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Improving Attitudes for Chores

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I sometimes delay doing chores, and I have lately started making lists of possible attitudes, to have about chores, so that I may better select a good attitude, and recognize a bad attitude, that may need changing.

I enjoy debating, like as in making other people wrong. Sometimes I will delay doing a chore, apparently partly for the purpose of demostating that someone else is wrong, maybe like for not doing their part. Sometimes I defy rules, that brings more trouble and aggravation, than if I had taken a more self-sufficient attitude, and made more of an effort to get the chore done earlier.

I believe that there must be many people who have better attitudes about chores, as compared to my attitudes.

Self-Improvement is probably a good idea. I thought I would start some accountability, like starting a thread.


Found a thread on Time Managment addressing similar issues:

http://www.debatepolitics.com/self-help-and-advice/137565-time-management.html


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I like to put things off until the very last second. It makes me more efficient, at least that is what I tell the cleaning lady when she walks in a mutters "Holy Hell". :)

(I kid, of course, I don't have a cleaning lady at my house. They might steal my coupons or something)
 
Gladiator said:
I sometimes delay doing chores, and I have lately started making lists of possible attitudes, to have about chores, so that I may better select a good attitude, and recognize a bad attitude, that may need changing.

I enjoy debating, like as in making other people wrong. Sometimes I will delay doing a chore, apparently partly for the purpose of demostating that someone else is wrong, maybe like for not doing their part. Sometimes I defy rules, that brings more trouble and aggravation, than if I had taken a more self-sufficient attitude, and made more of an effort to get the chore done earlier.

I believe that there must be many people who have better attitudes about chores, as compared to my attitudes.

Self-Improvement is probably a good idea. I thought I would start some accountability, like starting a thread.


Found a thread on Time Managment addressing similar issues:

http://www.debatepolitics.com/self-help-and-advice/137565-time-management.html




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So you have time to make the "attitudes" list but not to do the chores?
 
Lutherf said:
So you have time to make the "attitudes" list but not to do the chores?
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How can I start a chore, without being sure that I have the right attitude?

If I beleive the chore needs to be done perfectly, and I have no idea of how to achieve perfection, in that chore, how can I even start the chore? Some degree of draft runs, or tolerable levels of imperfection or percentage of mistakes, needs to be planned out!

I have achieved a high level of procrastination, as youthful exhuberation is diminishing.

Not to mention, that if I am in Denaial about the urgency of a Chore, I first need to administer solo therapy, or call my therapist, to even priortize chores that are not even on the radar screen.


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Gladiator said:
How can I start a chore, without being sure that I have the right attitude?

If I beleive the chore needs to be done perfectly, and I have no idea of how to achieve perfection, in that chore, how can I even start the chore? Some degree of draft runs, or tolerable levels of imperfection or percentage of mistakes, needs to be planned out!

I have achieved a high level of procrastination, as youthful exhuberation is diminishing.

Not to mention, that if I am in Denaial about the urgency of a Chore, I first need to administer solo therapy, or call my therapist, to even priortize chores that are not even on the radar screen.


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Hmm....years ago we had a sure fire therapy for that. It was called "manual disposition realignment" and generally involved dragging the objective around by the ear and relocating them at a position where the task was most likely to be accomplished followed by some words of encouragement.
 
Gladiator said:
I sometimes delay doing chores, and I have lately started making lists of possible attitudes, to have about chores, so that I may better select a good attitude, and recognize a bad attitude, that may need changing.

I enjoy debating, like as in making other people wrong. Sometimes I will delay doing a chore, apparently partly for the purpose of demostating that someone else is wrong, maybe like for not doing their part. Sometimes I defy rules, that brings more trouble and aggravation, than if I had taken a more self-sufficient attitude, and made more of an effort to get the chore done earlier.

I believe that there must be many people who have better attitudes about chores, as compared to my attitudes.

Self-Improvement is probably a good idea. I thought I would start some accountability, like starting a thread.


