I understand that. You're addressing what can be changed in the future so it is not an issue vs us talking what can we do now. Unfortunately, we can only deal in current realities, on an individual basis, will working for that change. The reality is, it's not likely to change anytime soon and even if there was an a change that matched up perfectly with whatever you think it should be, it won't be 100%. Nothing is 100%. Just like being armed won't protect you 100%. So what do we have left? Doing what we can do for ourselves as individuals while also working the other end to effect change in the legal system.
To an address an underlying theme, I can't fathom why women are not more pro-gun. The gun is called "the great equalizer" for a reason. A 60 yo lady has a chance against a 25 yo 300 lb NFL lineman, if she has a gun. If she doesn't, there is no chance. That extends across the board, as a general power dynamic between men and women. Women, in general, physically don't have much of a chance against men. However, women can be just as damn fine of a marksman as any man.