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Which would bother you more?

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A gal here at the University I work at is doing some psychology study, and I thought I would present a few of the questions she had:

You merely need answer which would bother you MORE, even if neither would really bother you.

1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.

2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.

3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.

4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.



There were more but they were on different subjects, she required age, sex, income range, race and religion for her participants.

It was kinda funny, but some of the above were very predictable by race and sex. I thought you guys might find this worthy of some tossing back and forth in here.
 
MrVicchio said:
A gal here at the University I work at is doing some psychology study, and I thought I would present a few of the questions she had:

You merely need answer which would bother you MORE, even if neither would really bother you.

1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.

2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.

3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.

4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.



There were more but they were on different subjects, she required age, sex, income range, race and religion for her participants.

It was kinda funny, but some of the above were very predictable by race and sex. I thought you guys might find this worthy of some tossing back and forth in here.
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Toss up between 2 and 4 though ultimately I think 4 would bother me more.
 
MrVicchio said:
A gal here at the University I work at is doing some psychology study, and I thought I would present a few of the questions she had:

You merely need answer which would bother you MORE, even if neither would really bother you.

1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.

2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.

3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.

4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.



There were more but they were on different subjects, she required age, sex, income range, race and religion for her participants.

It was kinda funny, but some of the above were very predictable by race and sex. I thought you guys might find this worthy of some tossing back and forth in here.
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Compelling stuff. Some are difficult to answer for me.

1) I really can't answer this one. Depends on the situation. I will say this: Just from the get go I would prefer the male duo, as people are generally more uptight about that and it would, hopefully, be a more bizarre, more humorous scenario. People are more or less tolerant of lesbians, as long as their hot lesbians. Unattractive lesbians are socially equivalent to male homosexuals. We are saying "I am disgusted my abnormal sexual behavior, unless it gives me a hard-on."

2) I suppose the former, although both would be so incredibly awkward and uncomfortable as to be torturous. Yeah, I think I would hate to be in the same room with a dozen people who being introduced to the former scenario. Unlike the last question, this kind of situation would be so bizarre it would stop be funny and start being worrying. That's a volatile situation.

3) This one's tough...I guess my Mom would bother me more, as I would just trust my Dad to handle such an epiphany more responsibly that my mother.

4) I really don't know how to answer this one. Both are equally inconceivable. I'm 24, my Mom and Dad are 58 and 60 respectively. Neither of them are physically attractive or have any money, so part of me may humor the possibility that I'm seeing a true love made manifest, albeit in an absurd way. I guess seeing my Dad like that would bother me more. To my knowledge, he is effectively a monk void of natural human desires. I'm almost certain that if my Mom were to die he would not remarry.

Hmm. Thought-provoking.
 
MrVicchio said:
A gal here at the University I work at is doing some psychology study, and I thought I would present a few of the questions she had:

You merely need answer which would bother you MORE, even if neither would really bother you.
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How can you pick one if neither bothers you? That is like asking "which of these two flavors that you've never tried do you like more?"

1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.

Neutral they're attractive people, males if they're ugly. I find few things more disgusting than gay sex, the thought of hairy fat ugly gay sex would make me gag.

2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.

I would find both highly disturbing. Transexuality does not make sense to me, a thing is what it is. I can never be fine with someone pretending to be something they aren't.

I caught alot of **** about this, because I was in the company of a someone who was "transitioning" and I refused to refer to him as her. So many times did people tell me "she's a girl." I always responded with "not by my standards."

People cant change their DNA...

3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.

Father being gay, not because I am ashamed but because he was such a player and I would be confused...

4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.

Mother dating someone my age. Why the double standard? Because I've dated MUCH older women and something like that would make me face the reality of those situations. Cougars are so sad and lonely and I don't want my mother to ever be that way.
 
MrVicchio said:
A gal here at the University I work at is doing some psychology study, and I thought I would present a few of the questions she had:

You merely need answer which would bother you MORE, even if neither would really bother you.

1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.

2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.

3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.

4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.



There were more but they were on different subjects, she required age, sex, income range, race and religion for her participants.

It was kinda funny, but some of the above were very predictable by race and sex. I thought you guys might find this worthy of some tossing back and forth in here.
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1) Female I think, but neither would be a big deal.

2) Male-to-female because I think I'd be more comfortable talking to them.

3) Rather have my mom be a lesbian. Sorry, I'm a man raised in a traditional liberal household, dad being gay would still shake general father-son relationship issues.

