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How do you "UnSee" Something?



btw cold comfort farm is a freakingly awesome movie. I suggest everyone watches it.
 
Tigger said:
I had a very unpleasant experience today which I'm hoping someone here can help me with.....

In the course of doing work on a project I had the opportunity to view probably the most grotesque and hideous photograph I have ever seen. The image was horrific on several levels. I can't get into what exactly it was for legal reasons, but now I can't get the image out of my head. I was barely able to get my lunch down at noontime and I'm not sure I will be able to eat much for dinner tonight. Every time I close my eyes the image is there.

Anyone have specific and useful techniques for "unseeing" things like this?
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Dharana. The 'royal road'.

Takes a little patience and practice.
 
lizzie said:
I don't have a technique for specifically "unseeing", but whenever anything deeply bothers me, I don't avoid it, and I don't try to put it out of my mind. I let it roll around until it doesn't shock me or hurt me anymore. Trying to get rid of something is the surest way to make it stay. :lol:
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This is very true.

Like the key to golfing success being the difference between envisioning a hit, and 'trying not to miss'.
 
Tigger said:
I had a very unpleasant experience today which I'm hoping someone here can help me with.....

In the course of doing work on a project I had the opportunity to view probably the most grotesque and hideous photograph I have ever seen. The image was horrific on several levels. I can't get into what exactly it was for legal reasons, but now I can't get the image out of my head. I was barely able to get my lunch down at noontime and I'm not sure I will be able to eat much for dinner tonight. Every time I close my eyes the image is there.

Anyone have specific and useful techniques for "unseeing" things like this?
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You cannot forget what you have seen..

Jewish people have a quote for this..

''Beware what you see with your eyes.because it will enter your heart..

About a month ago..I saw some Russians laughing at something on their phones..

As I passed..thought they were watching porn..I said ''dirty boys''

One of the Russians showed me what they were laughing at...

They had set Bull Mastiffs onto a black guy..they had ripped his jaw off and his face was hanging in tatters..

I could not help him..but I will never forget his eyes..
 
wolfie said:
You cannot forget what you have seen..

Jewish people have a quote for this..

''Beware what you see with your eyes.because it will enter your heart..

About a month ago..I saw some Russians laughing at something on their phones..

As I passed..thought they were watching porn..I said ''dirty boys''

One of the Russians showed me what they were laughing at...

They had set Bull Mastiffs onto a black guy..they had ripped his jaw off and his face was hanging in tatters..

I could not help him..but I will never forget his eyes..
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Oh God, the human depravity never ceases to disgust me.
 
More of similarly grotesque imagery. I was very sensitive to blood/wounds until I gutted a few animals, doesn't bother me at all now.
 
lizzie said:
I don't have a technique for specifically "unseeing", but whenever anything deeply bothers me, I don't avoid it, and I don't try to put it out of my mind. I let it roll around until it doesn't shock me or hurt me anymore. Trying to get rid of something is the surest way to make it stay. :lol:
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I do the same. Can't explain how I "detach," but I do. Once I have, I pretty much never go back for review. I've seen horrific pics and have done my mom-share of scooping up dead-pet guts in the road and etc. I get through it, and then, as you say, let it roll around until I've dealt and am able to "file" it.

It's all so individual, isn't it? But once you recognize for yourself that you're obsessing or wallowing in it, you really do have to deal and find perspective.
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
In the long haul, time is the only cure. The image may continue to retain its punch indefinitely, or it may lose it eventually, but it will eventually be far enough away from your mind that it won't bother you day-to-day.

However, in the short term, for the purposes of being able to eat food and enjoy a ray of sunshine, this is my personal Prescribe As Needed image blocker.

It's the only thing that makes me giggle every single time I watch it. Enjoy. :)

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i raise you The Buttermilk

 
Tigger said:
I had a very unpleasant experience today which I'm hoping someone here can help me with.....

In the course of doing work on a project I had the opportunity to view probably the most grotesque and hideous photograph I have ever seen. The image was horrific on several levels. I can't get into what exactly it was for legal reasons, but now I can't get the image out of my head. I was barely able to get my lunch down at noontime and I'm not sure I will be able to eat much for dinner tonight. Every time I close my eyes the image is there.

Anyone have specific and useful techniques for "unseeing" things like this?
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GET LAID AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!

Sex fixes everything
 
You dont. The best way to deal with it is to do just the opposite. See it. Write about it. Examine the event from multiple perspectives. Create a scenario where you direct a movie describing the event. Tell it from a top down, side view, and every other narrative you can until the memory is an appropriate memory...a small 10 second blurb that occurred in your life as opposed to allowing fear and revulsion to turn it into the dominant monster in the closet. It might help if you process it with someone that can help you gain a perspective, learn from it, even find the positives or heroic outcomes.
 
Rocketman said:
GET LAID AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! Sex fixes everything
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Didn't work. For the most part I'm not seeing it constantly anymore, but every couple of hours it still works its way into the front of my mind for a moment or two. Still not a happy or pleasant thing now, almost a week later.
 
VanceMack said:
You dont. The best way to deal with it is to do just the opposite. See it. Write about it. Examine the event from multiple perspectives. Create a scenario where you direct a movie describing the event. Tell it from a top down, side view, and every other narrative you can until the memory is an appropriate memory...a small 10 second blurb that occurred in your life as opposed to allowing fear and revulsion to turn it into the dominant monster in the closet. It might help if you process it with someone that can help you gain a perspective, learn from it, even find the positives or heroic outcomes.
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Thanks for the advice and perspective, Vance.
 
Tigger said:
Didn't work. For the most part I'm not seeing it constantly anymore, but every couple of hours it still works its way into the front of my mind for a moment or two. Still not a happy or pleasant thing now, almost a week later.
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Well, no. But you're working it out, and every day this will become easier.
 
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