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Why do we not want to recognize polyamorous unions again?
There isn't a lot of evidence that they benefit society. What studies have been done of them have found that they are difficult to sustain without substantial wealth, the wives often compete so that their children will get the attention of the father, and in some sects, the boys of the family are kicked out of the family because they pose as competition to their fathers for young wives.
In reality the "gay marriage will lead to polygamy" argument is humorous because the opposite is true. Polgyamy has lead to same sex marriage. Polygamy existed before same sex marriage, was outlawed before same sex marriage, and is the first argument brought up when considering same sex marriage. People have effectively used the banning of polygamy as the defining factor for two person marriages. However, the flaw in that definition is that it doesn't justify restricting the genders of the two people getting married to being different. So people have no put the wagon in front of the horse and now argue that what they have used to define marriage, the banning of polygamy, will fall apart if two people of the same sex are allowed to marry. It doesn't make a lot of sense, but meh.
Gays as Individuals Will Be Better Off:
Studies repeatedly demonstrate that people who marry tend to be better off financially, emotionally, psychologically, and even medically. Marriage is not universally an improvement (women, for example, can actually be worse off in some ways), but it generally is. Because of this, it stands to reason that legalized gay marriage will ultimately prove beneficial for gay individuals. This, in turn, will be better for gay couples, the families of gays, and communities where gays live.
Gay Couples Will Be Better Off:
Perhaps the most important aspect of marriage is that it establishes a legal and social relationship which makes it easier for people to “be there” for each other — economically, emotionally, and psychologically. Most of the rights and privileges that go with marriage are, in fact, ways to help spouses support each other. Married couples are thus much better off than unmarried couples, giving relationships the ability to grow stronger and deeper.
Again, would it not better if a family of 3, or 5 be able to make sound legal decisions for their loved ones, instead of running from the law, instead of being unable to make choices,a nd being forced to sit by as others do so for them?Families with Gay Members Will Be Better Off:
Because gays can’t marry, it’s very difficult for partners to help each other in difficult situations like medical crises. The burden of support and decision-making typically falls in the laps of other family members when it should fall to one’s chosen life partner. If people know that they can rely upon their relative’s spouse, they can be far less anxious about what will happen to their loved one — not just in the context of a crisis, but in general, too.
Children of Gay Couples Will Be Better Off:
The Christian Right would deny gays the ability to adopt or raise children, but that’s an impossible goal. Children are already being born to, adopted by, and raised by gay couples in increasing numbers. Children in stable, married households can be better off than those who aren’t because both parents can handle decision-making and parenting without worry. Opponents of divorce often cite the negative effects on children; the same can be said against bans on gay marriages.
Communities with Gay Couples Will Be Better Off:
Married couples can help and support each other in a variety of ways because laws and regulations are written to help that happen — for example, people are able to take time off to help their hospitalized spouse. Gay couples who cannot marry don’t receive the same help, so much of what gay partners would do for each other must be shouldered by the community at large, unnecessarily draining resources. By solidifying relationships, gay marriage can help stabilize a community overall.
Gay Marriages Will Help Stabilize Society Generally:
Conservatives who usually oppose gay marriage argue, correctly, that stable families are a cornerstone to a stable society. Families are the smallest social unit in society and trends in the family inevitably affect trends in society as a whole — and vice-versa, of course. Allowing gays to marry will help better integrate them and their relationships into society. Ensuring that gay relationships are stable and receive support will benefit the stability of society overall.
Gay Marriage Could Benefit Marriage Generally:
Opponents of gay marriage argue that it would undermine the institution of marriage, but it’s hard to see how more marriages would be bad for marriage. If anything harms marriage, it is bad marriages where people don’t take marriage seriously — and that’s already too common with heterosexuals. If gay couples in committed relationships are able to formalize their unions as marriages, that can only serve to improve marriage overall by providing more positive role models.
Despite my reputation, I am not that bullheaded
I think many "get it" they just refuse to compromise in their beliefs to admit it.
There are reasons not to do it. The behavior is historically considered deviant.
Religious beliefs say they are bad for society.
Two men, nor two women cannot reproduce on their own.
When you boil it down, all the arguments against gay marriage are "I don't like it so therefore they shouldn't have it."
But you know what worries me lately? Corporate marriage. Let's face it, if corporations are now people, they'll be demanding marriage rights next!
There isn't a lot of evidence that they benefit society.
What studies have been done of them have found that they are difficult to sustain without substantial wealth,
the wives often compete so that their children will get the attention of the father
and in some sects, the boys of the family are kicked out of the family because they pose as competition to their fathers for young wives.
In reality the "gay marriage will lead to polygamy" argument is humorous because the opposite is true. Polgyamy has lead to same sex marriage. Polygamy existed before same sex marriage, was outlawed before same sex marriage, and is the first argument brought up when considering same sex marriage. People have effectively used the banning of polygamy as the defining factor for two person marriages. However, the flaw in that definition is that it doesn't justify restricting the genders of the two people getting married to being different. So people have no put the wagon in front of the horse and now argue that what they have used to define marriage, the banning of polygamy, will fall apart if two people of the same sex are allowed to marry. It doesn't make a lot of sense, but meh.
When you boil it down, all the arguments against gay marriage are "I don't like it so therefore they shouldn't have it."
But you know what worries me lately? Corporate marriage. Let's face it, if corporations are now people, they'll be demanding marriage rights next!
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