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I messed up and meant for the votes to be public. Can a Mod change that? Not sure.
Man part of me can't wait to be a dad and the other part of me thinks about all the other cool **** I could do in my life if I didn't have to spend the whole middle part of it raising kids. More and more people I know are foregoing having kids (for now, anyway). Many simply can't afford it, others feel like the worlds not a great place to bring a kid into these days, and some just don't like the idea of raising kids (or some combination of the three).
we're currently planning to expand our family. neither of us have kids yet. i hope that an introverted dude like me can be a good dad.
Nah. Got fixed some years ago when I finally found a doctor who would do it on a childfree woman, and it's still the best money I've ever spent. Never been something I've found remotely appealing, for whatever reason. People have been telling me I'll change my mind forever (and they're constantly upping the age marker for when that's supposed to happen as I grow older and keep missing them), but here I am, still completely disinterested in the idea.
And the older I get, the more I also think it was the right call for my ethics. Even if I were to wake up one day with a total personality transplant that made child-rearing seem anything more than boring at best, I would feel it pretty questionable to create one of my own with the current world situation. I'd much rather adopt instead, in the event of said personality transplant.
But at this point, I think the people insisting I'm going to have a personality transplant might need a new crystal ball. Clearly whatever one they're using for their current predictions isn't working properly.
What are your thoughts?
Children - Are They Worth It?
The time. The money. The Effort. The caring. The mess. The poopy diapers.
I certainly hope so because without them our species will cease to exist in the grand scheme of things.
Nothing personal to you meant by this but I could not care less if humans disappeared from the earth after I was gone.
I think there is a certain amount of visceral satisfaction from seeing your children grow into
adults that you respect and can have a conversation with.
Grand children are even better than children!
That's kind of sad though. I like to think about all the great things humankind, especially my children, grandchildren and beyond, will be accomplishing after I am gone and can in a very small, unimportant way, will be able to say I participated in that. Also enjoy the satisfaction that I envisioned some of that when I was here. And I hope we get to watch after we are done here on Earth.
I voted "Yes," but I've never been able to see who voted for what after I cast my vote anyway. I can click "See Results" only before I vote and then see the names of those who voted, but after I vote, it defaults to just the bar graph and the numbers.
You can click on the number of votes to the right of the question (if it is set up to show votes) and it will show the page displaying who voted for what.
We will spend our time doing one thing or another, what better way is there to spend your time then educating and raising a child of your own?What are your thoughts?
Children - Are They Worth It?
The time. The money. The Effort. The caring. The mess. The poopy diapers.
What are your thoughts?
Children - Are They Worth It?
The time. The money. The Effort. The caring. The mess. The poopy diapers.
we're currently planning to expand our family. neither of us have kids yet. i hope that an introverted dude like me can be a good dad.
I imagine the entire rest of our beautiful planet cheering for joy.
I suppose it is possible that some will be glad that you or I are gone. But I also am quite aware that any of us can be somebody's inspiration or hero, unbeknownst to us. I do not take that responsibility lightly. And it is a rare person who nobody loves at all.
What are your thoughts?
Children - Are They Worth It?
The time. The money. The Effort. The caring. The mess. The poopy diapers.
we're currently planning to expand our family. neither of us have kids yet. i hope that an introverted dude like me can be a good dad.
Mine, however, did.
If you were expressing a hope that we'll all leave together, that is a noble wish. But. . .I think since we can't count on that in this generation, we need to live as though how we live now will benefit those who will live on after us.
Huh, I dont know why but I thought you were a woman. Guess I wasnt very observant of your profile.
Good luck with your budding family.
You are reading way more into my statement than is there. I was speaking to something after I was gone. ANd who cares when 'we all go?" Nice thought but that wont happen.
I imagine a planet without humans would be just fine and dandy.
It is SO annoying when people presume and tell you you'll regret it someday.
One thing they often say is..."but who will take care of you when you're old?"
Back when we were considering having kids, I asked my mother that. And she's a nurse and was doing a stretch at a nursing home.
She said, "No, because there's no guarantee they will."
And we both agreed that that's a pretty selfish reason to have kids.
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