Re: What Is Wrong with "slut shaming"?
I personally hate the word "slut" with a passion but I'm using it here given everyone will know what I'm talking about.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slut
A recurring theme for people on the right who criticize women's sexual behaviors is that they are "slut shaming". Now according to everything I've read a "slut" or "slutty behavior" involves sexual promiscuity. Though it is almost always used to refer to women it can (and has) been used regarding men as well.
My point is this:
Shouldn't sexual promiscuity be something we should treat as "shameful"? What possible redeeming and positive attribute does it have? No matter your views on abortion, or premarital or extramarital sexual morality shouldn't sexual promiscuity be something that everyone on every side of the belief spectrum rightfully condemns?
What could possibly be wrong about shaming people who engage in such behavior?
First, someone else's sex life is not your concern, worry about your own.
Second, for males, there is no education or penalty for having pre-marital sex or having multiple partners. The media and male culture actually encourages it.It's a double standard: men are encouraged to "get laid" and not be slut shamed, but the woman, who you want to be virginal, yet the male culture demands that we try to bed her...gets slut shamed for what is encouraged for the man to do.
Third, there are very, very few male role models of note who insist on acting like gentleman instead of the standard male culture of getting laid. Most are enablers of the male culture that demands us to get laid. Example: our own president has talked about grabbing women by the pu$$y and force kissing them because they like it from famous men, multiple marriage during which he has cheated on at least two of them, has had relations with porn stars. If it were woman, she gets to be a slut, for Trump he gets to be the worst kind of role model.
Fourth, women aren't treated with respect, and I don't mean ERA...I mean, basic, human respect, by many men. The are treated as objects sexually and are not worthy of forgiveness and called a slut when a man willingly decides to cheat on his wife with said woman. He can ask for and quite often gets forgiveness for screwing around on his wife...but the woman is the slut. Why isn't he the slut?
My point is this: when we have set up a social norm that requires our women to be attractive, to be available, that making them be sexy in all media to the point of pornography, when we look at each other and have our locker room talk about trying to screw as many women as possible, when we encourage that behavior from the early teens in boys, when we expect to be given a pass when we act like sluts ourselves...yet we damn and shame women for giving us what we desire, the very thing we are trying to achieve...don't you think that is hypocritical? Morally and ethically wrong?
Why are we men not punished as well for making women act like we want them to...when we want them to act like us, why do we get a pass and they don't? it doesn't make sense.
That's why you shouldn't slut shame. It's hypocritical and a double standard.