4) Rather have my dad because I understand that implicitly as a male desire. I'd think he was being a jackass, but I'd get it. With my mom, someone my age would be able to say "I'm ****ing your mom". Since truth is always validation of speech in this country, no one will overturn the murder conviction upon appeal.
 
MrVicchio said:
1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.
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Female. I don't mind lesbians, but if I saw family member making out with her girl I wouldn't be able to enjoy lesbian kisses in the future.

MrVicchio said:
2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.
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Neither on this one. I fully back Trans, so either way, all good to me. HOWEVER I will give it to a FTM member, just cause I don't see why anyone would wanna be a dude.

MrVicchio said:
3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.
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100% Dad. He's a fighter pilot, retired of course... I just can't see it. Step Mom however is an OB-GYN Nurse.. it wouldn't... be a shock to anyone.

MrVicchio said:
4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.
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Hmm... I'd have to say Mom. Why any young buck would wanna date my step mother... beyond me.
 
MrVicchio said:
1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.

2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.

3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.

4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.
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Number one would not bother me in the slighest. I wouldn't even so much as bat an eye.

Number two wouldn't bother me either. I know what transgender people are like - my sister is in a relationship with one.

Number three wouldn't bother me, in fact, I would be glad that they have divorced to allow my parent to be their true self and finally reveal their sexuality.

Number four would make me uncomfortable. I don't think I would get used to the idea of one of my parents dating someone my age - it's just...creepy.
 
I think I'm gonna go with number two. I have no problem at all with any of the other scenarios, but it would take me a while to get used to a close family member suddenly changing genders. If it's a distant relative I wouldn't care, though.
 
Three would freak me the hell out.

I'd be perfectly alright with the others. In fact one and two would be awesome comedy in my family.
 
MrVicchio said:
A gal here at the University I work at is doing some psychology study, and I thought I would present a few of the questions she had:

You merely need answer which would bother you MORE, even if neither would really bother you.

3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.
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I think my father would bother me more.

4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.
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Uhhh... wow. Nah, definitely my father. The implications are more severe.



There were more but they were on different subjects, she required age, sex, income range, race and religion for her participants.

It was kinda funny, but some of the above were very predictable by race and sex. I thought you guys might find this worthy of some tossing back and forth in here.
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Yeah, I'm going to have to read these responses... I'm curious about the parental questions...
 
MrVicchio said:
1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.
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Honestly cannot imagine that one would bother me the slightest bit more than the other.

2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.
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Probably the female to male

3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.
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Cannot make a distinction

4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.
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Again, I cannot really make any distinction
 
What she showed me was that black and latino females had like a 90% response rate of finding males gay, or trans being a problem. That one fact stood out across all age and income levels in her study. Mind you it's only a limited class project, but she's thinking of doing something like that for a later project. Bigger, more in depth and trying to publish it.
 
#2 is the only one that would bother me.

Even though it would only be the initial "Wtf" that's the only one I could pick.

For #1 I could care less if people are "gay"

For #2 It just looks/seems odd when people go trans-gender. But the initial shock wears off.

For #3 Once again, I could care less if people are "Gay"

For #4 I would raise an eyebrow. That's about it. If the person (especially the doode) wanted to act like the man of the house I would not let that dominance be established. That's for sure.
 
MrVicchio said:
1. A male relative arriving at a public family event with his male lover, or a female relative arriving at a public family event with her female lover.
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I'm assuming each couple is reasonably atractive: The lesbians would bother me more because I could more easly ignor the gay men with the yuck factor, but all men want to see lesbians go at it.

Hey, just being honest :2wave:

MrVicchio said:
2. A male relative arriving at a public family event after transitioning male-to-female or a female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male.
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The female relative arriving at a public family even after transitioning female-to-male would bother me more.

Reason being, s/he has become, not always was, a part of one of the agents of asociation that I am. The fact that s/he chose to change her master status to one more like me is akword.

MrVicchio said:
3. Your parents are divorced; Your father reveals he is gay or your mother reveals she is a lesbian.
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'Father reveals he is gay'....because he's a church elder.

MrVicchio said:
4. Your parents are divorced; Your father is dating someone your age or your mother is dating someone your age.
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'Father is dating someone your age', because my mother has money, but wtf would a 30 y/o see in my father? idk.

MrVicchio said:
There were more but they were on different subjects, she required age, sex, income range, race and religion for her participants.
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30 y/o Wht male <20K nondenominational Christian.
 
It would bother me more if my penis was straight and my anus was gay.
 
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