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Same here. Both my parents were college grads, my mother had a masters and my dad had a Phd, I just always assumed that going to college was the thing to do, and my son, who is now in college, also had the same expectations. My discussions with my son about college were never "do you want to go to college", they were always more like "what do you want to major in in college?"
But not everyone has that same expectation. When my son was a senior in high school I was talking with a customer who had a daughter who was also a high school senior, I brought up college and she said "I'm just glad that my daughter hasn't mentioned that yet". Honestly, I was shocked, but I shouldn't have been. Unless the parent had expectations of of the child going to college, there is no reason that the child should have such expectations either. I can't personally imagine a parent not wanting their kid to go to college, but may people don't feel that it is important or that it should be expected. I would think that every parent would hope that their child did better than the parent did, but apparently a lot of parents don't want to be "shown up" by their children. It's a family cultural thing I guess.
My parents were the worst kind of Democrats, they wanted all their kids to fail equally.....
especially my mother, she was resentful that we kids were getting more school than she got, but she only got thru 3rd grade before her parents put her to work. Granted, she had reason to resent her parents, but her kids? I did 3 years of college, none of my siblings did any....
My wife and both our kids have degrees, wife and son have masters, daughter bachelors....