Did you? It was a complete bust; the economic impact was completely unnoticeable.
Yeah,...we're pretty much certain that you've never been in this situation. You have no idea how much is lost due to "starting over". Networking? It's a complete luck of the draw to just happen to know a guy who knows about an open job; there's no ability to say to yourself, "Hmm, in 5 years that guy's gonna be in the right place to help me get a job, when I lose my current job, in the future." I have used networking, and it works great, but it wasn't predictable or something I should rely on.
Neither he, nor anyone could have foreseen this recession; we shouldn't be punished for planning on a good future and working within that expectation . He wasn't irresponsible for having children and not "foreseeing" that life wasn't going to keep going up. What you guys don't seem to get is that life isn't linear; it doesn't get better just because you gain skills, work hard, and use your intelligence. You can do everything right and still fail. In that same line of thought, income doesn't always increase over time; you can make more each year for a good period of your life, and then lose it all and have to take a crap job, indefinitely. I should know, I'm making about a 1/3 of what I made last year, with no "good jobs" in sight. Losing my last job was 100% due to budget cuts and mismanagement; I did everything I could do in that job and this job, but my pay is going down instead of up.
For the most part, sure. We've already noted that this isn't always a reasonable option, especially for a family man, but it's an option for many unemployed people. The issue is all due to the non-linearity I spoke of before; whether they "can" just start over, doesn't mean they "should" if they've taken on responsibilities in good faith when they were doing better. Family comes first, not profit, and simple economics advice is a poor response to such a complex problem. For a conservative, you don't seem to care about traditional family values, which rely on stable homes and parenting facetime (all of which you're telling him to give up).