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If you cant get Christmas done in your home then you have failed.If your child is being constantly naughty, is cancelling Christmas too extreme - Yes or No?
After all, the idea is if you're nice you get presents but if you're naughty you get a lump of coal. Yet, I rarely see that concept actually applied as every brat I know will be showing off their new phone or gaming system on Christmas.
Am I the asshole for cancelling Christmas if my child is constantly having an attitude acting spoiled, disrespectful, and selfish, getting in trouble at school, and not doing what they are supposed to do? What's the point that if they know if they are bad they are still getting rewarded for their bad behavior? Or is Christmas a once a year event that should give the kid a one day break?
To me, Christmas isn't about rewards or lumps of coal. I'm also more about conversation than the threat of withdrawing positive reinforcement.
It's about Krampus!
While my wife and I have made "Christmas is canceled!" jokes privately, I don't think that we'd ever consider actually doing it. Seems like that's going a bit far.
To me, Christmas isn't about rewards or lumps of coal. I'm also more about conversation than the threat of withdrawing positive reinforcement.
If you cant get Christmas done in your home then you have failed.
To be a little more clear and add on it wouldn't be complete cancelling Christmas, more they would get things like clothes, toothbrushes, soap, etc... necessities instead of things like cheap plastic toys or expensive electronics, things they actually want.
But does it have to be done on their terms or yours?
To be a little more clear and add on it wouldn't be complete cancelling Christmas, more they would get things like clothes, toothbrushes, soap, etc... necessities instead of things like cheap plastic toys or expensive electronics, things they actually want.
Volunteering in an animal shelter or soup kitchen, or donating to the same. It is what we do. No gifts, period. Giving comes in many forms.
OMG no, that would certainly make your situation worse.
lol okay but still they do need those things!
If your child is being constantly naughty, is cancelling Christmas too extreme - Yes or No?
After all, the idea is if you're nice you get presents but if you're naughty you get a lump of coal. Yet, I rarely see that concept actually applied as every brat I know will be showing off their new phone or gaming system on Christmas.
Am I the asshole for cancelling Christmas if my child is constantly having an attitude acting spoiled, disrespectful, and selfish, getting in trouble at school, and not doing what they are supposed to do? What's the point that if they know if they are bad they are still getting rewarded for their bad behavior? Or is Christmas a once a year event that should give the kid a one day break?
My parents did that in the effort to cheap out on Christmas, me and my brothers never forgave them.
I like the volunteer thing if you can find something like that, but warn against completely changing the traditions on account of your problem with your kid...that is like letting terrorism win....dont do that.
You wrap a few empty boxes, put his name on them, and put them under the tree. Every time the kid acts up, you toss one into the fireplace.
If your child is being constantly naughty, is cancelling Christmas too extreme - Yes or No?
After all, the idea is if you're nice you get presents but if you're naughty you get a lump of coal. Yet, I rarely see that concept actually applied as every brat I know will be showing off their new phone or gaming system on Christmas.
Am I the asshole for cancelling Christmas if my child is constantly having an attitude acting spoiled, disrespectful, and selfish, getting in trouble at school, and not doing what they are supposed to do? What's the point that if they know if they are bad they are still getting rewarded for their bad behavior? Or is Christmas a once a year event that should give the kid a one day break?
My parents did that in the effort to cheap out on Christmas, me and by brothers never forgave them.
I like the volunteer thing if you can find something like that, but warn against completely changing the traditions on account of your problem with your kid...that is like letting terrorism win....dont do that.
Sometimes, it's necessary to "cheap out" on Christmas. Kids need to know that life isn't magic and sometimes the money just isn't there. Unintentionally, we have decoupled Christmas and gifts. My kids have learned to ask for stuff during the year and ask for it to "count as Christmas" when they see evidence that money is available.
If your child is being constantly naughty, is cancelling Christmas too extreme - Yes or No?
After all, the idea is if you're nice you get presents but if you're naughty you get a lump of coal. Yet, I rarely see that concept actually applied as every brat I know will be showing off their new phone or gaming system on Christmas.
Am I the asshole for cancelling Christmas if my child is constantly having an attitude acting spoiled, disrespectful, and selfish, getting in trouble at school, and not doing what they are supposed to do? What's the point that if they know if they are bad they are still getting rewarded for their bad behavior? Or is Christmas a once a year event that should give the kid a one day break?
If your child is being constantly naughty, is cancelling Christmas too extreme - Yes or No?
After all, the idea is if you're nice you get presents but if you're naughty you get a lump of coal. Yet, I rarely see that concept actually applied as every brat I know will be showing off their new phone or gaming system on Christmas.
Am I the asshole for cancelling Christmas if my child is constantly having an attitude acting spoiled, disrespectful, and selfish, getting in trouble at school, and not doing what they are supposed to do? What's the point that if they know if they are bad they are still getting rewarded for their bad behavior? Or is Christmas a once a year event that should give the kid a one day break?
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