This mother's family had no history of mental illness yet she lied to police and attempted suicide after murdering her three sons. What does this story mean for sons and the future of the DCF?
Remember what Einstein said:
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Family of mother suspected of killing her 3 sons speaks out - TimesDaily: Nation
That's such a horrific story. I first saw it last week.
The victims' grandmother Tanella McCoy described Rogers as a mother who loved her children unconditionally.
"There is nothing she would not do for her boys and for me," she said. "I'm ready for the fight because that's my baby and I love my daughter."
Yeah yeah I get the motherly love. I understand still loving your child in spite of something like this. But for doG's sake don't insult our intelligence. This crazed bitch was not mother of the year. There was something she wouldn't do for her boys, and that was letting them live to see their 9th birthdays.
As I recall too, her 3 boys had 3 different last names. So presumably they are from 3 different fathers. Before anyone's hackles go up, yes, I find that concerning.
First they must entertain the possibility of maternal filicide.
What does this story mean for sons and the future of the DCF?
Uhhh...what?????
What the heck is "the DCF"?
What do you mean by "what does this story mean for sons" ?
Whose sons? What sons? All sons? WHAT???
This mother's family had no history of mental illness yet she lied to police and attempted suicide after murdering her three sons. What does this story mean for sons and the future of the DCF?
Remember what Einstein said:
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Family of mother suspected of killing her 3 sons speaks out - TimesDaily: Nation
As I recall too, her 3 boys had 3 different last names. So presumably they are from 3 different fathers. Before anyone's hackles go up, yes, I find that concerning.
I think 90 percent of the nation's problems can be summed up by that all-too-common reality.
Well it's certainly a problem in this country. And failure to acknowledge it just exacerbates the problem.
It's a problem that I don't know if there is a solution to. I have yet to meet a family where there is a single mother with multiple kids by multiple fathers that wasn't a complete disaster. If one can't have a stable relationship with another person, for god's sake please don't throw children into the mix.
Go to the nicer areas in any city. What's the common theme? It's not money.
It's families that are together. Kids from good families tend to have good families. Kids whose parents went to college tend to go to college and have kids of their own who go to college. Good kids tend to have good parents, and vice versa.
The formula is so simple. Yet rarer by the day, especially when we have politicians who seek to capitalize on and promote poor decisions by their constituents.
The formula is simple, what's not simple is helping people to break out of destructive lifestyles and a lifetime of poor parenting. To me it's one of the reasons the wealth divide is growing in this country, smart educated people from good families marry smart educated people from good families and are successful. My kids (all in their 20s) are totally uninterested in developing a relationship with someone who isn't college educated, smart, comes from an intact family or already has a kid with someone else.
I probably shouldn't lead you to conclusions, so I am just generally asking about the Department of Children and Family Services, as it is called in my state. Generally speaking, how will this affect the AZ Department of Child Safety, or the US Department of Health and Human Services?
Sons are more likely to be murdered than daughters. All three of the victims were male.
This is an earlier article from the same year which gives an idea of how filicide has been approached in recent years (Psychiatry, 2007).
An Overview of Filicide
Our (Arizona) Department of Child Safety is a longtime festering and deadly mess. There have been 3 directors in the last 5 years. The current director, McKay, appointed by the governor a little over a year ago is reportedly a good man but way over his head. He is a former police detective who investigated child abuse cases. He had little administrative experience prior to his appointment. The man he replaced, Flanagan, was reportedly making progress in reducing 9,000 un-investigated cases of child abuse while also greatly improving data collection and reporting. By all reports Flanagan was making good progress and morale at the agency was improving.
When Governor Ducey (Tea Party) was elected (by a very slim margin with a massive dark money campaign fund) he replaced DCS Director Flanagan, who had only been in the position of director for 8 months and McKay became the new director. Since assuming the position McKay has been criticized for his lack of administrative experience and his inability to provide critical data to document the agency's progress or lack thereof.
The last I read the backlog of un-investigated files has grown to 14,000, the turnover of staff is 32%, there are something like 400 vacancies in the department and the department continues to be underfunded. Legislators have commented that they are reluctant to commit more money when the department has provided little comparative data. The very conservative newspaper, The Arizona Republic, has called for McKay to be replaced. Ducey has refused to replace him.
I mentioned earlier that Governor Ducey is a Teapublican. Arizona is absolutely controlled by Tea Partisans. Business friendly bills whip through legislature and are signed immediately. Tax cuts for business have little opposition in the legislature. Conversely there is a lack of focus and attention and funding on programs and services such as education at all levels, child welfare, child safety. All are woefully ignored and underfunded.
It has been standard operating procedure under Governor Ducey for department directors to be fired and replaced, often by business people who have no concept of government administration. Employees in many departments have been and continue to be fired and replaced by outside contractors or by people in business who are given higher salaries than their predecessors.
You get the picture.
The formula is simple, what's not simple is helping people to break out of destructive lifestyles and a lifetime of poor parenting. To me it's one of the reasons the wealth divide is growing in this country, smart educated people from good families marry smart educated people from good families and are successful. My kids (all in their 20s) are totally uninterested in developing a relationship with someone who isn't college educated, smart, comes from an intact family or already has a kid with someone else.
Agree with all of that. The media and our "leaders" won't discuss the real reasons for the wealth divide. They only want to talk about legalizing drugs and bathroom privileges. They steer clear of the hard discussions.
I've told my kids to look really closely at someone's family before you let their heart get too involved. And like you, mine tend to gravitate toward good students (who are also athletic) and have serious aspirations.
"We are all the product of our decisions." I tell them that so much they want to puke. But damned if I don't hear them tell their friends the same when they think I'm not in earshot.
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