Kelzie said:
:roll: Yes that's exactly what I'm suggesting. Picking a random guy to pay child support.
The fact that you think it's okay for a dad to "not wish" to be some kids father after raising him/her for 15 years is very telling.
It's a logical extensiion of the flawed reasoning your implementing in order to rationalize FELONY THEFT of time and money; as well as severe emotional abuse of BOTH the man and the child.
And I never said "it's okay" but the fact of the matter is it should be HIS CHOICE! Men AND WOMEN BOTH routinely choose to abandon children for a number of reasons. Most people don't realize this but technically, until a child reaches the age of majority they can be adopted. That means that a MOTHER could put an 8 year old, 10 year old, 15 year old etc up for adoption/foster care. Except for newborns, is it, to use your word "okay"? HELL NO, it's a crappy thing to do and no child should have to be put through that. BUT IS IT LEGAL? YES! Divorce is a horrible thing as well and in an ideal world no child would have to go through that, but it's not a perfect world. And to strip a man of 18 years of his life, usually the "best years of his life", which he could be spending in search of a good, caring, and HONEST wife is absolutely criminal.
And to tick you off even further i'd say that if the woman does decieve him and gets him to pay for 5, 8, 10 15, etc years of time and money, i'd say that if he wants it, he should get sole custody. WHY? because she has proven beyond any doubt that she lacks the responsibility to raise a child. Any woman that is willing to subject a child to the kind of emotional trauma that will undoubtedly result of such a situation shouldn't have custody of said child. If he wants to let her have visitation or custody rights that should be up to him.
Bottom line is that the current system allows children to be used as weapons in a womans arsenal. the message must be sent that drawing that weapon has grave consequences.