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Why is it that most men say they are afraid to hold a newborn(including their own) for fear of breaking them? There's no way they can 'break' them...or is that code for;

"I just don't want to hold the baby''?
 
Eh, myself.....I think it is an image thing with the cradleing the infant. Especially with younger guys.
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herenow1 said:
Why is it that most men say they are afraid to hold a newborn(including their own) for fear of breaking them? There's no way they can 'break' them...or is that code for;

"I just don't want to hold the baby''?
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Maybe most men you know, but, nope babies are fun and cuddly and a guy gets to be all goofy with them...:mrgreen:
 
With experience, we get more comfortable. Certainly, I'm very comfortable now that my son has trained me.

I'm a labor person as much as I'm a business person. I've always had strength and the feeling that I'm rough with things. It was uncomfortable holding something so small and easily hurt when a little bit of damage would carry so much guilt. I imagine that most guys at least feel strong or capable of doing damage. We really don't want to hurt those sweet little babies.

Plus, ya, for some reason it's just uncomfortable at first.
 
Connery said:
Maybe most men you know, but, nope babies are fun and cuddly and a guy gets to be all goofy with them...:mrgreen:
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Agreed.....I didnt have a problem when mine was born. Which did not include, holding them up to the Sky and Proclaiming.....I have a son! In the Loudest of yells possible!
 
New babies don't do anything, to be honest. I never know what to do with them.
 
MMC said:
Agreed.....I didnt have a problem when mine was born. Which did not include, holding them up to the Sky and Proclaiming.....I have a son! In the Loudest of yells possible!
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Neither did I, I just knew my purpose in life and dropped everything to be be the primary care giver to my child. Perhaps that is symbolically holding him up to the sky and making such a proclamation, maybe not, but I will tell you take my degrees, take my awards, take all that I have spent a lifetime working for and it pales in comparison to being the father to my boy. Does not make me a good person, does not make me anything other than what I know i have wanted since I was 14 years old and that was to be a father.

So when I see a man holding his son "up to the sky" I see a man that wants to be a good parent, a power of example, someone who wants to be a role model. That is a man that I have respect for.
 
Risky Thicket said:
New babies don't do anything, to be honest. I never know what to do with them.
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Sure they do, they give us a chance to love, to stand in wonderment how this little one needs us to protect, feed and keep them safe. They provide a special sense of purpose to those who wish to feel that.
 
herenow1 said:
Why is it that most men say they are afraid to hold a newborn(including their own) for fear of breaking them? There's no way they can 'break' them...or is that code for;

"I just don't want to hold the baby''?
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some of us tend to inadvertently break fragile objects
baby = fragile being
but, if you notice, in no time, we figure it out and then have to be restrained from throwing them in the air, releasing and then catching them before they hit
 

I feel the same as you. Althought I did not look so much to the family life growing up. But I always knew that as the First born of my time. That I wanted to extend that family bloodline. Morover in wanting my firstborn to be a son. I would end with two and I was fortunate enough at the time to own my buisness. So I always worked my buisness around my time with my sons. I would trade all I have to go back to those days naturally wanting to do somethings over. For the times that I had to miss.

Course my brother was around and at times he wanted to use his Nephew as Bait.....so I had to be on the up and up with that and the women he would bring round.
 
I went to a bris once and the proud father held his baby boy up in the air and......his head hit the ceiling fan. <thwap, thwap, thwap> Luckily the fan blades were made out of balsa wood and the baby wasn't hurt, at least not compared to what the Moil did. lol
 
Babies? No thanks.

Making babies? Sign me up!
 




Next times.....ya sees that. Tells them go outside so the little one Can see all that Heavenly Glory! Specially at Night when the Stars are out!

Hold em up and just listen to them. For a few minutes.....it is amazing just to know what they are experiencing.
 

A bris usually only happens once in baby boys lifetime. There aren't any do overs.
 
I can't speak for all men...only for myself...but I'll never forget the feelings I had when I held my newborn son and laid him in his mother's arms moments after he was born. But, I knew that in three weeks I would be getting on a plane headed for Saudi Arabia so I took advantage of every chance I had to hold him and care for him. I was actually better than my wife at burping him.

Less than a week after I got back home...six months later...my wife was admitted to ICU with severe pneumonia. It turned out she had it for a while but with her job, the house, the baby and with me not around she had not allowed herself the luxury of getting sick. She spent two weeks in the hospital and during that time I took full control. I cared for our son, kept the house clean, visited her every day...AND started our landscaping project that had been interrupted by the Gulf War.

I was in heaven!
 
Moot said:
A bris usually only happens once in baby boys lifetime. There aren't any do overs.
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Thanks for the info.....hopefully you will see another with the births of others out there.
 
MMC said:
Thanks for the info.....hopefully you will see another with the births of others out there.
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LOL Yes, and I'll be sure to warn the proud dads about ceiling fans. lol
 
herenow1 said:
Why is it that most men say they are afraid to hold a newborn(including their own) for fear of breaking them? There's no way they can 'break' them...or is that code for;

"I just don't want to hold the baby''?
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I don't know that most men say that. It's not something I've encountered.
 
Jerry said:
I don't know that most men say that. It's not something I've encountered.
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Newborn make me nervous. Not a lot of experiance with them. It probabley because they are so small. Once they get to walking, I am fine Ive got a lot of experiance with that and they are incredibley durable. I know one thing for sure, if I ever see that Purple Fricken dinosaur in person, I am gona set him on fire. My youngest brother is 18 years younger than I so I got to help raise him. All the joy's of parenting without actually being a parent. I say this with sarcasim. The boy loved that damn dino and had exactly one video that he insisted on playing over and over and over and over again. Thats the equivalent of at least 4th degree torture, I am quite positive of. Anywho back to newborns not much experiance and I dont want to break them. (More a fear I might drop em.) My comfort level is higher once they start walking, I know it tough to break em.:mrgreen:
 
herenow1 said:
Why is it that most men say they are afraid to hold a newborn(including their own) for fear of breaking them? There's no way they can 'break' them...or is that code for;

"I just don't want to hold the baby''?
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I was real hands on with my two. Changing nappies, getting up in the middle of the night, the whole hog...And I loved every minute (well almost:lol.

Paul
 
So precious. Luckily they're not all this tiny.



 
Soon enough we can potty train them at Burger King!
 
I know how clumsy I can be. Heck, I can hardly walk through a room without stubbing my toe. Because of that, holding a baby makes me very nervous.
 
they dont have a maternal instinct , normal..........

of course they love their babies ,but giving birth to a baby doesnt mean having him

mother feels her baby in her womb before he is born ,but man just realizes his fatherhood after seeing him in his arms..
 
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