Sexual attraction vs romantic attraction

[maquiscat]

Are they linked? Are they independent of one another? Most will agree that one can be sexually attracted without being romantically attracted, even if they claim that they need both. It few seem to consider it possible to be romantic attracted without being sexually attracted.

Thoughts?

 

[EnigmaO01]

It depends on your definition of "romantic attraction." It's different things to different people.

 

[maquiscat]

It depends on your definition of "romantic attraction." It's different things to different people.

For the sake of my inquiry, I would say that it is someone who you would claim to be in love with.

 

[Skeptic Bob]

I picked the third one for myself. I have been sexually attracted to many women I wasn't in love with. But I have never been in love with a woman with whom I didn't also want to be intimate. As I fall in love with a woman I become more sexually attracted to them.

Maybe that will change. Is it possible I won't be sexually attracted to my wife but still be in love with her when we are both in our 90s? Perhaps. Certainly not an issue yet.

 

[Yelsy]

I think demisexuality is good. It would be very good if most people wanted to build a strong emotional bond before having a sexual relationship. My boyfriend had another problem. He could enjoy me as a person, we talked a lot, but he could not have sex with me. He has problems with potency, although he is only 32 years old. Sometimes, when I order Viagra online Sildenafil 100mg | Viagra - en ligne en France, we have amazing sex, but my boyfriend doesn't want to take these pills all the time. It's hard for me to accept this.

 

[James972]

Are they linked? Are they independent of one another? Most will agree that one can be sexually attracted without being romantically attracted, even if they claim that they need both. It few seem to consider it possible to be romantic attracted without being sexually attracted.

Thoughts?

The idea is to have both so families can form and children will have much needed long term parents

 

[Lutherf]

Are they linked? Are they independent of one another? Most will agree that one can be sexually attracted without being romantically attracted, even if they claim that they need both. It few seem to consider it possible to be romantic attracted without being sexually attracted.

Thoughts?

Had a business meeting today at a local restaurant. On my way out, as I was talking to a friend, a young lady in a midriff shirt, rock hard abs and a substantial bosom walked by. There was, frankly, nothing romantic in my attraction.

 

[CLAX1911]

Are they linked? Are they independent of one another? Most will agree that one can be sexually attracted without being romantically attracted, even if they claim that they need both. It few seem to consider it possible to be romantic attracted without being sexually attracted.

Thoughts?

I don't even know if that's quantifiable. Based on the clarification in post number 3, love isn't an attraction. It's frankly difficult to even fully define love.

 

[Josie]

Romance comes out of an emotional and sexual attraction.

Sexual attraction doesn't require romance.

 

[lurchadams]

Are they linked? Are they independent of one another? Most will agree that one can be sexually attracted without being romantically attracted, even if they claim that they need both. It few seem to consider it possible to be romantic attracted without being sexually attracted.

Thoughts?

Option 3 happens a lot. That's why mostly married men, but also married women have one night affairs.

 

[maquiscat]

The idea is to have both so families can form and children will have much needed long term parents

This point I should irrelavant to the question. Especially when we consider that for the longest time Love was irrelavant to marriage.

 

[maquiscat]

Had a business meeting today at a local restaurant. On my way out, as I was talking to a friend, a young lady in a midriff shirt, rock hard abs and a substantial bosom walked by. There was, frankly, nothing romantic in my attraction.

And that is the common occurrence sans both at the same time. Question is can the opposite occur?

 

[Lutherf]

And that is the common occurrence sans both at the same time. Question is can the opposite occur?

Maybe 30 years ago I'd have women lusting after me but now I kind of resemble Buddha more than Adonis so the odds aren't in my favor.

 

[americanwoman]

Are they linked? Are they independent of one another? Most will agree that one can be sexually attracted without being romantically attracted, even if they claim that they need both. It few seem to consider it possible to be romantic attracted without being sexually attracted.

Thoughts?

I used to think they were completely linked without exception but as I grow older I do think it is possible to be independent of each other. For me personally, I would want both.

 

[ReverendHellh0und]

Are they linked? Are they independent of one another? Most will agree that one can be sexually attracted without being romantically attracted, even if they claim that they need both. It few seem to consider it possible to be romantic attracted without being sexually attracted.

Thoughts?

