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Why are so many women attracted to violent criminals and dangerous psychopaths?

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The fact that women are attracted to violent criminals and dangerous psychopaths is a fact that cannot be denied. Women seem to be drawn to aggressive bullies, violent criminals, dangerous psychopaths, mass murderers, and drug-crazed gang-bangers. As a matter of fact, some of the world's most dangerous criminals, such as Al Capone, Pablo Escobar or Ted Bundy, always seemed to attract the most beautiful women. Even some of the biggest, most violent and bloodthirsty gangs in the contemporary world, such as La Mara Salvatrucha in El Salvador or the L.A.-based Bloods in the U.S., seem to attract hordes of female admirers known as "honey traps".

Many mass murderers sitting in jail cells all around the world are constantly inundated with letters from women declaring love at first sight and proposing marriage. Most recently the younger of the two Boston bombers has attracted a following among young women on social networks who think he's cute. Even if these thugs and gangsters have nothing else to offer, especially in terms of money or other resources, many women still seem drawn to these men like flies on ****. If women are supposedly attracted to men of the highest genetic quality, then why are so many women attracted to men of obviously low genetic quality like dangerous criminals and violent psychopaths?

It seems that women are not designed to select men on the basis of any kind of genetic superiority whatsoever, but to evaluate a man solely on his ability to provide or his abiltiy to protect due to the phenomenon of greater female parental investment. Or is it the other way around? Is it possible that women are designed to select men on the basis of genetic fitness, but whether they do so effectively or not is an entirely different matter altogether? Is there a possible sociobiological explanation that can account for why so many women find violent criminals attractive?
 

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The fact that women are attracted to violent criminals and dangerous psychopaths is a fact that cannot be denied. Women seem to be drawn to aggressive bullies, violent criminals, dangerous psychopaths, mass murderers, and drug-crazed gang-bangers. As a matter of fact, some of the world's most dangerous criminals, such as Al Capone, Pablo Escobar or Ted Bundy, always seemed to attract the most beautiful women. Even some of the biggest, most violent and bloodthirsty gangs in the contemporary world, such as La Mara Salvatrucha in El Salvador or the L.A.-based Bloods in the U.S., seem to attract hordes of female admirers known as "honey traps".

Many mass murderers sitting in jail cells all around the world are constantly inundated with letters from women declaring love at first sight and proposing marriage. Most recently the younger of the two Boston bombers has attracted a following among young women on social networks who think he's cute. Even if these thugs and gangsters have nothing else to offer, especially in terms of money or other resources, many women still seem drawn to these men like flies on ****. If women are supposedly attracted to men of the highest genetic quality, then why are so many women attracted to men of obviously low genetic quality like dangerous criminals and violent psychopaths?

It seems that women are not designed to select men on the basis of any kind of genetic superiority whatsoever, but to evaluate a man solely on his ability to provide or his abiltiy to protect due to the phenomenon of greater female parental investment. Or is it the other way around? Is it possible that women are designed to select men on the basis of genetic fitness, but whether they do so effectively or not is an entirely different matter altogether? Is there a possible sociobiological explanation that can account for why so many women find violent criminals attractive?
Well - for one - you need to provide your research sources so I can read up on what you've educated yourself with.

You seem to be taking a small number of people who are drawn to dark and dangerous people and coming to the conclusion that a lot of women are of this nature . . . and we're not. Most of us are not like that.

Further - why do you conclude that only (what you claim to be a lot) of women are attracted to such men? Why aren't men (some or a lot) seen as being attracted to dangerous or dark women? I'm sure they are - it's illogical to imagine that they're not.

Also - a gangster of the public-fame type isn't the same as a street thug who killed a lot of people. A public-fame figure like Capone had 1) faithful support from men and women in a close nit community of sorts. 2) money. 3) notoriety.

My knee jerk response: is that anyone attracted to the likes of Ted Bundy or Dana Grey because of their sordid pasts have serious mental issues.
 

