What is Sexual Immorality to You?

[digsbe]

In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

 

[Helix]

My own definition would include cheating. Basically, any act which creates a victim might be considered immoral.

If you want to have sex with someone else, break up first.

 

[lizzie]

Well, I'm getting on the old side, and pretty darn old-fashioned as well, so my views on sexual morality are that sex should be a part of a loving relationship, which includes commitment to your partner. It's the way I was brought up by my parents, and that attitude seems to foster more stability in a relationship.

 

[CLAX1911]

In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

My views only apply to me, of course.

I View immoral sexual acts to be acts of sexual assault, aggravated sexual assault, sexual conduct with a minor that is not your spouse. Using sex to blackmail your partner. Telling your partner that they are the only one while you go around and have sex with others. Sex with multiple people, menage a trois, orgies, so forth. Pornography.

 

[specklebang]

The only thing I consider immoral, aside from those that are already illegal (force or consent issues), is adultery without consent of your life-partner. The immorality is in the deception, not the sex itself.

Otherwise, I approve of everything. Sex is natural and fun. I've done everything sexual at least once (again, other than force or consent violations). Some things worked, some didn't. None were immoral (to me).

Sex is just sex no matter the gender, the positions or the volume. Lying, stealing, defrauding, injuring and killing are immoral (to me).

 

[braymoore]

In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

Well my views and beliefs come from my religion. Every single thing you listed in my opinion is sexually immoral. Sexual relationships are extremely sacred and should only be done with your spouse who you are legally married to. I believe in "the law of chastity" so any sexual relationships outside of marriage is a no-go. Pornography is very sexually immoral and at times destorys marriages. I'm sure many think I am going a little overboard and am very strict but these are my views and beliefs on the subject.

 

[Hard Truth]

Anything that causes avoidable harm. In most cases, causing shock or offense does not count.

Harm includes, but is not limited to:

• Rape, coercion, unwanted groping, harassment and using deception to seduce
• Knowingly spreading a disease
• Lying about birth control
• Taking excessive risks that endanger others (i.e. unprotected sex with multiple partners whose disease status is unknown)
• Sex with anyone incapable of informed consent such as children, seriously intoxicated people, unconscious people, mentally disabled or mentally ill people, slaves)
• Deceiving your partner about use of birth control, getting pregnant and holding the father financially responsible
• Sex with the partners of friends, neighbors and other associates without consent from all of the affected people
• Using sex for control of others, such as blackmailing a co-worker
• Spreading private information (including photos, videos etc.) about someone without their consent
• Treating someone disrespectfully after they had sex with you
• Not respecting limits
• Failing to take sufficient safety precautions (esp. for BDSM)

Basically anything you wouldn't want done to you.

 

[AGENT J]

In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing?
1.) Is it sexually immoral to cheat?
2.) Have multiple partners?
3.) Have irresponsible sexual behavior?
4.) One night stnads?
5.) Sex outside of monogamous relationships?
6.) Is porn a form of sexual immorality?
7.) Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white,
8.) or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

hmmmm
i made this statement in a similar thread

if sex is consensual, between adults, general safe and honest (no lies, cheating, blackmail etc) then it just is what it is. Most importantly its nobody's business at all.

1.) yes but some people dont consider cheating (sex with someone else) cheating, then some nutcases call masturbation cheating
2.) no if it fits the statement i gave in the beginning
3.) again "irresponsible" is so subjective, i would need examples. Having sex with the door unlocked could be irresponsible, so could having sex while swinging form the ceiling fan?
4.) no if it fits the statement i gave in the beginning
5.) no if it fits the statement i gave in the beginning and also see number 1, depends on the people
6.) no if it fits the statement i gave in the beginning
7.) this many questions and vague, definitely grey, not black and white
8.) well of course they are only for me and my sex life, how could they be for anybody else. Its none of my business what others do. Unless theres a victim, rape/assault etc I could never be so ignorant, arrogant, pompous and stupid to ever think that it was or to judge.

 

[Goshin]

In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

Pretty much anything that isn't consensual or involves any sort of deception, betrayal or breaking of vows.... and at least arguably anything outside of a loving and committed relationship and/or marriage.

 

[Gipper]

Paying for dinner and a movie and not getting laid.

 

[Medusa]

Paying for dinner and a movie and not getting laid.

pay more

 

[clownboy]

Basically two categories:

1) doing something sexually that YOU yourself believe to be wrong when anyone else does it.
2) infidelity.

 

[Gipper]

pay more

If I thought taking her to the DQ for a Blizzard afterward would close the deal, I would.

 

[Gathomas88]

In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

Being both religious and rather traditional in terms of cultural values, I find pretty much all of the activities mentioned above to be not only immoral, but generally bad ideas as well. After all, there is a reason why socially problematic conditions such as STDs, divorce, and teenage pregnancy have all virtually exploded since the dawn of the so called "sexual revolution," and it certainly isn't abstinence.

