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I would just like to know. The gay threads just seem to overflow everywhere. The sexuality forum might as well be the gay forum. Is it morbid curiosity? Are people that worried about being gay? What is it?
I don't even think about it till I get here and see all the threads. I guess I don't understand the domination of it to so many people. It's just one issue. Well I guess some people are single issue people, which is not the way I view things.
From my point of view, the term 'fascination' is correct, only it applies to people who are against homosexual marriage, repeal of DADT, and constantly proselytize about homosexuality being wrong, unnatural, a 'sin', or some other such nonsense. I think we are all exposed to homosexuality at one point or another; a co-worker who happens to be gay, or maybe the bartender at your favorite restaurant, or even the lesbian couple living down the street. There are homosexual people everywhere, and just like any heterosexual, they want to be recognized as equal citizens. They want to join the military, get married to the partner they love, maybe raise a few kids, and have cookouts with the neighbors on the weekends. You'd think that this would be a pretty simple thing to accomplish - I mean, who cares if someone happens to be homosexual or heterosexual, right? Well, apparently that's wrong. A number of people do care, and those people will go to great lengths to separate and belittle homosexuals simply because of their sexual orientation.
It doesn't have to be overt, either. Many times it can be subtle. I'll give you an example. Last year I took some friends out to dinner at a pretty nice place in Raleigh. All of us were there with our significant others, including my friends Martha and her partner Ruth. As we were enjoying our appetizers and some glasses of wine, I specifically mentioned to the waiter that we were toasting Martha and Ruth celebrating seven years as a couple. Everything was wonderful at first - the dinner was great, service was spot-on, and there were no complaints. It wasn't until I got the bill that I noticed the couple's discount had not been applied to Martha and Ruth like the rest of us. Figuring that there was some mistake, I excused myself and found the waiter, mentioning that we were celebrating my friends' anniversary and they didn't get the discount. I expected him to simply acknowledge the mistake and apply it. Instead, he told me to wait while he got the manager. No big deal. I figured he'd probably have to redo the check is all, so I waited. A few minutes later, the guy came back over with his manager, who explained that the discount only applied to couples. After explaining that Martha and Ruth were very much coupled up - it was their anniversary we were celebrating - he simply apologized and said he could not change the bill because again, the discount only applied to couples. What he obviously meant was 'heterosexual couples' like the rest of us at the table, not Martha and Ruth.
I was FURIOUS! However, I was determined not to ruin Martha and Ruth's evening by telling them about this incident. So I left the guy $1 on an $800-plus dinner tab with the note "You and your manager should invest in some sensitivity training. Dinner was wonderful!", and i've never been back.
It sucks that such prejudice exists, which is why I participate in those type of threads more than any other. I guess if you witness this kind of activity long enough, at some point you take a stand against it.
I would just like to know. The gay threads just seem to overflow everywhere. The sexuality forum might as well be the gay forum. Is it morbid curiosity? Are people that worried about being gay? What is it?
I think the essence of it is that at best 3 to 4% of the overall population is Gay. Probably a little lower actually. Here based on the Ultra Importance of these topics to some who see them in Thomas Paine terms that percentage is higher - like possibly 15%.
Fine example, though I've never heard of a couple's discount.
Then we figure out how gay DP really is.
Ultra impoortance?
Have you checked in lately to see what percentage of your postings are on this subject?
No problem BECAUSE - I'm not Gay and you knew that already. A show of hands now maybe in order.
Denial is the first sign...
think it's simply because it's a hot topic.
If that were true we would spend more time focusing on lesbians than gay dudes.
gay dudes are the ones that make all the headlines. lesbians, for the most part, are much more low-key.
almost every time you see a gay pride parade there are several gay dudes wearing assless pants or some crotchless leather getup with their junk hanging out. You never see any lesbians showing their stuff at these parades. WTF?????
in person? only one. back in the 90's a group of us went with my brother-in-law's brother (gay dude). I have also seen pictures and videos.
gay dudes are the ones that make all the headlines. lesbians, for the most part, are much more low-key.
almost every time you see a gay pride parade there are several gay dudes wearing assless pants or some crotchless leather getup with their junk hanging out. You never see any lesbians showing their stuff at these parades. WTF?????
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