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The fact that women are attracted to violent criminals and dangerous psychopaths is a fact that cannot be denied. Women seem to be drawn to aggressive bullies, violent criminals, dangerous psychopaths, mass murderers, and drug-crazed gang-bangers. As a matter of fact, some of the world's most dangerous criminals, such as Al Capone, Pablo Escobar or Ted Bundy, always seemed to attract the most beautiful women. Even some of the biggest, most violent and bloodthirsty gangs in the contemporary world, such as La Mara Salvatrucha in El Salvador or the L.A.-based Bloods in the U.S., seem to attract hordes of female admirers known as "honey traps".

Many mass murderers sitting in jail cells all around the world are constantly inundated with letters from women declaring love at first sight and proposing marriage. Most recently the younger of the two Boston bombers has attracted a following among young women on social networks who think he's cute. Even if these thugs and gangsters have nothing else to offer, especially in terms of money or other resources, many women still seem drawn to these men like flies on ****. If women are supposedly attracted to men of the highest genetic quality, then why are so many women attracted to men of obviously low genetic quality like dangerous criminals and violent psychopaths?

It seems that women are not designed to select men on the basis of any kind of genetic superiority whatsoever, but to evaluate a man solely on his ability to provide or his abiltiy to protect due to the phenomenon of greater female parental investment. Or is it the other way around? Is it possible that women are designed to select men on the basis of genetic fitness, but whether they do so effectively or not is an entirely different matter altogether? Is there a possible sociobiological explanation that can account for why so many women find violent criminals attractive?
I think you might be overstating matters just a tad. However, I would say that a lot of women do have a bad tendency to select men based upon outdated evolutionary criteria.

For instance, a big hulking meathead of a guy with impulse control issues and little in the way of consideration or empathy for others would've been ideally suited for spearing mammoths on the Eurasian tundra fifty thousand years ago. While this would've made him a real catch in that era, today (as many an episode of "Cops" can attest), his talents tend to be far less useful.

Female instincts when it comes to the selection of potential mates don't seem to have quite come to grips with this fact yet. :lol:
 
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The fact that women are attracted to violent criminals and dangerous psychopaths is a fact that cannot be denied. Women seem to be drawn to aggressive bullies, violent criminals, dangerous psychopaths, mass murderers, and drug-crazed gang-bangers. As a matter of fact, some of the world's most dangerous criminals, such as Al Capone, Pablo Escobar or Ted Bundy, always seemed to attract the most beautiful women. Even some of the biggest, most violent and bloodthirsty gangs in the contemporary world, such as La Mara Salvatrucha in El Salvador or the L.A.-based Bloods in the U.S., seem to attract hordes of female admirers known as "honey traps".

Many mass murderers sitting in jail cells all around the world are constantly inundated with letters from women declaring love at first sight and proposing marriage. Most recently the younger of the two Boston bombers has attracted a following among young women on social networks who think he's cute. Even if these thugs and gangsters have nothing else to offer, especially in terms of money or other resources, many women still seem drawn to these men like flies on ****. If women are supposedly attracted to men of the highest genetic quality, then why are so many women attracted to men of obviously low genetic quality like dangerous criminals and violent psychopaths?

It seems that women are not designed to select men on the basis of any kind of genetic superiority whatsoever, but to evaluate a man solely on his ability to provide or his abiltiy to protect due to the phenomenon of greater female parental investment. Or is it the other way around? Is it possible that women are designed to select men on the basis of genetic fitness, but whether they do so effectively or not is an entirely different matter altogether? Is there a possible sociobiological explanation that can account for why so many women find violent criminals attractive?
:rofl So many? No link?
 

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which women ?

the ones looking for both money and protection ?:lol:

mafia ..
 
