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Why conservative men are more likely to fantasize about sharing their wives

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It may, paradoxically, be precisely because they believe cuckoldry is so bad
--Justin Lehmiller

In the wake of allegations that he spent years watching his wife have sex with another man, Jerry Falwell Jr. resigned this week from his post as president of Liberty University. Falwell has denied the specifics of those allegations, but if they’re true, he would be neither the first nor the last conservative man to take pleasure in sharing his spouse or partner while he looks on, a sexual practice known more commonly as “cuckolding.” In fact, a disproportionate percentage fantasize about just that happening to them.

They’re not alone, of course. Cuckolding routinely ranks among the top searches on the world’s biggest porn sites, as reported by neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam in their book “A Billion Wicked Thoughts,” for which they analyzed the contents of hundreds of millions of Internet searches. But as my own research has shown, reports of that sexual fantasy exhibit a surprising ideological pattern.

Fewer than half of Democratic straight men (49 percent) reported having ever fantasized about cuckolding, and 19 percent said they fantasize about it often. By contrast, nearly two-thirds (64 percent) of heterosexual Republican men reported having had this fantasy, and 30 percent said it is a frequent fantasy. Republican men also reported more fantasies about infidelity, swinging and a wide range of sexually taboo activities, including voyeurism.

One way to understand why these desires are so much more common for conservative men is through what sex therapist Jack Morin termed “the erotic equation,” which he spelled out as follows:

Attraction + Obstacles = Excitement

So the more sexually constipated you are, the more likely you are to act out in ways contradictory to your professed moral standing. Who would have guessed?
 
If the other guy is a Leftist, we know she's coming back. :lamo
 
I never understood the thrill of giving away one's significant other for a stranger to bang, while WATCHING.
 
Well, to my thinking, only a Conservative could ever conceive of sharing their wife. Conservatives are the only ones that believe in possession and personal property while the enlightened world knows that we are all but grains of sand in the community of the world and we no more belong to one than we do to all. The enlightened ones tell us we should share ourselves and never seek to claim ownership of another therefore we should love freely and give of ourselves as the community needs, thus strengthening the community (even though it might end up a little sticky when we're done).
 
So the more sexually constipated you are, the more likely you are to act out in ways contradictory to your professed moral standing. Who would have guessed?

As a conservative, I would say that is reasonable. Liberals may fantasize more about being a strong alpha male.
 
Well, to my thinking, only a Conservative could ever conceive of sharing their wife. Conservatives are the only ones that believe in possession and personal property while the enlightened world knows that we are all but grains of sand in the community of the world and we no more belong to one than we do to all. The enlightened ones tell us we should share ourselves and never seek to claim ownership of another therefore we should love freely and give of ourselves as the community needs, thus strengthening the community (even though it might end up a little sticky when we're done).

So conservative men think of their wives as property? Very archaic.
 
"Fewer than half of Democratic straight men (49 percent)"

"nearly two-thirds (64 percent) "

despite the obvious bias in these results its clear why this is

baby boomers made the sexual revolution, they are the ones who think of this-and since they are republican,it would appear that way

but when it comes to fighting sexual taboo, conservatives are much better
 
So conservative men think of their wives as property? Very archaic.

It may be archaic but it seems to have worked for a few thousand years. Frankly, a lot of women seem to think of their men in a similar fashion too. It's not like I have never heard one woman chastise another to "get your hands off of my man" or something to that effect. I know that progressives have ovecome this sin but, from a practical standpoint, most people do seem to have an affinity for the concept of personal possession.
 
So the more sexually constipated you are, the more likely you are to act out in ways contradictory to your professed moral standing. Who would have guessed?

That's not what he said above... acting out is different than fantasizing.
 
So the more sexually constipated you are, the more likely you are to act out in ways contradictory to your professed moral standing. Who would have guessed?

I'm sure this was a completely scientific study based on years of gathered data. LOL!!!!!!

I did a study that showed 98 % of democrat voters don't have a glue about why they are going to vote for Biden but they saw him as the best choice of a terrible field of primary candidates and they couldn't vote Trump because they were opposed to the middle class making a good leaving. They wanted the government to give it to them. All based on science.
 
It may be archaic but it seems to have worked for a few thousand years. Frankly, a lot of women seem to think of their men in a similar fashion too. It's not like I have never heard one woman chastise another to "get your hands off of my man" or something to that effect. I know that progressives have ovecome this sin but, from a practical standpoint, most people do seem to have an affinity for the concept of personal possession.

The use of a possessive pronoun does not always imply property rights.
 
The use of a possessive pronoun does not always imply property rights.

Great. So you don't care if your husband goes catting around. That makes perfect sense because, like I said, you're a progressive and progressives don't believe in possession. I'm not here to judge, just to make sure I understand and I thank you for your assistance in that endeavor.
 
Great. So you don't care if your husband goes catting around. That makes perfect sense because, like I said, you're a progressive and progressives don't believe in possession. I'm not here to judge, just to make sure I understand and I thank you for your assistance in that endeavor.

Just because I don't regard a spouse as property doesn't mean I approve of infidelity. I also don't approve of lending him out like a library book.
 
As a conservative, I would say that is reasonable. Liberals may fantasize more about being a strong alpha male.

That's actually funny. Plays to stereotypes, but it's funny.

Serious note: I think the premise of the OP is unfair. Liberals and Conservatives are no kinkier than one another. It's just that social conservatives suppress it, make it a "sin", preach against it, and when they get caught doing it they have more egg on their faces for having been hypocrites.
 
As someone who is in the lifestyle there are people of all political persuasions. We don't tend to make those persuasions an issue, but some do.
 
I never understood the thrill of giving away one's significant other for a stranger to bang, while WATCHING.

I've often thought that many of these marriages are a sham and he is just married to her for a public acceptance because deep down he is bi or gay but too closeted to do anything about it. he keeps her happy with money and status and she gets to find a lover who actually makes her happy and fulfills her and she lets him watch. These marriages are more about a business or social or professional merger and have nothing to do with meaningful love and am emotional intimate connection.

Really good meaningful sex is far more than getting the sheets sweaty doing the Posturepedic polka and getting yourself off and hope that your partner does the same and then going to sleep afterward. There needs to be an intimate emotional connection and care about what they like and what makes them happy as both of you are fulfilled. Animalistic sex is good occasionally but it doesn't make up for really good intimacy in and out of the bed.
There are many guys who don't know how to please her, maybe they are sexually uptight and maybe just don't care about her needs and they are lousy lovers.

I've never known a conservative guy who was a great lover, even if they had the body of Adonis.
 
That's actually funny. Plays to stereotypes, but it's funny.

Serious note: I think the premise of the OP is unfair. Liberals and Conservatives are no kinkier than one another. It's just that social conservatives suppress it, make it a "sin", preach against it, and when they get caught doing it they have more egg on their faces for having been hypocrites.

So you can't or won't answer why.

Answer what?
 
We have been forced to accept a great deal of deviance as a society; what is different about this one? Did he teach or advocate his proclivity? Ever?

Would be hard for him (impossible) to lead Liberty U. Respect that he is gone. Laugh at the glee by the left.




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Great. So you don't care if your husband goes catting around. That makes perfect sense because, like I said, you're a progressive and progressives don't believe in possession. I'm not here to judge, just to make sure I understand and I thank you for your assistance in that endeavor.

Progressive and cheating have nothing to do with each other. People can choose open relationships or not.
 
Serious note: I think the premise of the OP is unfair. Liberals and Conservatives are no kinkier than one another.

So your argument is 2/3 = 1/2 and 30% = 20%.
 
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