch a lift with the flying doctor!
 
If the lady is indeed hitting on then you must make a serious decision. A 40 year old woman is going to be much better in bed than semi-virginal 20 year old. Chances are you are not going to marry the jealous girl. If the milf is steady flirting and if you think you could man up to a real woman, you might do well to take the lady with more experience.
 
there are some VERY sexy & hot 40 year olds, that could easily seduce someone half their age.
 
Are you in the Blue Mountains? If so, I will be arriving in another part of OZ in a few weeks. I will be happy to assess the situation and render an opinion. There is this little place I go to called The Hattery in Katoomba. I have to warn you thought, I am not for the faint of heart, I say what is on my mind.

BTW, if your mother is under 40 I am assuming you are still teenagers. There is nothing to worry about, the 40 year old former model is most likely very beautiful and intimidates the hell out of your girlfriend. The upside is that Australia is a land filled beautiful women and I am sure your girlfriend is one of them....of course you should let her know that...;)
 
TacticalEvilDan said:
40 is old? What are you smoking and where do you buy it, so that I can be sure I never ever get that high? :lol:
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My youngest child is over 40 now.

Still, this woman just might be a

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You know, I simply don't get that. What the hell is a cougar exactly, and why do we need to put an animalistic name to it? Mature women have strong sex drives, in much the same way as young men do.
 
TacticalEvilDan said:
You know, I simply don't get that. What the hell is a cougar exactly, and why do we need to put an animalistic name to it? Mature women have strong sex drives, in much the same way as young men do.
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I'm not sure just where that expression comes from. Do female cougars seek out younger mates? That seems unlikely. I think real male cougars fight over females, just like male cats do.

Sometimes male humans do, too.
 
You could discuss it with your older ladyfriend...........

Leo said:
Perhaps someone here understands what is going on - maybe one of the ladies can explain?

Julie and I have been going together for over six months - we get on really well (she comes from a similar background,) we have lots in common, even similar sociological views, and we do loads of stuff together.

But now an issue, which I had no way of foreseeing has raised its head. My aunt has a neighbour up in the mountains, and I know her slightly (she was very kind to me when I first arrived in Oz). This lady has recently bought a computer, but knows nothing about them, so I regularly help her out with it. Like I set up the operating system, installed all the software, and got her on the internet. I also help her out with things like chopping and stacking wood, and sometimes drive her to places (her old car is not always reliable).

She and Julie have met, and we all three sometimes go to places for Devonshire Tea and things like that. They seem to get on OK. But Julie now says this lady (who at 40, is older than my mum!) constantly 'flirts' (whatever that is supposed to mean) with me, and is only making excuses to see me alone in her house. I think my GF is actually jealous of this middle aged lady!!! Can anyone here work that out?

She wants me to stop going over to this lady's place, except when she or someone else is with me. I spend my weekends up at my aunt's place and this lady is her next door neighbour and friend - how can I do that without offending her? Like she has asked me to go over for afternoon tea tomorrow, and Julie has refused to go with me (but my aunt will be there).

This lady used to be a fashion model back in Germany, and is in terrific shape for a woman her age - but really, she could get anyone, why would she be interested in someone like me? I think Julie is just being paranoid - does anyone agree?
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This thread reminds me of a Garth Brooks' song:

 
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Hey, thanks for all the advice - I appreciate it, and I shouldn't really have asked about something so personal.

And please get this 'cougar' thing out of your minds. Mrs M is not like that, and she would be horrified to learn that anyone thinks that of her. I am sorry if I gave anyone the wrong impression.

The problem really is that I cannot understand why Julie suspects her of 'flirting' - like I said, I don't even know in what manner she is supposed to be coming on to me. She is an old friend of 3 years' standing, and lives by herself - all her family are in Germany, and she is probably happy to have a bit of company from time to time. Honestly, she has nephews older than me, and she addresses me as 'Mein Jungen'. There is no way she would think of me in that way. I will try to find a way of explaining this to Julie, and thanks for your input. :2wave:
 
Leo said:
Perhaps someone here understands what is going on - maybe one of the ladies can explain?

Julie and I have been going together for over six months - we get on really well (she comes from a similar background,) we have lots in common, even similar sociological views, and we do loads of stuff together.

But now an issue, which I had no way of foreseeing has raised its head. My aunt has a neighbour up in the mountains, and I know her slightly (she was very kind to me when I first arrived in Oz). This lady has recently bought a computer, but knows nothing about them, so I regularly help her out with it. Like I set up the operating system, installed all the software, and got her on the internet. I also help her out with things like chopping and stacking wood, and sometimes drive her to places (her old car is not always reliable).

She and Julie have met, and we all three sometimes go to places for Devonshire Tea and things like that. They seem to get on OK. But Julie now says this lady (who at 40, is older than my mum!) constantly 'flirts' (whatever that is supposed to mean) with me, and is only making excuses to see me alone in her house. I think my GF is actually jealous of this middle aged lady!!! Can anyone here work that out?

She wants me to stop going over to this lady's place, except when she or someone else is with me. I spend my weekends up at my aunt's place and this lady is her next door neighbour and friend - how can I do that without offending her? Like she has asked me to go over for afternoon tea tomorrow, and Julie has refused to go with me (but my aunt will be there).

This lady used to be a fashion model back in Germany, and is in terrific shape for a woman her age - but really, she could get anyone, why would she be interested in someone like me? I think Julie is just being paranoid - does anyone agree?
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You're trying to apply logic and reason to a female who is acting on emotion. Hint: this does not work. Never has worked. Never will work.

Get used to it, you're going to be dealing with a lot of that over the years. :mrgreen:

Now let's not have the Girl's Brigade come in here and stomp me into a mud-puddle, I'm not saying women aren't intelligent, I'm not saying women can't be logical.

I'm saying that when a certain situation causes a women to have a strong emotional reaction that gets "imbedded" in her attitude about the matter, there's no point in trying to reason with her.

If you want to keep the GF, you're probably just going to have to accept that she doesn't want you around that other women she thinks is flirting with you.

Hell she might even be right. :mrgreen:

Logic and reason will not save you here. Say it with me: "Yes dear". Practice this phrase. :mrgreen:
 
Goshin said:
Logic and reason will not save you here. Say it with me: "Yes dear". Practice this phrase. :mrgreen:
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As my father has often said:

"Rule number one is: The woman is always right.

"Rule number two is: When in doubt, refer to rule number one."
 
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