Debate Politics

CLAX1911

That's sweet of you. I enjoyed our conversation last night.

Fyi it's my partner that helped me so I consider myself lucky.

SarahSun

You made me think and open up. I may call my mom saturday and see if we can have a nice lunch and talk. I want her in my life.

CLAX1911

Well that's good you're taking that step. But it isn't easy. You know you're mother better than I do. But you have to make you happy. Sometimes what you want and what your parents want for you isn't the same.

CLAX1911

My partner's parents disowned him. He got to know his grand parents really well since then. But he tells me he wouldn't trade his life now to have his parents back in his life.

So there is risk but I think that is unlikely between you and your mom.

SarahSun

Love is so hard to find that it shouldnt matter if 2 women are together or 2 men. True love is too important. Well, i have a feeling if i told my mom i was in love with a woman and we were going to be married i would also be disowned. My dad, on the other hand would be ok with it.

CLAX1911

It broke Evan's (my partner's) heart. But he can still love. Parents disown their children for other things as well. My folks had a rough time with it at first but now they treat Evan like he's a son. Time can fix things.

SarahSun

Im glad they accept him and love him. It says alot about the love they have for you. I feel like i can be so open with you. I have a welcome thread in the welcome section. In there i was telling them about a boat trip i had and met a guy on the boat. He asked me for a drink. Im very nervous about it. If you want to read about it you can. I trust your advice.

CLAX1911

I'll go read it. With my folks they were a bit weird with him at first because he was so young. That was 11 years ago, and he was very young, I was apprehensive about that too at first. My parents have grown since then.

SarahSun

I think we all grow. Im thinking i will ask my oldest sister to go to lunch with me and my mom if i can arrange it. This is free therapy for me to open up.

CLAX1911

Let her know what you are going to do. You don't want to get tag teamed.

As far as advice for the guy you met. I mean what I said femininity is an asset. I know this may be odd coming from a gay guy, but men love feminine women. Do not be ashamed of that.

CLAX1911

I did date a few ladies in the past.

SarahSun

I know they do. My boyfriend never directly said anything but i think he was really put off at the attention i got when he took me anywhere. I was totally faithful and usually was always holding onto his arm when we were out. I have to feel its for the best.