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Same as us ("Mr. and Mrs. Strangler") except our two kids are both adult kids now, and...as it turns out, they are both apparently hetero.
This is WHY I wanted to hear from parents of gay kids who have decided that they CANNOT be in their children's lives.
There is no shortage of very strong moral or religious views in this forum, certainly from people who say they would not tolerate a gay kid IF they DID have one, but I want to hear from people who DO have one, or more than one and are not keen on the idea.
This is their opportunity to rally round their non-rainbow flag, so to speak.
:roll:Since gay couples have been adopting children for decades now, maybe there are people here who had 2 gay parents and were disowned for being straight? Certainly a possibility these days.
Title says it all.
The question is aimed at parents.
Do you have any gay children, and if so, have you disconnected from them or disowned them in any way?
Have you cut off communications with them entirely, or say perhaps, did you refuse to attend their gay wedding, or did you cut off financial support or school tuition?
Anything along those lines.
We've already no doubt seen several discussion threads where gay people have discussed being cut off or disowned by their parents, so now I'd like to see if anyone from the parental side is willing to discuss their side of the issue.
MY own VIEWS are NOT as IMPORTANT, because as it turns out, both my kids are apparently hetero.
For the record, both of us would support/stand by either of our kids if they turned out to be gay, but they are hetero, so I am much more interested in hearing from those who do not share that view, watching the discussion develop between the other members.
Yeah of course it's possible in the depth at which humans can find to be stupid is endless.
I don't think it's all that common. I imagine the most common reason people would disown their gay child it's because they belong to a more cult-like religion. Perhaps there in politics and they are against gay marriage or something of that nature it always seems to be reputation.
I wouldn't think the reputation of a gay couple to raise a straight child would be at all shameful.
But I don't doubt it's happened. There are some nutty people out there.
Personally, I'd think such an action, or even just saying they would disown a gay child, would be indefensible.
As a homosexual guy I'd prefer my kids to be straight makes life a lot easier. I don't know I really don't know why people would do that.It's really lame imo. As a straight guy, yeah I'd want my kids to be heterosexual, for a variety of reasons. But I'd never disown them based on what other people thought about being gay, that's ridiculous, just bad parents.
I'd stick by my kids if they were gay 100%. That's the only decent thing to do.
lifestyle? Like whether they like to watch TV or eat fried chicken we got everyone does that.What about, do you think it's possible for same sex parents to impart their own lifestyle on their kids.
I'll explain what I mean; I went to college with a girl who was raised by a lesbian couple. She told me that she feared men during her childhood, especially during adolescence, and that she felt it came from her parents, and because there were just no men in her life at all growing up. When I knew her, she told me she was bi, but I think she was still struggling with being completely comfortable with men, although she did open up a lot to me. She was very distant most of the time, then she'd share really deep things about herself. We weren't a couple though, just friends. I wanted to, but she never really reciprocated.
I lost contact with her, so I never knew how things turned out, if she stayed bi or became a lesbian. What do you think?
absolutely, such as choosing the wrong religion that's a big one Amish people and Jehovah's Witnesses come to mind. Going into the wrong career field choosing not to be religious at all. Moving to different country.People disown family members for various reasons outside of sexual preference. I'm not trying to defend the "disowning," just pointing out it happens for other reasons too.
You disown a child because they're boring? I might get on to him and tell him hey you know there's other things in the world to talk about. But I certainly would disown someone over that.Now I probably would disown a friend, even family, if all they could do was talk about gayness, the same way I would if all someone could talk about was heterosexual sex.
I disowned my gay children.
Although it was entirely unrelated to them being homosexual.
Its because they actually liked The Last Jedi.
Could have been worse, they could have liked Jar Jar
Still was better than Episode I if only because of the lack of Jar Jar
Kids often disown parents after childhood sexually abuse for example.People disown family members for various reasons outside of sexual preference. I'm not trying to defend the "disowning," just pointing out it happens for other reasons too.
Now I probably would disown a friend, even family, if all they could do was talk about gayness, the same way I would if all someone could talk about was heterosexual sex.