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The OP's just pissed that more women don't find men who compare rape to being forced to eat cake attractive. :lol:
 

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It's not so far off the mark. Since there are 'so many' violent individuals in society, and 'so many' of them have partners, it's not such a stretch. There's no claim to statistical significance. It's a loose observation, and not one without some foundation.

I think a lot of women step out with such idiots as they're too meek to transgress under their own steam, so they do so vicariously by association. For others it might be confusion, whereby the lemming in question confuses the love of risk for love of the man himself. Still others might be constrained by the ignorance of humble beginnings. Could be resultant of abuse. Could be lack of opportunity. Who knows? For that matter, who cares?
 

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Using rich gangsters and criminals doesn't mean they are attracted to the man, but to the money.
 

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Well - for one - you need to provide your research sources so I can read up on what you've educated yourself with.

You seem to be taking a small number of people who are drawn to dark and dangerous people and coming to the conclusion that a lot of women are of this nature . . . and we're not. Most of us are not like that.

Further - why do you conclude that only (what you claim to be a lot) of women are attracted to such men? Why aren't men (some or a lot) seen as being attracted to dangerous or dark women? I'm sure they are - it's illogical to imagine that they're not.

Also - a gangster of the public-fame type isn't the same as a street thug who killed a lot of people. A public-fame figure like Capone had 1) faithful support from men and women in a close nit community of sorts. 2) money. 3) notoriety.

My knee jerk response: is that anyone attracted to the likes of Ted Bundy or Dana Grey because of their sordid pasts have serious mental issues.
I'm not providing you with links. Do your own research. Everything I've said is true. Serial killers in prison receive bags of letters from women. Gangsters with money and power attract women who turn a blind eye to the way these thugs earn their money. I've observed first-hand that women are attracted to bullies and punks and will choose these men over so called "nice guys". Women are behind most of the violence in the world because they only want dominant alpha males, so men are forced to struggle/fight/die for status in order to get a woman.
 

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I'm not providing you with links. Do your own research. Everything I've said is true. Serial killers in prison receive bags of letters from women. Gangsters with money and power attract women who turn a blind eye to the way these thugs earn their money. I've observed first-hand that women are attracted to bullies and punks and will choose these men over so called "nice guys". Women are behind most of the violence in the world because they only want dominant alpha males, so men are forced to struggle/fight/die for status in order to get a woman.
Ah - well you can't prove it because it's not true, you're drawing false conclusions - looking at things like peer pressure and emotional insecurity of *some* people and applying it to *all* women.

A lot of men argue the opposite: that women being involved in everything has 'softened' men and 'weakened' the male norms in general. By being teachers and caregivers we've pansied men down to where they're just fat, pathetic, weak, and worthless.

So - which one is it?

(Yeah - that's what I thought)
 

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The fact that women are attracted to violent criminals and dangerous psychopaths is a fact that cannot be denied. Women seem to be drawn to aggressive bullies, violent criminals, dangerous psychopaths, mass murderers, and drug-crazed gang-bangers. As a matter of fact, some of the world's most dangerous criminals, such as Al Capone, Pablo Escobar or Ted Bundy, always seemed to attract the most beautiful women. Even some of the biggest, most violent and bloodthirsty gangs in the contemporary world, such as La Mara Salvatrucha in El Salvador or the L.A.-based Bloods in the U.S., seem to attract hordes of female admirers known as "honey traps".

Many mass murderers sitting in jail cells all around the world are constantly inundated with letters from women declaring love at first sight and proposing marriage. Most recently the younger of the two Boston bombers has attracted a following among young women on social networks who think he's cute. Even if these thugs and gangsters have nothing else to offer, especially in terms of money or other resources, many women still seem drawn to these men like flies on ****. If women are supposedly attracted to men of the highest genetic quality, then why are so many women attracted to men of obviously low genetic quality like dangerous criminals and violent psychopaths?

