Women feeling dirtry after sex

[herenow]

Just curious as to why many women feel dirty after sex? I know everyone thinks it's just those who were sexually abused, or told sex was bad, but in talking with other women who've had neither of these experiences, they feel the same way. Granted it my not be after every sexual encounter, but the feeling does come over you.

Any theories on this?

 

[rathi]

Society has a lot of conditioning on sex and attitudes towards it, so it seems like a likely cause. The circumstances of the act also are relevant. Finally, it could purely be the physical leftovers from sex. Being covered in sweat and possibly other fluids goes against the typical hygiene standards of our culture.

 

[americanwoman]

Just curious as to why many women feel dirty after sex? I know everyone thinks it's just those who were sexually abused, or told sex was bad, but in talking with other women who've had neither of these experiences, they feel the same way. Granted it my not be after every sexual encounter, but the feeling does come over you.

Any theories on this?

I have no idea. Truthfully I have never felt dirty afterwards. Maybe regret if it wasn't good, but never dirty. I don't really have any theories because to me sex is a natural thing and I am baffled why some woman would feel dirty, unless I guess they were programmed by someone to feel that way when they were younger.

 

[rivrrat]

I can't recall ever feeling 'dirty' in a philosophical or spiritual sense after sex. Dirty in the sense that I feel I need a quick shower due to sweat, etc.. yes. But not 'dirty' in the sense I think you are describing.

If and when people do, I can only assume it's due to feelings implanted on them that sex itself is 'dirty' and anyone who has it is 'dirty', and anyone who enjoys it is 'dirty'.

 

[Iriemon]

Just curious as to why many women feel dirty after sex? I know everyone thinks it's just those who were sexually abused, or told sex was bad, but in talking with other women who've had neither of these experiences, they feel the same way. Granted it my not be after every sexual encounter, but the feeling does come over you.

Any theories on this?

Echoing Rathi's point, many girls are conditioned from a young age from a societal and particularly religious perspective that sex is wrong or "dirty," particularly outside approved situations (ie marriage). They are cautioned about their reputation, and called "sluts" or "whores" if they engage in casual sex. The same rules may nominally apply to boys, but they are winked at or to the contrary, boys are admired for their sexual prowess.

It's no wonder some women have a guilt trip about sex.

 

[WI Crippler]

I don't think women should feel dirty after sex...they should feel honored.

But it raises a question in my mind. Are women usually uncomfortable having sex with a guy (or another girl I suppose in some situations ) for the first time?? Like worried about the guy being turned off by some physical flaw she may think she has??

 

[herenow]

....again...some of these women didn't grow up hearing sex was dirty and still feel that way, so the 'sexually oppressed' theory doesn't apply.

 

[americanwoman]

But it raises a question in my mind. Are women usually uncomfortable having sex with a guy (or another girl I suppose in some situations ) for the first time?? Like worried about the guy being turned off by some physical flaw she may think she has??

I am usually comforatable, maybe just nervous. I would be worried about whether he would like me in bed as a partner but I wouldn't be concerned about any of my flaws. Take me as I am- besides he's going to find out about it sometime anyway, why try to hide it or be embaressed by your body.


Also is there really some people out there who have to have the lights out when having sex? Does that have to do with the sexual act being "dirty" or is that something with body image also?

 

[WI Crippler]

Also is there really some people out there who have to have the lights out when having sex? Does that have to do with the sexual act being "dirty" or is that something with body image also?

Well its like having sex with your eyes closed. I'll explain.

Sometimes, a guy is driving his station wagon down the road. He likes to roll down the window, close his eyes for a second, and pretend he is driving a ferrari.

Make sense??

 

[herenow]

if you look at stats, the majority of women have some type of insecurities about their bodies...even some of the most attractive celebs feel they are fat or chubby when they are not, or feel the one cellulite dimple makes them imperfect. I hear almost daily that I'm skinny, but I know what I look like naked lol. I think we are all insecure about something, but the difference is, not everyone lets their insecurity hold them back from being confident or comfortable in their own skin. Example...you may think you look better with make-up on....you my even FEEL better with make-up on....but you can... and will still go to the store without make-up on. Some ppl won't even leave their house without make-up. THere's the insecurity difference. One's dictated/controlled by their insecurity...the other is not.

