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What do you look for in a person?

Obama08

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If you’re thinking about dating someone....what qualities do you look for in them?

I want someone who's pretty good looking...but they don’t have to be model status. I like someone who thinks politically like I do, but I would still go out with someone as long as their conservatism didn't make their personality all weird. I would prefer that they're athletic and would want do things like go running or go to the gym....and they need to be flexible about life. I'm not a control freak....I value letting your partner do their own thing and them letting you do your own thing. I hate bitching and complaining.
 
I look for short petite brunettes, preferably atheist, libertarian, politically/philosophically enclined, artistically enclined, and classy attire.

Literary and musical agreements are a plus.
 
Y'all are obviously both guys. :lol:

The first thing I look for is that they have to be passionate about life. I love life. I love experiencing new things, I love re-visiting old things. A guy doesn't necessarily have to be passionate about the same things I am, but he can't be the type that is content just existing. Intelligence is a must, as is a good deal of common sense. As I'm tired of being the "adult" in the relationship, I prefer a guy with emotional and mental maturity. I hate having to baby sit and convince the guy I'm dating to eat his vegetables. If you can't cook for yourself, you're not an adult. Let's see...I appreciate sexual open-ness. Sex shouldn't be serious all the time, and a guy who can have fun with it rocks. Looks are...nice, but not always necessary. And the guy has to be crazy about me. I'm very affectionate and I appreciate affection in return. Political beliefs don't matter much to me, though I suppose I'd have a hard time dating anyone who has a big problem with homosexuals.

I could go on and on...I'm female. We spend a lot of time fine tuning our Mr. Right. :mrgreen:
 
I just look for the guy who's got my name tattooed on his lower back.
 
All women want one man to satisfy their every want and need, whereas men want all women to satisfy their one want and need.
 
A guy who's intelligent. Preferably someone who looks good, but that's pretty irrelevant. Someone with emotional depth, too. Too much intelligence and the emotional range of a spoonful of soup is pretty bad.
 
Kelzie said:
We spend a lot of time fine tuning our Mr. Right. :mrgreen:
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And,of course, this fine tuning does not stop once you meet somebody,either.

If you can't find mr. right, just make him!


Having been fine tuned for over a quarter century (please note the obvious effort undertaken to make something sound really impressive), I can say with a certainty approaching 100% that while I may not be "Mr.Right", I'm at least "Falling within acceptable parameters"*
 
I like a good balance, my husband is the best, he's funny but he can be serious, he's strong but not macho, he's smart but not arrogant. He's nice but not a pushover. He's a great Dad. He's interesting too, after all these years we still find plenty of things to talk about other then ourselves. I still lust after him too which is always good all the way around.:mrgreen:
 
If I'm actually considering getting in a relationship with someone as opposed to just something casual, then it means that girl is usually (to me at least) at least 7 or 8 of the following:

Easy-going
Gorgeous
Good cook
Independent
Smarter than me
Selfless
Tiny
Low maintenance
Somewhat shy
Politically inclined
A lady in the street
A freak in the bed
 
Gotta have a sense of humor, smart, humble, adventerous, spontaneous. I would have to be attractived to them physically and mentally. He must be a real gentleman and selfless.Who isn't afraid to get dirty or have an independent woman by his side. Money don't mean a thing but I would like a guy who is career minded. I would definetly not be with someone who did not have a job. Also if it is someone I am serious about they gotta love children and animals. Politically I would be tolerate of anyone who wasn't any sort of ***** *** liberal or hard core neo-con.

I guess basically I want a man's man who is also a hell of a nice guy. I know I must be dreaming, right guys?
 
Internal organs, Muscle tissue, bones, and fluids.
 
I look for a guy who is stable and independent. He has to be able to take care of himself both physically and mentally. I look for him to be fit and well groomed, well mannered, and well spoken. He has to have drive and ambition to match or exceed mine. He has to be able to enjoy a comfortable silence. I enjoy a guy who can have fun in bed and he definitely has to have a sense of adventure when it comes to exploring the physical side of our relationship. I cannot abide possessiveness but a bit of healthy jealousy is always appreciated because it makes me feel like I am more than just a little important.

