The One that Got Away.....

Throughout the course of our lives most of us have relationships that run the full gamut between success and failure. We have relationships where we end up breaking hearts and relationships where our hearts end up broken. We have relationships that end in disappointment and then we have relationships that are life fulfilling answers to everything we’ve ever prayed for.

I am talking about a relationship that just ends. It doesn’t end because someone cheated or lost interest and it doesn’t end because of some great misdeed. Sometimes the universe just conspires against a relationship never allowing it to reach its full potential despite every feeling we have that leads us to believe it should be the contrary.

For me it was a girl named Brenda and I spent 9 months with her out West Coast. I was living a different a different lifestyle back then. We were introduced by my blood-brutha. Hit it off and were living together. Albeit it was her place. I mean it was all there. Everything I wanted in a woman. She was good looking, intelligent and street smart. She was a brunette with long curly and wavy hair, she wore glasses sometimes. Look good in anything she wore. Casual or dress. She could dance, play chess and was up on anything and everything with all those we knew and were involved with. Including those that weren't part of our crew. Both of us were young and she was from out there. We thought about what it would be like if we just pulled up and split. None to see again. Nature of the world we lived in.

We were intimate and felt very comfortable and natural with each other. Sex was dynamic. To me.....she was like the better half of me. Not like the type that had to remind of me of things all the time or was checking up on me. But the type that knew me, moods and behavior, when I was uncomfortable around other people. In conversations too. It's wherein she would magically appear. Redirect, or deflect all the while hanging onto my arm. Always smiling from the when the day broke with the dawn until she went to sleep. A person that just seem to ignite one and make one always feel better about pretty much all things.

I was working as a Courier.....and life was good. But then with all good things comes realities wherein one must make a choice. People and Business. Sometimes these cross in the worst of ways. Which due to what was going on around me. I had to make that choice. Which I did and I left that life behind me. Which she even knew when I made the choice in my own mind. She knew I would head back home to Chicago. By that time she just couldn't pick up and leave. She had things going on with her family. It was the last time I ever saw her. Held each other.....looked into each others eyes.....kissed.....hugged.....the kiss on the cheek. Never to see each other ever again. Or to know where they are. But I have always had the feeling that if I would have stayed. She and I would still be together this very day.

So what about any of you? Have you all ever had a relationship that seemed so equally perfect and doomed at the same time? Has fate, time and circumstance ever conspired or hated on you something awful?

Ever met an amazing someone in a coffee shop, exchanged numbers only to lose the number before you had a chance to make the call, never to see the person again?

Do you have a person that stands out in your mind as.....The One Who Got Away?

As a life long bachelor I have one person that stands out as the true love of my life. But I was not even close to making a commitment being 22 yrs. old. She was truly deserving of a wonderful life. Tragically, she drown scuba diving a year after we separated. I learned of this when I called her home wanting to see if we could go out as we split on friendly but emotional terms as I had to go back to finish school. Very few days pass that she is not in me. Granted even had we got back together making the move to marry would have been an issue with me. We all carry sadness with us and in part it makes us more appreciative of the good things that come to us. One great film about "what might have been" is "Splendor In The Grass". Life is what it turns out to be.

rhinefire said:

As a life long bachelor I have one person that stands out as the true love of my life. But I was not even close to making a commitment being 22 yrs. old. She was truly deserving of a wonderful life. Tragically, she drown scuba diving a year after we separated. I learned of this when I called her home wanting to see if we could go out as we split on friendly but emotional terms as I had to go back to finish school. Very few days pass that she is not in me. Granted even had we got back together making the move to marry would have been an issue with me. We all carry sadness with us and in part it makes us more appreciative of the good things that come to us. One great film about "what might have been" is "Splendor In The Grass". Life is what it turns out to be.

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Heya RF. :2wave: Thanks for sharing.....myself sometime I can smell her at those times when thought of. I call it inhaling a memory.

There was one I thought was the one until I put an engagement ring on it and she morphed into psycho gal. I am perfectly happy with the one I have--she is mean and has her own life independent of ours and lets me have mine independent of her.

Fisher said:

There was one I thought was the one until I put an engagement ring on it and she morphed into psycho gal. I am perfectly happy with the one I have--she is mean and has her own life independent of ours and lets me have mine independent of her.

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Mornin Fisher.....yeah I have the OL too. Which I met her a couple of decades later. So for you then.....you got the one that never walked away.

I did. Until I ran into her many years later and saw what she had become.

Gee, thanks for that cool story MMC. The heavily overshadowed romantic in me loves a sweet love story from time to time, but it wasn't in my hand of cards this time around. That made me smile, even though it is sad.

CRUE CAB said:

I did. Until I ran into her many years later and saw what she had become.