In my experience it tends to be generally "unwilling to do the work because family does not mean much to me, they are not worth the work and pain and aggravation".I am a homosexual Son of heterosexual parents and though my parents are rather religious, they accepted it it was rough at first but they were committed to making it work. So was I.
My partner on the other hand was disowned by his parents. They belong to the Mormon faith. There are some things he won't tell me about it and I have learned more things about it at this point.
But as to what was going through the mind of his parents I can only guess if they even know. About 5 years back we connected with his grandparents they're not upset about that at all very nice people.
The best I can speculate is that time that I had with my parents where it was difficult to talk both parents and child we're either too angry to hurt or unwilling to work through it.
In my experience it tends to be generally "unwilling to do the work because family does not mean much to me, they are not worth the work and pain and aggravation".
I say it was better than episode one because of all the boring government crap one jar jar versus the stupid little teddy bear monsters. Meh... I don't think one little frog man poorly written lines is it stupid is the Care Bears attacking a mechanized in military force.
I was done after seeing that movie at that Point Star Wars was stupid to me. But my interest came back when they started making movies again
As ridiculous as ewoks were I would rather see teddy bears in actions scenes than Jar Jar trying to give a speech to the republic
Title says it all.
The question is aimed at parents.
Do you have any gay children, and if so, have you disconnected from them or disowned them in any way?
Have you cut off communications with them entirely, or say perhaps, did you refuse to attend their gay wedding, or did you cut off financial support or school tuition?
Anything along those lines.
We've already no doubt seen several discussion threads where gay people have discussed being cut off or disowned by their parents, so now I'd like to see if anyone from the parental side is willing to discuss their side of the issue.
MY own VIEWS are NOT as IMPORTANT, because as it turns out, both my kids are apparently hetero.
For the record, both of us would support/stand by either of our kids if they turned out to be gay, but they are hetero, so I am much more interested in hearing from those who do not share that view, watching the discussion develop between the other members.
Title says it all.
The question is aimed at parents.
Do you have any gay children, and if so, have you disconnected from them or disowned them in any way?
Have you cut off communications with them entirely, or say perhaps, did you refuse to attend their gay wedding, or did you cut off financial support or school tuition?
Anything along those lines.
We've already no doubt seen several discussion threads where gay people have discussed being cut off or disowned by their parents, so now I'd like to see if anyone from the parental side is willing to discuss their side of the issue.
MY own VIEWS are NOT as IMPORTANT, because as it turns out, both my kids are apparently hetero.
For the record, both of us would support/stand by either of our kids if they turned out to be gay, but they are hetero, so I am much more interested in hearing from those who do not share that view, watching the discussion develop between the other members.
Good for you! You are the parent we should all aspire to be.
I, too, would stand by a gay child and want nothing more than their happiness. Homophobia is quickly becoming a thing of the past and it's about time. A friend of my daughter was married to her now wife over a year ago and I was thrilled she found someone she loves so much to share her life with.
Title says it all.
The question is aimed at parents.
Do you have any gay children, and if so, have you disconnected from them or disowned them in any way?
Have you cut off communications with them entirely, or say perhaps, did you refuse to attend their gay wedding, or did you cut off financial support or school tuition?
Anything along those lines.
We've already no doubt seen several discussion threads where gay people have discussed being cut off or disowned by their parents, so now I'd like to see if anyone from the parental side is willing to discuss their side of the issue.
MY own VIEWS are NOT as IMPORTANT, because as it turns out, both my kids are apparently hetero.
For the record, both of us would support/stand by either of our kids if they turned out to be gay, but they are hetero, so I am much more interested in hearing from those who do not share that view, watching the discussion develop between the other members.
I disowned my gay children.
Although it was entirely unrelated to them being homosexual.
Its because they actually liked The Last Jedi.
I edited my post and filled out my answer more. I mean, I guess it's possible in the same way Sasquatch possibly exists but I feel pretty confident in saying that the instances would be so few as to be statistically not existent.
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