What's your opinion of this marriage strategy?

[SDET]

With the advent of the internet, I'm happy that I can verify that the stories my mother told me were indeed true. She talked incessantly, but I liked the content. One poster here suggests that women married low-value men generations ago because they had no choice. That reminded me about a circumstance in my own family. My grandmother married a disabled man at the turn of the last century (early 1900s). He was known at the time as a "painter". He walked on crutches, but was quite talented at designing store displays and store layouts. He made a good living and was financially capable of being a good provider.

My great-grandmother and others criticized her mercilessly for marrying "a cripple". What if your kids inherit his crippled-ness? He was considered a low-value mate.

Knowing that my grandmother had a knack for "reading the road ahead" and avoiding trouble, I wonder if she deliberately married a disabled man that was physically unable to beat her knowing of the prevalence of domestic violence back in that day (about 115 years ago).

 

[HumblePi]

With the advent of the internet, I'm happy that I can verify that the stories my mother told me were indeed true. She talked incessantly, but I liked the content. One poster here suggests that women married low-value men generations ago because they had no choice. That reminded me about a circumstance in my own family. My grandmother married a disabled man at the turn of the last century (early 1900s). He was known at the time as a "painter". He walked on crutches, but was quite talented at designing store displays and store layouts. He made a good living and was financially capable of being a good provider.

My great-grandmother and others criticized her mercilessly for marrying "a cripple". What if your kids inherit his crippled-ness? He was considered a low-value mate.

Knowing that my grandmother had a knack for "reading the road ahead" and avoiding trouble, I wonder if she deliberately married a disabled man that was physically unable to beat her knowing of the prevalence of domestic violence back in that day (about 115 years ago).

Wow, I'm trying to absorb what you're saying. Let me get this straight. You're suggesting that because your grandmother lived in an era where men beat their wives, that she intentionally married a crippled man because he would be physically unable to beat her. Is this what you're saying? He was able to earn a living as a painter so that would indicate that his arms and hands worked just fine. If he was a wife beater, being a cripple wouldn't stop him from beating his wife, would it? Have you considered that your grandmother found him to be a loving, caring man, one that would support her and her children and that his physical impairment wasn't an obstacle for her?

Oh, and that era where men beat their wives -- that era never ended.

 

[Drawdown]

With the advent of the internet, I'm happy that I can verify that the stories my mother told me were indeed true. She talked incessantly, but I liked the content. One poster here suggests that women married low-value men generations ago because they had no choice. That reminded me about a circumstance in my own family. My grandmother married a disabled man at the turn of the last century (early 1900s). He was known at the time as a "painter". He walked on crutches, but was quite talented at designing store displays and store layouts. He made a good living and was financially capable of being a good provider.

My great-grandmother and others criticized her mercilessly for marrying "a cripple". What if your kids inherit his crippled-ness? He was considered a low-value mate.

Knowing that my grandmother had a knack for "reading the road ahead" and avoiding trouble, I wonder if she deliberately married a disabled man that was physically unable to beat her knowing of the prevalence of domestic violence back in that day (about 115 years ago).

If he made a good living, he wasn't disabled.

 

[tosca1]

With the advent of the internet, I'm happy that I can verify that the stories my mother told me were indeed true. She talked incessantly, but I liked the content. One poster here suggests that women married low-value men generations ago because they had no choice. That reminded me about a circumstance in my own family. My grandmother married a disabled man at the turn of the last century (early 1900s). He was known at the time as a "painter". He walked on crutches, but was quite talented at designing store displays and store layouts. He made a good living and was financially capable of being a good provider.

My great-grandmother and others criticized her mercilessly for marrying "a cripple". What if your kids inherit his crippled-ness? He was considered a low-value mate.

Knowing that my grandmother had a knack for "reading the road ahead" and avoiding trouble, I wonder if she deliberately married a disabled man that was physically unable to beat her knowing of the prevalence of domestic violence back in that day (about 115 years ago).

Since she has the "knack for reading the road ahead," could it be more so because your grandmother has seen good qualities in this "crippled" man
that others had failed to see? She's more into inner qualities?

Could it also be that she indeed loved this man?


How did her marriage turn out?
Are you a product of that marriage (one of your parents her offspring)?

 

[soylentgreen]

With the advent of the internet, I'm happy that I can verify that the stories my mother told me were indeed true. She talked incessantly, but I liked the content. One poster here suggests that women married low-value men generations ago because they had no choice. That reminded me about a circumstance in my own family. My grandmother married a disabled man at the turn of the last century (early 1900s). He was known at the time as a "painter". He walked on crutches, but was quite talented at designing store displays and store layouts. He made a good living and was financially capable of being a good provider.

My great-grandmother and others criticized her mercilessly for marrying "a cripple". What if your kids inherit his crippled-ness? He was considered a low-value mate.

Knowing that my grandmother had a knack for "reading the road ahead" and avoiding trouble, I wonder if she deliberately married a disabled man that was physically unable to beat her knowing of the prevalence of domestic violence back in that day (about 115 years ago).

Where is this leading to? Are you thinking of crippling yourself to make yourself more attractive to women who fear men might beat them?

 

[beefheart]

Where is this leading to? Are you thinking of crippling yourself to make yourself more attractive to women who fear men might beat them?

He can't answer, he was banned a long time ago...

 

[Manc Skipper]

What an odd concept. A "strategy" for marriage.