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"It"?? Would it change how you felt about that child after having raised them for 15 years??
"It"?? Would it change how you felt about that child after having raised them for 15 years??
it would change everything. Have you ever had a child? I have one son and the greatest minute of my life was holding him knowing that I helped make this and he is part of me. For that to just be ripped away from you would be devastating, regardless of the love you woudl still feel for the child your whole life upto that point would of been a lie. Some posters on here are quick to judge this guy but I have to say if I found out my child wasn't mine it would crush my soul.
Depends on the jurisdiction, sadly. "Social" Dad should win, but I've seen the family courts do some godawful ****ed-up things.
I am willing to make a gentleman's wager, though, that if the court ordered him to pay child support that they would support him in a custody dispute against the biological father.
it would change everything. Have you ever had a child? I have one son and the greatest minute of my life was holding him knowing that I helped make this and he is part of me. For that to just be ripped away from you would be devastating, regardless of the love you woudl still feel for the child your whole life upto that point would of been a lie. Some posters on here are quick to judge this guy but I have to say if I found out my child wasn't mine it would crush my soul.
I have two kids, neither of whom are biologically mine. Granted, I knew that ahead of time.
I doesn't change a thing, and I feel the same way I would feel if they were "mine."
Except we don't know that he wasn't (the non-bio dad) already denied custody because he wasn't the children's legal father. Again I remind everyone this is Canada, different court system, different laws than here in the US (where it's really state by state).
It would hurt no doubt, but would you not still feel the lifetime of bonding up to that point for the child?
"It"?? Would it change how you felt about that child after having raised them for 15 years??
Why not? Don't you feel a responsibility to take care of the child you created?
Of course, I consider it my responsibility to take care of my children. This is a personal affair and not one the government needs to involve itself in.
In this particular case, its highly possible that the biological father(s) actually didn't know (th)he had a child. Is that person(s) to be punished for not knowing that someone else was raising that child? The answer is no, and the non-biological father is going to be left out of the picture.
of course you would but I imagine you would also feel betrayed and hurt and would want to get back and the mother anyway you could. I would still pay for the childs eductaion, clothes etc but that would be out of my own pocket and it would be my choice. I dont think its right that a court should make this man pay if he doesnt want to, thats his right.
Of course, I consider it my responsibility to take care of my children. This is a personal affair and not one the government needs to involve itself in.
The courts are involved due to the overwhelming amount of young males who would shirk that responsibility. Either they pay, or we do.
If they weren't a parent before, how are they "punished" by not becoming a parent after? Nobody has a right to be a parent to a child they don't even know exists.
Of course they do.
If they weren't a parent before, how are they "punished" by not becoming a parent after? Nobody has a right to be a parent to a child they don't even know exists.
By using the child as a wedge? Oh man.
We don't know that he wasn't a convicted child molester, either, if we're going to just start making **** up.
Actually, they do. Having never consented to give up their parental rights, they cannot lose them, even if they didn't know they existed. Only a court can grant an involuntary termination of parental rights, but the reasoning is very specific, and non-notification isn't one of them.
Says the man who doesn't acknowledge that children have a right to support from their parents in the first place.
I don't think that a person can legitimately have a right that justifies forcing another person into non-consensual servitude.
Since I define parents as the people who have consented to supporting their children, I absolutely support forcing parents to support their children. :2razz:
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