Which son has a better perspective of the opposite sex?

[SDET]

I told my sons that dating is a skill just like Algebra or driving a car that is worth developing. Here's how it turned out:

My youngest started dating at age 12 and got into an abusive relationship where an adult relative of his girlfriend had her pressure my son into producing child porn (he told me years later). My youngest was determined not to be fazed and "got back on the horse" so to speak. Now he's almost an adult and seems proud of being able to have an attractive girlfriend at will. My only concern is he MIGHT be too focused on female validation.

My oldest hasn't really dated and disagrees that dating being a skill worth developing. My oldest is the one who cajoles us into church almost every Sunday and says the decision of whom to date belongs to Jesus, thus developing dating skills is not a good use of time.

My youngest is more socially adept than most adults and my oldest is more interested in study than people and socializing. My oldest has a couple of friends with an interest in game development.

My youngest DOESN'T want to be like his parents with his Dad being a social midget and his mom a mental midget.

Based on the above, which of the two sons are in a stronger life position?

 

[calamity]

I told my sons that dating is a skill just like Algebra or driving a car that is worth developing. Here's how it turned out:

My youngest started dating at age 12 ...

Stopped reading right there to say, "WTF?"

 

[Mach]

Sounds like Napolean Dynamite's guide to dating:

Napoleon says, “I don't even have any skills.” To which his friend Pedro replies, “What do you mean?” Then Napoleon's famous answer “You know, like nunchuck skills, bo hunting skills, computer hacking skills. Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills.”

Really, the post, like most such posts, looks like a cry for help/attention to me. Plenty of people who could help with that.

 

[Mr Person]

My only concern is he MIGHT be too focused on female validation.

If you are so horribly concerned that he is treating women too much like individual people with agency, you could try taking him to one of those allegedly legal five cent whores you're always raving about (or is it "poor and desperate women who 'voluntarily' sleep with you for material gain) and see if he has an epiphany. It may not be the epiphany you'd expect, but epiphany it will be.

You might even accidentally do him some good

 

[SDET]

If you are so horribly concerned that he is treating women too much like individual people with agency, you could try taking him to one of those allegedly legal five cent whores you're always raving about (or is it "poor and desperate women who 'voluntarily' sleep with you for material gain) and see if he has an epiphany. It may not be the epiphany you'd expect, but epiphany it will be.

You might even accidentally do him some good

That's absolutely unnecessary. I was thinking of having him sit in on a some family court cases.

 

[Jetboogieman]

If you are so horribly concerned that he is treating women too much like individual people with agency, you could try taking him to one of those allegedly legal five cent whores you're always raving about (or is it "poor and desperate women who 'voluntarily' sleep with you for material gain) and see if he has an epiphany. It may not be the epiphany you'd expect, but epiphany it will be.

You might even accidentally do him some good

That was ****ing savage.

:lamo

 

[SDET]

That was ****ing savage.

:lamo

But, artfully information free!

 

[tosca1]

I told my sons that dating is a skill just like Algebra or driving a car that is worth developing. Here's how it turned out:

My youngest started dating at age 12 and got into an abusive relationship where an adult relative of his girlfriend had her pressure my son into producing child porn (he told me years later). My youngest was determined not to be fazed and "got back on the horse" so to speak. Now he's almost an adult and seems proud of being able to have an attractive girlfriend at will. My only concern is he MIGHT be too focused on female validation.

My oldest hasn't really dated and disagrees that dating being a skill worth developing. My oldest is the one who cajoles us into church almost every Sunday and says the decision of whom to date belongs to Jesus, thus developing dating skills is not a good use of time.

My youngest is more socially adept than most adults and my oldest is more interested in study than people and socializing. My oldest has a couple of friends with an interest in game development.

My youngest DOESN'T want to be like his parents with his Dad being a social midget and his mom a mental midget.

Based on the above, which of the two sons are in a stronger life position?

I'm sorry to hear that abusive relationship about your youngest. That experience might've impacted him psychologically in different ways.
Hopefully, that's not the case.


Because of his faith in God - I'd say it's your oldest son that's in a strong position in life. Come what may!
Man, with a faith like that (he's putting it in Gods hands) - nothing will faze him.

Btw, I've heard of testimonies from people about God doing His work with "match-making."

 

[Marrybore]

I told my sons that dating is a skill just like Algebra or driving a car that is worth developing. Here's how it turned out:

My youngest started dating at age 12 and got into an abusive relationship where an adult relative of his girlfriend had her pressure my son into producing child porn (he told me years later). My youngest was determined not to be fazed and "got back on the horse" so to speak. Now he's almost an adult and seems proud of being able to have an attractive girlfriend at will. My only concern is he MIGHT be too focused on female validation.

My oldest hasn't really dated and disagrees that dating being a skill worth developing. My oldest is the one who cajoles us into church almost every Sunday and says the decision of whom to date belongs to Jesus, thus developing dating skills is not a good use of time.

My youngest is more socially adept than most adults and my oldest is more interested in study than people and socializing. My oldest has a couple of friends with an interest in game development.

My youngest DOESN'T want to be like his parents with his Dad being a social midget and his mom a mental midget.

Based on the above, which of the two sons are in a stronger life position?

Did you just call your spouse a "mental midget"?