It seems that women are not designed to select men on the basis of any kind of genetic superiority whatsoever, but to evaluate a man solely on his ability to provide or his abiltiy to protect due to the phenomenon of greater female parental investment. Or is it the other way around? Is it possible that women are designed to select men on the basis of genetic fitness, but whether they do so effectively or not is an entirely different matter altogether? Is there a possible sociobiological explanation that can account for why so many women find violent criminals attractive?
I dunno.... ask Hillary.
 

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There are plenty of humans who have serious issues with their interactions with other people. Take the OP for instance. While they do exist, its idiotic to use them to make sweeping generalizations. I'd be insulted if people made up bull**** about me based on the actions of people like Graffias simply because we both have a Y chromosome.
 

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I'm not providing you with links. Do your own research. Everything I've said is true. Serial killers in prison receive bags of letters from women. Gangsters with money and power attract women who turn a blind eye to the way these thugs earn their money. I've observed first-hand that women are attracted to bullies and punks and will choose these men over so called "nice guys". Women are behind most of the violence in the world because they only want dominant alpha males, so men are forced to struggle/fight/die for status in order to get a woman.
Who cares? It's not all and it's not even most. :roll: Those people are obviously emotionally disturbed or insecure or something. This thread should flushed down the toilet just because of its sheer stupidity.
 

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I'm not providing you with links. Do your own research.
No, this is not how it works. YOU presented a premise and were asked to substantiate. YOU are required to substantiate your position, not anyone else. If you cannot, just say so and we can all just dismiss your position and nothing but overgeneralized irrelevancy... which is what it is.

Everything I've said is true. Serial killers in prison receive bags of letters from women. Gangsters with money and power attract women who turn a blind eye to the way these thugs earn their money. I've observed first-hand that women are attracted to bullies and punks and will choose these men over so called "nice guys". Women are behind most of the violence in the world because they only want dominant alpha males, so men are forced to struggle/fight/die for status in order to get a woman.
Nothing here other than overgeneralized tripe. Either present substantiation for your position or it's pretty meaningless.
 

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I just loved the phrase "so many though. As if the majority of women pursue violent criminals and psychopaths. :roll:
I've seen specials about the phenomenon and it was pretty obvious that the women involved had their own issues and where by no means representative of women in general.
 

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The fact that women are attracted to violent criminals and dangerous psychopaths is a fact that cannot be denied.
Hold on, I'm confused.

I thought all women were *****-fying men neutered by feminism by stealing their essence and then rendering them homeless through divorce, turning them into glassy-eyed metrosexuals or something.

Now you say all women want to date Ted Bundy?

Where was the press!?

Well - for one - you need to provide your research sources so I can read up on what you've educated yourself with.
I'm not providing you with links. Do your own research. Everything I've said is true.
Oh. I see.

Oh, Graff, you're wonderful. :lol:
 

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I've actually always found this phenomenon fascinating. I was hoping the OP had some interesting links I could read about what makes these people tick. This affects both men and women, something the OP seems to have neglected to mention. Wasn't it Casey Anthony who also got all sorts of marriage proposals when she was locked up?
 

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I actually did a mini-experiment on this phenomenon. Not scientific, but interesting. Years ago, I found that several of my female teenage clients only dated "bad boys", while several of my male teenage clients who were "nice guys" couldn't get a girlfriend. So, I asked the females what their reasoning was. Universally, their answer was something like this: They felt that if these guys were mean and nasty to them... even to the point of violence, it mean that if someone ELSE was mean to them, the guys would protect them. What it really denoted was the incredibly low self esteem of these girls and their rejection of the possibility of them protecting themselves to the point of not being independent. What I also found was that girls who's self esteem was stronger, they had little or not lure to these "bad boys. Also,the girls who liked the "bad boys" when their self esteem became stronger, the lure significantly reduced or was extinguished.

So, at least in my observation, Graffias premise is nothing but an overgeneralization and he fails to examine the specific causes of these behaviors... but of course, since he refuses to substantiate, probably because he can't, his position on this is moot.
 