Found a thread on Time Managment addressing similar issues:

http://www.debatepolitics.com/self-help-and-advice/137565-time-management.html

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It sounds like you might just be a pain in someone's backside. The object is to get the chore done. Not sit and commiserate about it for an hour-and-a-half discussing different ways of doing it. Not planning every step of the way. Dive in and do it. I'd venture to guess the times you're so put off about doing chores are when you're doing them for someone else. Like wifey.

If you had a flat tire? You'd just change the damned thing.
 
i overcame procrastination through scheduling; there are certain days when i do certain tasks. eventually, you just expect to be doing a certain task on a specific day. that makes it a lot less frustrating.
 
Thanks for the comments.


Here are a few of my latest additoins to my list of possible attitudes for getting chores started/finished.


What habits do I have that are making this task more difficult, or more time consuming, than need be?

What habit can I consider changing, that might make this type of chore easier, or less problematic?

Is there any part of the chore that would be easier, if someone were available to help me, and how would I ask the person for help?

What all is involved in getting some help with this task?





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Maybe you should look at it this way: does the chore need to be done or not?

Sure, I may not like doing chores around the house, but they need to be done, so I do them. I have a checklist I made for every room in the house, and I spend the weekend going through the checklist until I am done. I take breaks when I want and I know the approximate time it takes to do each task. Breaking things down into manageable pieces works best for me. I certainly don't waste time thinking about getting the right attitude, because I know in the end I will feel good that I have a clean house.
 
Gladiator said:
How can I start a chore, without being sure that I have the right attitude?

If I beleive the chore needs to be done perfectly, and I have no idea of how to achieve perfection, in that chore, how can I even start the chore? Some degree of draft runs, or tolerable levels of imperfection or percentage of mistakes, needs to be planned out!

I have achieved a high level of procrastination, as youthful exhuberation is diminishing.

Not to mention, that if I am in Denaial about the urgency of a Chore, I first need to administer solo therapy, or call my therapist, to even priortize chores that are not even on the radar screen.


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A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow.
 
Too often, I think of chores as drudgery. Some chores are empowering. It is probably important for me to recognize that effort on some chores is empowering, and should not be considered drudgery.
 
People with ADD don't like chores. If they were living things, we'd probably kill them.
 
Dishes are always first. They soak while other things get done. I grew up without a dishwasher, so obviously this won't apply to everyone. Then laundry gets done, as it's another "set it and forget it" chore (love you Ron Popeil).

Everything else, play music while you do it - or in my case, blast SportsCenter from the TV on the loudest setting.

Dah-duh-dum, dah-duh-dum.
 
Gladiator said:
Too often, I think of chores as drudgery. Some chores are empowering. It is probably important for me to recognize that effort on some chores is empowering, and should not be considered drudgery.
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For me, it's all about the sense of smell. I open the windows, turn on the music really loud, and get the best smelling "CLEAN" cleaner I can find. The house smells WONDERFUL afterwards and I feel so good.

Don't get me wrong. I hate cleaning house, but for me the key is get up and moving and don't stop till I'm done. If I sit down.. I might as well forget it.
 
I'm currently making plans on moving in with TGND so I don't have to do any household chores ever again.
 
Gipper said:
I'm currently making plans on moving in with TGND so I don't have to do any household chores ever again.
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Wanna make a bet on that? /hands Gipper a mop
 
Gipper said:
Woman's work. While you're at it, bring me a beer and massage my feet.

Also, this remote needs batteries. Until then, stand by the TV and flip the channels until I say stop.
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:lamo

Oh dear. Your ass is going to be EXTREMELY sore if that's how you think I run my house.
 
Gipper said:
My house. When I get there, I'm taking possession.
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Yeah, okay. You keep telling yourself that. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to polish some silver.

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Gladiator said:
Too often, I think of chores as drudgery. Some chores are empowering. It is probably important for me to recognize that effort on some chores is empowering, and should not be considered drudgery.
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Tonight my attiyude toward chores is that I have done enough for today, and I am going to relax the rest of the evening.

I probably should make a list of tasks to be done at the end of the day, when I am ready to quit. I created a Task Switching folder. My list of attitudes is getting longer. FIND SOMONE TO HELP, is may latest attitude on my list.


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