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Problem is I'm crazy in love with her. I got the classic butterflies in my stomach, I dont sleep well, My appetite is a lot less, and can't stop thinking about her. Somebody once told me you can't really help who you fall in love with and I can vouch for that, its certainly true (at least for me)
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
We've only dated a few weeks now, I wouldnt call it a relationship just yet. But its certainly headed that way
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
I've only dated her for a few weeks now so I cant say for sure, but my guess is she's more of a weekend social user. We went house hunting for 12 days in a row, and she only missed one day (a saturday).
Problem is I'm crazy in love with her. I got the classic butterflies in my stomach, I dont sleep well, My appetite is a lot less, and can't stop thinking about her. Somebody once told me you can't really help who you fall in love with and I can vouch for that, its certainly true (at least for me)
I read somewhere that the success rate for people completing rehab and staying off drugs is aboot 5%.Ex-cop. Live in an area afloat in meth. Seen a-plenty.
1. Most addicts don't quit and stay quit.
2. Addictions usually get worse, not better.
3. Eventually functional addicts become nonfunctional addicts, all too often.
4. Yes they will probably choose their drug over you, even after decades of marriage.
5. In the long term addiction affects cognition in fundamental ways, and tends to bring their worst traits out and destroy most of the good.
6. Eventually most reach a point where NOTHING matters except their next fix... not their spouse, not their children, not their life.
Which drug doesn't really matter. I've seen similar patterns with alcohol, prescription painkillers, crack, meth... weed seems to be less of a problem than most things but once they pass "wake n bake" stage it can get bad too.
I knew a wonderful woman, a devoted wife and mother, who turned into a monster. When hubby confronted her about her addiction she tried to kill him. She lost everything.
I knew a man who was a devoted and doting grandpa... now his grandkids are lucky if he bothers to make it to their birthday or notice they exist once in a while.
Knew people who seemed fine upstanding folk who eventually ended up in prison for robbery, trying to feed that addiction.
IMHO, do not walk, RUN far far away
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
I read somewhere that the success rate for people completing rehab and staying off drugs is aboot 5%.
Is that accurate??
I read somewhere that the success rate for people completing rehab and staying off drugs is aboot 5%.
Is that accurate??
Tell me aboot it. I used to watch that Dr. Drew show called 'Celebrity Rehab' and most of the show's cast is now dead or broke from doing so much drugs. Rehab clearly doesnt work, I think its probably a waste of time and moneyI haven't looked up the stats but it sounds about right.
I've seen LOTS of people go to Rehab. It's damn near a joke
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
We've only dated a few weeks now, I wouldnt call it a relationship just yet. But its certainly headed that way
So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
We havent talked much about religion.Now I'mma tell you something that won't be a popular viewpoint. Is she religious? About the only people I've ever seen get clean and stay that way were or become very devoutly religious and drew strength from that. I don't have any stats on this, just 50 years of life experience and what I've seen
We havent talked much about religion.
She does have a spiritual side to her, she owns lots of books on Law of Attraction and Eckhard Tolle (as do I)
My wife says addicts don't take mates, they take hostages.
If you don't like it now it will gnaw at you more as time progresses and you will resent it even more.So I met this beautiful, gorgeous girl. She's a real-estate agent here in Toronto, she's hard-working and makes over $150K a year because she's really good at selling. She is in her mid 20's, I'm in my mid 40's. We hit it off as soon as we met. Call it love at first sight or whatever.
Everything is perfect, except for the fact she likes to do cocaine once or twice a week. I personally DESPISE drugs in all its forms, especially cocaine. I worked as a tarbender in the nightclub industry during the 90's and my GM was a serious addict. So I know what to look for and what the signs are of someone who does coke regularly. I also heard from 2 different sources that she is indeed a user.
So my question to you guys is, can a relationship like that ever work?? Or is it doomed to fail??
I did some research and addicts most of the time will pick their drug over their mate. Maybe not right away but in due time.
Opinions??
I hear ya, bro.No offense, but I haven't seen the modern sorta-spiritual-in-a-nonspecific-way being much use in battling addiction. Just my experience, YMMV.
Your call. I've done the knight-in-shiny-armor rides to rescue damsel-in-distress. Problem is a lotta D.I.D's don't really WANT to be rescued if you force it on them they resent it and soon find some more distress to get into.
You end up with dented rusty armor, lots of wounds and no damsel.
Usually
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