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Good Rev said:The Good Reverend's dated some hotties that he was just not that into
As have I. I've dated some absolute knockouts that I didn't call back because they shared one simple, universal truth - they were all dumb as hell.
I guess I just differ from rivrrat. I've always thought you could create the spark. Say, like if a woman dresses the way she does in the other thread her and I were talking in. We could share common, passionate, intimate interests. Exercise or something physical releases endorphins which could spice it up. Maybe the dull bubbling and relaxation of two scantily-clad people in a hot tub. I couldn't imagine possibly giving up on someone so perfect for me because of some unexplained surge of hormones I may or may not get.
rivrrat said:I wish that happened. Sometimes it does, I guess. But I have tried to will it to happen with no avail. One man in particular that I just wished upon wished that I could feel that spark with. He was a great friend, great looking, fantastic bod, ex-Marine, highly intelligent, extremely funny. But that spark just wasn't there for me. And no matter what I did, I couldn't just magically make myself sexually attracted to him.
That's another thing I don't get. What is "it" then? He looks good, he has a good body, is a great friend. What is this indeterminant force that states from the get-go that the person is right or not? I guess this is just me being so left-brained that it's scary. Logic explains everything I do, say, and feel...and the "spark" to me seems absolutely illogical. I'd go nuts if some unexplained "thing" determines how my love life goes.
Maybe that's why women are notorious for making awful decisions in relationships and being attracted to asswipes.