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The words come easy, sometimes too easy. The hard part is actually being loving. That tales work.If you're in a new relationship, when does it seem normal to say "I love you" ? Does saying it imply there is a commitment? If the relationship has already turned physical, does that mean love is being felt? Or not necessarily.
Just wondering because I was in one relationship for many years, which ended because of death. I never did much dating in my life, and I don't know how things normally go. I met someone a month or two ago, and we have been together a lot, but we don't say "I love you." I think maybe it's because he was hurt by his ex wife, and might be afraid of getting hurt again.
I feel like if he doesn't say it, then I shouldn't, even though I like saying it, especially during intimacy. I realize people mean all kinds of different things by the word "love." He is showing me love by wanting to be together a lot. Just not saying those words. I am not really hung up on it, just a little curious.
My guess? If you don't know that you're in love you probably aren't. Not yet. And if you're not sure you shouldn't say so. The word means big things to some people.If you're in a new relationship, when does it seem normal to say "I love you" ? Does saying it imply there is a commitment? If the relationship has already turned physical, does that mean love is being felt? Or not necessarily.
Just wondering because I was in one relationship for many years, which ended because of death. I never did much dating in my life, and I don't know how things normally go. I met someone a month or two ago, and we have been together a lot, but we don't say "I love you." I think maybe it's because he was hurt by his ex wife, and might be afraid of getting hurt again.
I feel like if he doesn't say it, then I shouldn't, even though I like saying it, especially during intimacy. I realize people mean all kinds of different things by the word "love." He is showing me love by wanting to be together a lot. Just not saying those words. I am not really hung up on it, just a little curious.
My guess? If you don't know that you're in love you probably aren't. Not yet. And if you're not sure you shouldn't say so. The word means big things to some people.
But if you are sure, say so.
If you're in a new relationship, when does it seem normal to say "I love you" ? Does saying it imply there is a commitment? If the relationship has already turned physical, does that mean love is being felt? Or not necessarily.
Just wondering because I was in one relationship for many years, which ended because of death. I never did much dating in my life, and I don't know how things normally go. I met someone a month or two ago, and we have been together a lot, but we don't say "I love you." I think maybe it's because he was hurt by his ex wife, and might be afraid of getting hurt again.
I feel like if he doesn't say it, then I shouldn't, even though I like saying it, especially during intimacy. I realize people mean all kinds of different things by the word "love." He is showing me love by wanting to be together a lot. Just not saying those words. I am not really hung up on it, just a little curious.
Sorry for your loss.
I don't think there's a right time to first say "I love you." I think that when that time is right, you'll know.
Thank you. I guess I just have to wait until he says it first. I think he knows I love him. Or maybe he never will say it. He was pretty traumatized by ex wife.
I feel if someone doesn't know I love them by my actions, then nothing I say will convince them. I do say it but rarely, so it has more impact. Maybe, he's like me in that sense. You could ask him if you're not sure.
Love to me means giving and caring without measure or expectation. I've loved many people but have had only two people who felt the same. I was very lucky.
If you're in a new relationship, when does it seem normal to say "I love you" ? Does saying it imply there is a commitment? If the relationship has already turned physical, does that mean love is being felt? Or not necessarily.
Just wondering because I was in one relationship for many years, which ended because of death. I never did much dating in my life, and I don't know how things normally go. I met someone a month or two ago, and we have been together a lot, but we don't say "I love you." I think maybe it's because he was hurt by his ex wife, and might be afraid of getting hurt again.
I feel like if he doesn't say it, then I shouldn't, even though I like saying it, especially during intimacy. I realize people mean all kinds of different things by the word "love." He is showing me love by wanting to be together a lot. Just not saying those words. I am not really hung up on it, just a little curious.
My advise is do not use the words "I love you" unless you truly wholehearted mean it after having a long talk with yourself confirming it.. It is fine to say 'I love spending time with you" etc.
Former Supreme Court Justice Thurgood Marshall once said, "I don't know how to define pornography, but I know it when I see it." I feel the same about love. Deep down inside you know it when you see it. You know it when you don't.
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