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I'm not providing you with links. Do your own research. Everything I've said is true. Serial killers in prison receive bags of letters from women. Gangsters with money and power attract women who turn a blind eye to the way these thugs earn their money. I've observed first-hand that women are attracted to bullies and punks and will choose these men over so called "nice guys". Women are behind most of the violence in the world because they only want dominant alpha males, so men are forced to struggle/fight/die for status in order to get a woman.

You make the claim, it is your responsibility to back it up not others to do your job for you.

Are there people out there who find sexual attraction to inmates? yeah that would seem to happen, but you do not make any case that it is all, most, or even extends much beyond an obscure fetish for some people. As for figures like Al Capone and wealthy powerful criminal types that is not terribly hard to figure out. You have wealth, power, and some excitement when you are dealing with people who are in that particular line of work. Sex, drugs, and lavish parties seem like a pretty sweet deal for some people. Not to mention the big criminals of prohibition became a sort of cultural thing probably due to the reality most people do not see alcohol as a huge horrible thing. Al Capone and people like him were pretty much made by prohibition, as modern drug dealers are today. Some of them are street thugs and probably do not have flocks of women, but guys like that were entrenched in much higher positions in society.

As for the serial killer thing a fetish is a fetish, and frankly it seems pretty safe to me considering the people they are chasing are pretty much restricted from doing anything massively harmful. If that sort of danger excites you it seems like chasing a guy in prison is more like role playing as the more dangerous parts of his personality are not going to effect you. Certainly I do not see many women i have met pining over some incarcerated serial killer. Maybe you do not meet many women, but even if there are bags of mail as you put it, that does not make it a large part of society, just a dedicated one.
 

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I actually did a mini-experiment on this phenomenon. Not scientific, but interesting. Years ago, I found that several of my female teenage clients only dated "bad boys", while several of my male teenage clients who were "nice guys" couldn't get a girlfriend. So, I asked the females what their reasoning was. Universally, their answer was something like this: They felt that if these guys were mean and nasty to them... even to the point of violence, it mean that if someone ELSE was mean to them, the guys would protect them. What it really denoted was the incredibly low self esteem of these girls and their rejection of the possibility of them protecting themselves to the point of not being independent. What I also found was that girls who's self esteem was stronger, they had little or not lure to these "bad boys. Also,the girls who liked the "bad boys" when their self esteem became stronger, the lure significantly reduced or was extinguished.

So, at least in my observation, Graffias premise is nothing but an overgeneralization and he fails to examine the specific causes of these behaviors... but of course, since he refuses to substantiate, probably because he can't, his position on this is moot.


Well, for myself I would think that such would have to be broken down by Race as just one factor. But even then how would they determine most. As environment I would think plays a role too.

Lets take a look at what some may say. Since the Graffias didn't provide any type of info. I also was interested in this phenomenon. Especially when growing up with and around women that seemed to be drawn to the stereotype.

Why Women Choose Bad Boys.....

Women choose bad boys because their hormones make them, new research suggests. When ovulating a woman's hormones influence who she sees as good potential fathers, and they specifically pick sexier men over obviously more dependable men.

"Previous research has shown in the week near ovulation women become attracted to sexy, rebellious and handsome men like George Clooney or James Bond," study researcher Kristina Durante, of The University of Texas at San Antonio, said in a statement. "But until now it was unclear why women would ever think it's wise to pursue long-term relationships with these kinds of men."

The study was published today, May 14, in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

The researchers had women view online dating profiles of either a sexy man or a reliable man during periods of both high and low fertility. Participants were asked to indicate the expected paternal contribution from the men if they had a child together based on how helpful the man would be caring for the baby, shopping for food, cooking and contributing to household chores. Near ovulation women thought that the sexy man would contribute more to these domestic duties.