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Heya Crue. :2wave: What do you mean if you don't mind me asking? Something like time or fate got in the way?

When I first read the title of this thread, I thought it was another fish story. Actually, have enjoyed reading the posts.
I don't have any stories about the one that got away. I caught the one I wanted. Now mind you there have been times over the years we both were ready to walk away....... so glad we didn't.

Well Hell's kitchen is about to open. Lots of things to accomplish before tomorrow. I gotta go wrestle with a turkey. Cheers!

lizzie said:

Gee, thanks for that cool story MMC. The heavily overshadowed romantic in me loves a sweet love story from time to time, but it wasn't in my hand of cards this time around. That made me smile, even though it is sad.

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Mornin' Liz. I once was told.....Depends on who the Dealer is.

She could dance, play chess

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OMG. a woman to play chess with - I should be so lucky. "Morning babe - up for a Sicilian Defense today?" :mrgreen:

I get attracted to intense, complicated women; but since women are "complictaed" to begin with,
never can figure them out, and the relationships just don't last.

They are wonderful while they do though. Pretty much given up on the idea of permanent partner.

MMC said:

Heya Crue. :2wave: What do you mean if you don't mind me asking? Something like time or fate got in the way?

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I followed her right out of highschool to college that she wanted to go to. It was in Ft Lauderdale, so I was good with it.
After she graduated, she wanted to move to DC where her father was stationed in the Air Force. He had rose to Colonel. Good guy though.
My problem was I was not in any mind to follow her fathers career all over the country depending on his next duty station and she was just way to attached to her parents, and their money. To do otherwise.
Fast forward 20 years, she tracks me down. My marriage was almost over at that point so we hooked up. Not long after though it was obvious, even though daddy was retired, she was not going to gut the apron strings. Her husband was a douchebag from the word go. I met him when she brought him down for her 20 year highschool reunion. I graduated a year before her.
He even volunteered their room to me, if he could video tape us. I was floored, shocked and frankly pissed. It embarrassed her too because he said it in front of a bunch of our friends from school.
But in the end, she would not leave him because her parents had bought them a business years earlier and she was not going to fight to get her half.
This went on for a year or so of her coming down here for weekends and I just wasn't going to be a Florida vacation for someone.
Bottom line, her parents money was way more important. I don't respect people that cant or wont stand on their own two feet. Even if they are in their 40s.

annata said:

OMG. a woman to play chess with - I should be so lucky. "Morning babe - up for a Sicilian Defense today?" :mrgreen:

I get attracted to intense, complicated women; but since women are "complictaed" to begin with,
never can figure them out, and the relationships just don't last.

They are wonderful while they do though. Pretty much given up on the idea of permanent partner.

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Yeah Annata.....and it was a good thing I was Sicilian to, cuz she didn't just know how to play defense. :lol:

this would be the one that got away -the redhead.
This was shot at the opening of the Moody Blues "Threshold Record" store in Cobham, England. She cut the ribbon.

She was fantastic- we shared a passion for the Moodys, and rock and roll; until she "found out" she was gay;
so who knows about that if i had uprooted from my job to moved to Boston. It was "complicated"

MMC said:

Yeah Annata.....and it was a good thing I was Sicilian to, cuz she didn't just know how to play defense. :lol:

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ugh. I was married to a psychopath - a Playboy bunny ( I was young and in lust).
One nasty creature; would would threaten to cut my Boys off; Got out of that relationship with them intact - never looked back

annata said:

ugh. I was married to a psychopath - a Playboy bunny ( I was young and in lust).
One nasty creature; would would threaten to cut my Boys off; Got out of that relationship with them intact - never looked back

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Myself, I never had to deal with one that was excessively obsessed.....course there would be a lot of women in the US that will tell you the same thing. Should you get caught cheating on them. I know some girls that would, straight up tell you.....I catch you cheating on me. I wont say anything. I'll just wait until you go to sleep and I'll cut your balls off. :shock:

Trust me.....they aint kidding. :lol:

MMC said:

Myself, I never had to deal with one that was excessively obsessed.....course there would be a lot of women in the US that will tell you the same thing. Should you get caught cheating on them. I know some girls that would, straight up tell you.....I catch you cheating on me. I wont say anything. I'll just wait until you go to sleep and I'll cut your balls off. :shock:

Trust me.....they aint kidding. :lol:

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cheating is one thing ( not that it allows such), psychopathic delusions, quite another

Yeah, I remember the one that got away. She picked the lock.

Gipper said:

Yeah, I remember the one that got away. She picked the lock.

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Yeah well.....I never was much up on trying to lock another down. My concept was if they didn't want to be with me.....then there was no reason for them to be there.

MMC said:

Yeah well.....I never was much up on trying to lock another down. My concept was if they didn't want to be with me.....then there was no reason for them to be there.

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