However thats because she's MY kid. If it was some other guys kid. Would I care? Unlikely.
Welcome to parenthood.
This is a good lesson for you. Listen.
Would you be frantic if this was someone else's child?
If the answer is "no", then your child is probably safe.
Try not to destroy yourself by worrying too much.
My son was actually in
jail a few months ago.
Of course, I was prostrate with worry, absolutely leveled by it, especially since another family member suffered a sexual assault in a juvenile facility once, which pretty much fvcked him up for life.
But I had to step back, look at it objectively, and ask myself: "Would I be worried if this were someone
else's child? Would I even believe that
their worry was justified, or would I find it excessive and out of proportion to the situation?"
In this way, I was able to just
stop worrying. By getting some perspective on the situation, I was able to see that nothing so objectively terrible was happening, or had happened.
Because if I hadn't done something to stop this paralyzing anxiety, I wouldn't have been able to function.
I think that's what people are trying to do, when they say things like, "Someday, we'll look back on this and laugh."
Someday, you and your daughter will look back on
this, and laugh. Someday, she'll be grown-up, and safe, and you'll still have her to laugh with.
Although your current situation may be personally terrible for you, you
cannot allow it to blind you to the larger injustices going on in the world.
Your daughter will have to live in this world, even after you are gone.