The researchers followed up that find with a second study in which women interacted directly with male actors who played the roles of sexy cad and reliable dad once during ovulation and again at low fertility. Again, ovulating women thought that the sexy cad — but not the reliable dad — would contribute more to childcare, but only as her partner (not if he shacked up with another woman).....snip~

Why Women Choose Bad Boys | LiveScience

How do you view this piece and their findings pointing to hormones?

Also.....were you ever considered a Bad Boy by others besides just women saying such? Their friends, family, neighborhood and community?
 

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l will never ask why men choose sluts haha :lol:
 

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Well, for myself I would think that such would have to be broken down by Race as just one factor. But even then how would they determine most. As environment I would think plays a role too.

Lets take a look at what some may say. Since the Graffias didn't provide any type of info. I also was interested in this phenomenon. Especially when growing up with and around women that seemed to be drawn to the stereotype.

Why Women Choose Bad Boys.....
Women choose bad boys because their hormones make them, new research suggests. When ovulating a woman's hormones influence who she sees as good potential fathers, and they specifically pick sexier men over obviously more dependable men.
I don't buy this: hormones do not convince those women that a prisoner behind bars for murder is a good father figure. These women just have serious issues. They might THINK that way - but it's illogical and in no way fostered by nature to seek out the guy who can't BE a father.

"Previous research has shown in the week near ovulation women become attracted to sexy, rebellious and handsome men like George Clooney or James Bond," study researcher Kristina Durante, of The University of Texas at San Antonio, said in a statement. "But until now it was unclear why women would ever think it's wise to pursue long-term relationships with these kinds of men."
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The researchers had women view online dating profiles of either a sexy man or a reliable man during periods of both high and low fertility. Participants were asked to indicate the expected paternal contribution from the men if they had a child together based on how helpful the man would be caring for the baby, shopping for food, cooking and contributing to household chores. Near ovulation women thought that the sexy man would contribute more to these domestic duties.
Define sexy, though - even the article and research fails to do this. I don't find George Clooney sexy - nor is he a bad boy. He's an actor (a very bad one). James Bond? He's a character played by several people, and no. Sean Connery as James Bond, yes . . . and he's not a thug in a prison cell. As this character: he's refined, sophisticated, daring, and an undercover agent.

The research just doesn't explain why some women do like these men: and note - that the majority DO NOT.

One thing I do see that stands out (which wasn't discussed in the research) is personality and character traits that women might be drawn to:
1) Confident
2) Charisma
3) Well informed on things the female knows little of
4) Has a sense of adventure
5) People respect said individual

Thinking through people I know who are in prison - and ones who are not - but would be considered 'sexy' by loose standards - they do have this in common.

Basically: they're not shy, geeky, unpopular, or unadventurous.

In fact - it seems that they're just not boring people.

I wouldn't know how this applies to reality for these women - but thats what I see when I analyze it critically and am a bit bummed that science didn't find these similar traits and it, instead, defaulted to 'good father figure' - HAH - if a mother falls for a prisoner she's not looking for a father figure, she's looking for a good hard **** on personal-day from a guy who needs it but isn't available otherwise and thus - isn't a factor in her life at all. (that's the appeal I see, anyway)

But hey - take my yap with a grain of salt. I don't find troublemakers to be remotely tolerable as people. My hormones say 'if he murdered his best friend he'll probably murder you, and your kids, so steer clear' - is that not the logical, natural response to such people? Somewhere a long the way - this natural response that most people feel found itself off track for these women. Maybe their fathers WERE horrible people?

I watched a few episodes of 'Prison Dads' or whatever it was and that's what it seemed to me: these women were the bottom dregs of society and desperate to be involved with someone, and sought out prisoners because the real-life well tapped dry. The women themselves were two steps shy of being in jail because of lifestyle choices.

And if that's the type of woman the OP is lamenting the loss of: he's better off without one of them. If a women finds a parolee appealing because he's out for time served after armed robbery then why do you WANT her to like YOU? Yeesh. Be thankful - and find the nice girl.
 
