Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

[CaughtInThe]

I'm the big E.

Probably too much.

 

[noonereal]

Really? I've never heard that before.

he speaks to social anxiety disorder, the latest and greatest psychiatric diagnosis, from the 1980's

 

[noonereal]

according to this thread, everyone is introverted

The reason for this is that even extroverted people can feel introverted at times. It's a normal human feeling. Like with everything in life it is a matter of degree.
Peace

 

[Allan]

I know this, my question remains.
Realize, being introverted is a feeling not an action.

So what Dale Carnegie does for an introvert is give us tools to help with situations we might find challenging: public speaking, one-on-one engagement, working with a volatile employee. Many of the people in my class of about 40 said they took the course to help with shyness or at work to deal with a difficult boss/coworker/employee or customers.

So the introversion doesn't go away, but the ability to overcome it in social situations does.

 

[Allan]

I'm the big E.

Probably too much.

My GF is very extroverted. She'll get right into starting conversations with people at the next restaurant table and stuff like that while I'm sitting there thinking to myself "no no no don't talk to them!" That goes great in Ireland, where people are super friendly, not so much in Paris.

 

[Patriotic Voter]

Really? I've never heard that before.

Look up general anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. They are not just emotions, but can make people afraid to leave the house.

Another big one is autism. In severe cases, the person will not talk to anyone and is "selectively mute" even around family.

 

[Allan]

Look up general anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. They are not just emotions, but can make people afraid to leave the house.

I think you're merging two different concepts. What you've listed above doesn't apply to myself or any other shy/introverted people I know.

 

[Robertinfremont]

Everyone on a discussion forum is an extrovert, but in real life are you an introvert or an extrovert, or somewhere in the middle?

There are lots of definitions of each online and if you want you can take a test on Psychology Today's website.

The measure I've always thought was valid is this: at the end of a work day would you prefer to party at the local pub with buddies or go home and take it easy?

Never in my entire life of being a leader has any person claimed I am an introvert. It is hard to pass judgement on ourselves. As you show in your own post.

 

[Patriotic Voter]

I think you're merging two different concepts. What you've listed above doesn't apply to myself or any other shy/introverted people I know.

Some people are shy for the reasons I listed.

 

[noonereal]

So the introversion doesn't go away, but the ability to overcome it in social situations does.

So it offers resource to masks one's introvert characteristics.

I can see that.

 

[Demon]

Really? I've never heard that before.

I've never heard that either.

 

[noonereal]

Never in my entire life of being a leader has any person claimed I am an introvert.

I am curious, outside of the military what types of leadership positions have you held?

 

[CaughtInThe]

My GF is very extroverted. She'll get right into starting conversations with people at the next restaurant table and stuff like that while I'm sitting there thinking to myself "no no no don't talk to them!" That goes great in Ireland, where people are super friendly, not so much in Paris.

I drive my wife crazy.

 

[Robertinfremont]

I am curious, outside of the military what types of leadership positions have you held?

Construction work as a foreman and then a Superintendent
Owned and operated a machine shop
Owned and operated RE Brokerage firms
Owned and operated an appraisal firm'
Owned and operated a Mortgage firm

 

[noonereal]

Construction work as a foreman and then a Superintendent
Owned and operated a machine shop
Owned and operated RE Brokerage firms
Owned and operated an appraisal firm'
Owned and operated a Mortgage firm

couldn't hold a job?

lol

funny, I do not think as of that as holding a leadership role. I have managed many people in the workplace, my own business and corporately. Even direct national responsibility.
I think of that as management.

I tend to think of elected people as holding leadership roles.

I guess you are right, a manager is a leader.

 

[CimpleMan]

I read that. Up until then I saw shyness as a personality flaw but learned quickly that it's more common than I thought (even on this thread you can see it's not unusual at all) and nothing to feel awkward about.

That gave me a bit more leeway (after I retired) to establish my own routines of what I will or will not do. Yes I'll go to a party, but only if it's close friends and only for a couple of hours tops.

Always knew my situation was abit different than just being shy or quiet, but didn't identify myself as introverted until the word started popping in headlined articles and started reading up on Introverts. Was great to find out like you did how common it was.

My wife is on the extroverted side and it's sometimes challenging but we make it work.

Forgot where I read it, but it said for introverts the party is inside our heads. Lol

 

[grip]

I'm generally shy and comfortable with solitude, but occasionally, I like some human interaction. DP helps.
But I'm like Helix in that my exposure time is limited.

 

[Demon]

I'm generally shy and comfortable with solitude, but occasionally, I like some human interaction. DP helps.
But I'm like Helix in that my exposure time is limited.

I would have expected the opposite.