Sort of a litmus test for me is seeing how he treats his parents. If he is impolite or disrespectful to his father or mother, then you can be certain he will have no problem being the same way to you whenever he feels like it.
 
In terms of someone for a real relationship i would say

Very pretty face nice physically in general.Confident smart and secure.Not the type of girl who moans about every little detail i also dont like girls who are too tidy it freaks me out.Also someone who can handle different social situations and cool.
 
Since I am married, I no longer get to look for things in a person.

But I am happily married ( at least from my presepctive we are, I could be completely wrong ), so I guess I would like someone like my wife, but her one quality I would change is that she is completely unable to do anything on her own. Like going to the store to pick something up, I always have to go with her. She won't go by herself. I always tell her, she is allowed to go out and buy something if she needs it, she doesn't need me to go with. I think she just doesn't like driving.
 
I married my man because he is intelligent, funny, trust worthy, open minded, down to earth, dedicated, honest, fun in bed, hot, shares my core values but disagrees with me about enough stuff that we can still banter, and because he gets me. He can also match my stubbernness point for point which makes us evenly matched though our children may have an unbelievable time finding mates due to the amount of genetic hard headedness we have passed on! :mrgreen:
 
I think the conclusion i can draw from this is none of us really no what we want after looking at the responses i feel this including my own.I think we all sometimes fall for people who have more bad traits than good when we are using the logical part of our brain. But emotionally there is just certain people who can drive you crazy and you love them for it.

It sounds strange but i think sometimes we have negative feelings about someone which actually cause more attraction.

Its one one of those subjects where a close friend could tell you what you like more than you know yourself for example i have a friend whos type is basically skinny short guys who think they are really something and really loud but if you asked her she would say something completely different.
 

Man, I did not get that conclusion from this thread at all. :lol:
 
If anyone wants to know the answer to the threads' question, then check out Imago therapy by Harvel Hendrix. He wrote a very good book on relationships called, "Getting the Love you Want".

Many of us gravitate to what is familiar.
 
galenrox said:
What I dig most about my girlfriend is that I'm pretty sure she's smarter than me, which is a blast. Also, although I attribute this to coincidence, I've never dated a girl beneath a C cup.
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Is your mom, um... busty?
I've read that men are attracted to women with the same general body type as their mothers.
Then again, that could just be pop-psychobabble; I've seen much anecdotal evidence to the contrary.
 
galenrox said:
To be perfectly honest, I am very glad to say that I have no idea. My girlfriend doesn't look like my mom, if that's what you're saying.

Freud is gross.
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Freud was a product of his time, place, and socioeconomic class, as are most of us.
He was an astute observer and analyst, as well as a conscientious recorder, of the psyches of upper-middle-class 19th century Viennese society.
His posthumous slide into disrepute stemmed from his inability to recognize that
Victorian-era upper-middle class Vienna was not, in fact, the world, nor particularly representative of it.
Freud himself and nearly all of his clients were no doubt riddled with multiple and diverse psychoses.
Freud failed only in scope; he failed to realize he was working in a vaccuum, and that his work, thorough and definitive as it was, didn't have any real implications for the world at large. It was both provincial and anachronous, and, sort of like the Bible, is only useful today for those interested in the study of sociological history.
 
I think the thing that attracks me to my wifey is the fact she's opened my eyes to the world. She's got alot more culture then I do in the sense that she's one of those people who can tell the difference between real and fake Prada bags while at the same time engaging in a conversation on Chinese philosophy. Oh yeah. And she's hot.
 
Obama08 said:
If you’re thinking about dating someone....what qualities do you look for in them?
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Well to start she has to be the one I put a wedding ring on 8 years ago.....
 
a good heart, a good sense of humor, easy going, intelligence, nice body, and a healthy attitude about sex.
 
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