You have never banged a chick who just wouldn't shut the **** up? impdaddy:

 

[James972]

This point I should irrelavant to the question. Especially when we consider that for the longest time Love was irrelavant to marriage.

yes and then we made it relevant and the species took off since kids need to be loved by the people who created them.

 

[maquiscat]

yes and then we made it relevant and the species took off since kids need to be loved by the people who created them.

Which is still irrelevant to the OP question. Whether or not romantic and sexual attraction are linked or not is not influenced by the potential for offspring.

 

[James972]

Which is still irrelevant to the OP question. Whether or not romantic and sexual attraction are linked or not is not influenced by the potential for offspring.

actually whether they are linked depends a lot on culture. If you have a conservative intellectual culture they are linked, if you have a stupid liberal culture they are not. Make sense now?

 

[ataraxia]

Are they linked? Are they independent of one another? Most will agree that one can be sexually attracted without being romantically attracted, even if they claim that they need both. It few seem to consider it possible to be romantic attracted without being sexually attracted.

Thoughts?

It may have something to do with the balance of hormones. If you are secreting primarily sex hormones, like testosterone, it's going to be primarily sexual attraction, lots of lust and libido, "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" kind of scenarios. But when mixed in with dopamine, you start getting more romantic love, intimacy, attachment, etc...

I think maybe some specialists in the field can tell us what kind of people, or what kind of situations, lead to what kind of hormone mix. There are many "players" who later go on to settle down nicely with someone, and vice versa. Why? I'm no expert in the field.

 

[ataraxia]

actually whether they are linked depends a lot on culture. If you have a conservative intellectual culture they are linked, if you have a stupid liberal culture they are not. Make sense now?

"Conservative intellectual culture"?
What the heck is that? Are those the ones that have creationist museums where plastic cavemen giddying up on dinosaurs, and they believe global warming is a Chinese hoax? :lamo

 

[James972]

"Conservative intellectual culture"?
What the heck is that? Are those the ones that have creationist museums where plastic cavemen giddying up on dinosaurs, and they believe global warming is a Chinese hoax? :lamo

conservative intellectual culture was practiced by our Founders for example. Do you understand?

 

[James972]

It may have something to do with the balance of hormones. If you are secreting primarily sex hormones, like testosterone, it's going to be primarily sexual attraction, lots of lust and libido, "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" kind of scenarios. But when mixed in with dopamine, you start getting more romantic love, intimacy, attachment, etc...

I think maybe some specialists in the field can tell us what kind of people, or what kind of situations, lead to what kind of hormone mix. There are many "players" who later go on to settle down nicely with someone, and vice versa. Why? I'm no expert in the field.

romantic familial culture disappeared from liberal ghettos thanks to liberal culture not thanks to hormones.

 

[maquiscat]

actually whether they are linked depends a lot on culture. If you have a conservative intellectual culture they are linked, if you have a stupid liberal culture they are not. Make sense now?

Not at all. You have provided no evidence or argument to show that they are linked, that is to say, that you can't have one without the other, as opposed to being independent even if they commonly occur together.

To give an example, marriage and having children commonly occur together. But you can marry without having or even trying to have children, and you can have children without marriage. They are two independent things, even if they commonly occur together.

 

[ataraxia]

conservative intellectual culture was practiced by our Founders for example. Do you understand?

No, they were very much liberals. You need to become more "intellectual".

"During almost fifteen centuries has the legal establishment of Christianity been on trial. What have been its fruits? More or less in all places, pride and indolence in the Clergy, ignorance and servility in the laity, in both, superstition, bigotry and persecution...In some instances they have been seen to erect a spiritual tyranny on the ruins of the civil authority; on many instances they have been seen upholding the thrones of political tyranny; in no instance have they been the guardians of the liberties of the people. Rulers who wish to subvert the public liberty may have found an established clergy convenient auxiliaries. A just government, instituted to secure and perpetuate it, needs them not."
[Pres. James Madison,A Memorial and Remonstrance, addressed to the General Assembly of the Commonwealth of Virginia, 1785]

 

[James972]

No, they were very much liberals. You need to become more "intellectual".

if our Founders were liberals then they were liberals for very very tiny govt, In fact their govt was about 1% the size of todays on inflation adjusted per capita basis.