Datamonkee
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“It seems like a pretty good idea for professional women, who can proceed with their careers and have someone at home they can trust to watch their children. It solves the day care problem” said Luci Malin, vice chairman of Utah NOW in a telephone interview Monday.
“This isn’t blatant support for polygamy...But maybe it can work for some people, and maybe it can make raising children easier” for those trying to juggle careers and motherhood” said Ellen George, state secretary for Utah NOW.
Polygamy may be abhorrent to most Americans, but in the global community it is common, normal and accepted.
Although the percentage of men in the world who have more than one wife is relatively small, as many as a third of the world's population belongs to a community that allows it, says Israeli anthropologist Joseph Ginat.
There are many plural marriages in Africa, the Middle East and in Asia, said Ginat, professor of social and culture anthropology at the University of Haifa.
Many American Indian tribes allow polygamy; several experimental Christian groups practice it. And, of course, there are those famous offshoots of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Polygamy is the most prevalent in Muslim countries where there are no laws against it, and in communities that are more traditional and agrarian.
I've often said that if polygamy didn't exist, the modern American career woman would have invented it.
Because, despite its reputation, polygamy is the one lifestyle that offers an independent woman a real
chance to "have it all".
One of my heroes is Dr. Martha Hughes Cannon, a physician and a plural wife who in 1896 became the
first woman legislator in any U.S. state or territory. Dr. Cannon once said, "You show me a woman who
thinks about something besides cookstoves and washtubs and baby flannels, and I will show you nine
times out of ten a successful mother". With all due respect, Gloria Steinem has nothing on Dr. Cannon.
As a journalist, I work many unpredictable hours in a fast-paced environment. The news determines my
schedule. But am I calling home, asking my husband to please pick up the kids and pop something in the
microwave and get them to bed on time just in case I'm really late? Because of my plural marriage
arrangement, I don't have to worry. I know that when I have to work late my daughter will be at home
surrounded by loving adults with whom she is comfortable and who know her schedule without my telling
them. My eight-year-old has never seen the inside of a day-care center, and my husband has never eaten
a TV dinner. And I know that when I get home from work, if I'm dog-tired and stressed-out, I can be
alone and guilt-free. It's a rare day when all eight of my husband's wives are tired and stressed at the
same time.
Are we actually viewing that as a pro? I can't remember the last time I heard someone say the US should really act more like those predominately Muslim role model countries.Polygamy is the most prevalent in Muslim countries where there are no laws against
Datamonkee said:Many people think of polygamy as wrong or outdated.
Datamonkee said:Many also think that it is illegal. ... You cannot REGISTER more than one with our current government.
Datamonkee said:What do you think?
talloulou said:If my man thinks I need help taking care of the house he can hire a MAID. I don't share my man though I'm sure if he thought I'd accept it he'd be all for it.
Are we actually viewing that as a pro? I can't remember the last time I heard someone say the US should really act more like those predominately Muslim role model countries.
Plus I love all the stuff about how these extra wives are gonna help me cook, clean, and care for the children. Yeah right...I can see the arguments now "YOU DO IT!"
"WHY SHOULD I?" "NO, YOU DO IT!"
And every polygamy group I have ever seen on TV has always had a "head" wife, top dog if you will. Who wants to be the underdogs? Not to mention the "head" wife is usually the oldest and the rest are successively younger and younger. The last thing I want is my husband adding a new girl who's younger every couple of years.
Good Grief
Plus do you realize women who live together get their periods at the same time? No house should have more than one woman bleeding at once in my opinion.
talloulou said:And every polygamy group I have ever seen on TV has always had a "head" wife, top dog if you will. Who wants to be the underdogs? Not to mention the "head" wife is usually the oldest and the rest are successively younger and younger. The last thing I want is my husband adding a new girl who's younger every couple of years.
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