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Well, for myself I would think that such would have to be broken down by Race as just one factor. But even then how would they determine most. As environment I would think plays a role too.

Lets take a look at what some may say. Since the Graffias didn't provide any type of info. I also was interested in this phenomenon. Especially when growing up with and around women that seemed to be drawn to the stereotype.

Why Women Choose Bad Boys.....

I don't buy this: hormones do not convince those women that a prisoner behind bars for murder is a good father figure. These women just have serious issues. They might THINK that way - but it's illogical and in no way fostered by nature to seek out the guy who can't BE a father.



Define sexy, though - even the article and research fails to do this. I don't find George Clooney sexy - nor is he a bad boy. He's an actor (a very bad one). James Bond? He's a character played by several people, and no. Sean Connery as James Bond, yes . . . and he's not a thug in a prison cell. As this character: he's refined, sophisticated, daring, and an undercover agent.

The research just doesn't explain why some women do like these men: and note - that the majority DO NOT.

One thing I do see that stands out (which wasn't discussed in the research) is personality and character traits that women might be drawn to:
1) Confident
2) Charisma
3) Well informed on things the female knows little of
4) Has a sense of adventure
5) People respect said individual

Thinking through people I know who are in prison - and ones who are not - but would be considered 'sexy' by loose standards - they do have this in common.

Basically: they're not shy, geeky, unpopular, or unadventurous.

In fact - it seems that they're just not boring people.

I wouldn't know how this applies to reality for these women - but thats what I see when I analyze it critically and am a bit bummed that science didn't find these similar traits and it, instead, defaulted to 'good father figure' - HAH - if a mother falls for a prisoner she's not looking for a father figure, she's looking for a good hard **** on personal-day from a guy who needs it but isn't available otherwise and thus - isn't a factor in her life at all. (that's the appeal I see, anyway)

But hey - take my yap with a grain of salt. I don't find troublemakers to be remotely tolerable as people. My hormones say 'if he murdered his best friend he'll probably murder you, and your kids, so steer clear' - is that not the logical, natural response to such people? Somewhere a long the way - this natural response that most people feel found itself off track for these women. Maybe their fathers WERE horrible people?

I watched a few episodes of 'Prison Dads' or whatever it was and that's what it seemed to me: these women were the bottom dregs of society and desperate to be involved with someone, and sought out prisoners because the real-life well tapped dry. The women themselves were two steps shy of being in jail because of lifestyle choices.

And if that's the type of woman the OP is lamenting the loss of: he's better off without one of them. If a women finds a parolee appealing because he's out for time served after armed robbery then why do you WANT her to like YOU? Yeesh. Be thankful - and find the nice girl.

Well that's what they discovered out of San Antonio and their Study. Lets see what some others say.

Self assurance is defined as sexy when looking at the bad boys. There is even a related study concerning men that smile.


New Study Shows Why Women Are Attracted to "Bad Boys".....

A new study shows that " Women find happy guys significantly less sexually attractive than swaggering or brooding men which helps to explain the enduring allure of "bad boys" and other iconic gender types."

"The study found that women were least attracted to smiling, happy men, preferring those who looked proud and powerful or moody and ashamed."

Wait - so woman complain they can't find a good man, but are attracted to men who are the equivalent of human dynamite for any relationship? You never know when they may blow up?

The answer is yes.

Plus, you wonder why men and women have trouble getting along. Men want the exact opposite of what women want.

"In contrast, male participants were most sexually attracted to women who looked happy, and least attracted to women who appeared proud and confident."

" Research has associated smiling with a lack of dominance, which is consistent with traditional gender norms of the "submissive and vulnerable" woman, but inconsistent with "strong, silent" man, the researchers say.

Overall, the researchers found that men ranked women more attractive than women ranked men.".....snip~

New Study Shows Why Women Are Attracted to "Bad Boys" - Yahoo! Voices - voices.yahoo.com
 
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