 

[americanwoman]

Well its like having sex with your eyes closed. I'll explain.

Sometimes, a guy is driving his station wagon down the road. He likes to roll down the window, close his eyes for a second, and pretend he is driving a ferrari.

Make sense??

lol, it makes perfect sense! I did read recently somewhere though, cosmo I think, that woman are more likely to have fantasies while engaged in sex. I thought that was pretty interesting to note.

 

[WI Crippler]

lol, it makes perfect sense! I did read recently somewhere though, cosmo I think, that woman are more likely to have fantasies while engaged in sex. I thought that was pretty interesting to note.

Thats so they don't feel so dirty.....

She can fantasize all she wants that the noise in the background is the ocean waves, when its really an 18 wheeler at the truck stop motel......

 

[americanwoman]

Thats so they don't feel so dirty.....

She can fantasize all she wants that the noise in the background is the ocean waves, when its really an 18 wheeler at the truck stop motel......

:rofl dude, sometimes you are just too funny.:mrgreen:

 

[FallingPianos]

Just curious as to why many women feel dirty after sex? I know everyone thinks it's just those who were sexually abused, or told sex was bad, but in talking with other women who've had neither of these experiences, they feel the same way. Granted it my not be after every sexual encounter, but the feeling does come over you.

Any theories on this?

the only person I personally know who has experienced anything like that was a guy, actually. certainly hasn't happened to me. :mrgreen:

I blame the catholic church.

 

[FallingPianos]

if you look at stats, the majority of women have some type of insecurities about their bodies...even some of the most attractive celebs feel they are fat or chubby when they are not, or feel the one cellulite dimple makes them imperfect. I hear almost daily that I'm skinny, but I know what I look like naked lol. I think we are all insecure about something, but the difference is, not everyone lets their insecurity hold them back from being confident or comfortable in their own skin. Example...you may think you look better with make-up on....you my even FEEL better with make-up on....but you can... and will still go to the store without make-up on. Some ppl won't even leave their house without make-up. THere's the insecurity difference. One's dictated/controlled by their insecurity...the other is not.

I agree. I'm thin, but I've always had insecurities with acne on my back. when I was younger, I would never wear shirts that showed any of my back because it would make me uncomfortable. I still have it, and I still hate it, but I've learned to not let it interfere with my life. its certainly not what I'm thinking about when I'm with a guy.

 

[EAGLE1]

I don't think women should feel dirty after sex...they should feel honored.

:rofl :rofl :rofl Brilliant Crippler. Well in mate. :lol:

 

[Marilyn Monroe]

Society has a lot of conditioning on sex and attitudes towards it, so it seems like a likely cause. The circumstances of the act also are relevant. Finally, it could purely be the physical leftovers from sex. Being covered in sweat and possibly other fluids goes against the typical hygiene standards of our culture.

I agree with the fluids. Messy! Men like sex in any way, shape, or form, but women tend to be more choosy, so this might be why. Women are just different. I mean look at all the products they have to use just to get out the door. A lot of effort goes into being attractive.

 

[Gardener]

If women feel dirty after sex, they just have it all wrong.

You're supposed to feel dirty DURING sex. Afterwards, you fall asleep.

 

[Marilyn Monroe]

If women feel dirty after sex, they just have it all wrong.

You're supposed to feel dirty DURING sex. Afterwards, you fall asleep.

You got that right! I haven't felt dirty, but have felt it was a duty. Dirty would be better.:lol:

 

[nancyboy]

Well its like having sex with your eyes closed. I'll explain.

Sometimes, a guy is driving his station wagon down the road. He likes to roll down the window, close his eyes for a second, and pretend he is driving a ferrari.

Make sense??

yup. women feel dirty and insecure because whilst being shagged by their boyfriend, he closes his eyes and imagines he is with another hotter girl, sually a porn star who pretends to like doing things normal girls don't.

 

[herenow]

yup. women feel dirty and insecure because whilst being shagged by their boyfriend, he closes his eyes and imagines he is with another hotter girl, sually a porn star who pretends to like doing things normal girls don't.

Lemme guess. You're 15....17?