That being said, however; I am willing to admit that some of the acts mentioned tend to be far more immoral than others (i.e. unmarried sex in a loving and committed relationship is less immoral than promiscuous sex, which is less morally objectionable than cheating, and so on, and so forth). I also acknowledge that pretty much all of them are more or less unavoidable in society at large to some degree or another. I've engaged in a couple of them myself on a few occasions.

What can I say? I am only human. :shrug:

I do not take this to mean that sexual restraint and self discipline are inherent wastes of time, as so may others in today's world seem to, but rather that they are a goal to which human beings should aspire regardless of whatever obstacles simple biological weakness might happen to place in their way. In the long run, I firmly believe that those who approach their sexuality with a responsible sense of temperance and emotional maturity will end up being far happier, healthier, and emotionally well adjusted than those who do not.

In the end, playing with fire is, and always will be, a dangerous business. You might be able to get away with it once or twice, but sooner or later, you're going to get burned one way or another.

 

[Medusa]

In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat?
yes

Have multiple partners?
yes

Have irresponsible sexual behavior
no but it is ignorance

]One night stnads?

not exactly but it is not something to be appreciated

Sex outside of monogamous relationships

yes

Is porn a form of sexual immorality?

if the partner knows about her job ,no l think

l dont want to judge porn stars, prostitutes etc ,maybe they are kinder people than the ones who claim to be ethical
Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?


these are personal things ,l have greys in this life

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

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[Northern Light]

It's sexually immoral to violate commitments and agreements that you and your partner have made, or to actively sabbotage specific understandings you've formed together.

Outside of that, anything goes.

 

[douglas]

I'm not religious and pretty much open to anything. I think morals are relative and separate from law, but they typically coincide. Any form of sex that violates consent is immoral to me and nearly everyone I know. Cheating is immoral in a way, but I think it's a gray area; sometimes cheating can help dissolve a self-destructive but comfortable relationship. I also think that "cheating" is defined differently by different people; where some people have problems with their partner even kissing someone else, I've met couples that have open sexual relationships with strangers and don't consider it cheating since they're using a condom. It's all relative, there aren't too many absolutes. If there was some sort of universal guideline for sex and morals, we wouldn't be discussing it right now.

 

[CLAX1911]

Being both religious and rather traditional in terms of cultural values, I find pretty much all of the activities mentioned above to be not only immoral, but generally bad ideas as well. After all, there is a reason why socially problematic conditions such as STDs, divorce, and teenage pregnancy have all virtually exploded since the dawn of the so called "sexual revolution," and it certainly isn't abstinence.

That being said, however; I am willing to admit that some of the acts mentioned tend to be far more immoral than others (i.e. unmarried sex in a loving and committed relationship is less immoral than promiscuous sex, which is less morally objectionable than cheating, and so on, and so forth). I also acknowledge that pretty much all of them are more or less unavoidable in society at large to some degree or another. I've engaged in a couple of them myself on a few occasions.

What can I say? I am only human. :shrug:

I do not take this to mean that sexual restraint and self discipline are inherent wastes of time, as so may others in today's world seem to, but rather that they are a goal to which human beings should aspire regardless of whatever obstacles simple biological weakness might happen to place in their way. In the long run, I firmly believe that those who approach their sexuality with a responsible sense of temperance and emotional maturity will end up being far happier, healthier, and emotionally well adjusted than those who do not.

In the end, playing with fire is, and always will be, a dangerous business. You might be able to get away with it once or twice, but sooner or later, you're going to get burned one way or another.

Teenage pregnancy did not explode, actually it has gone down. It only just became a taboo recently. 150 years ago it was perfectly normal fir teenagers to have babies. Why we think people need to be I'm their twenties or thirties to have kids is beyond me.

 

[Gathomas88]

Teenage pregnancy did not explode, actually it has gone down. It only just became a taboo recently. 150 years ago it was perfectly normal fir teenagers to have babies. Why we think people need to be I'm their twenties or thirties to have kids is beyond me.

Rates of teenage pregnancy are higher now than they were one hundred years ago. They simply happen to be down from the historic highs they reached during the latter half of the 20th Century.

You are correct in pointing out that teenage pregnancy isn't anything new, but in the past it was generally a result of the tendency of people to marry young. This is not the case anymore, which is actually one of the leading reasons why our society is currently having such an epidemic problem with single motherhood.

 

[tessaesque]

Utilizing sex in such a way that leads to physical or emotional harm in another.

So cheating could qualify.
Rape could qualify.
Risky sex (i.e. lying about STDs or birth control or using faulty protection with prior knowledge).
Using sex a manipulation tool could (though it might kind of be a stretch).

 

[DiAnna]

I'm a pretty live-and-let-live kinda owl when it comes to personal sexual choices between consenting adults.

As for the "immorality" aspect, for me it boils down to two things as indisputably immoral: Rape and Adultery (which includes cheating outside a committed relationship).

 

[the_recruit]

I've done everything sexual at least once (again, other than force or consent violations).

Everything?

 

[Fisher]

Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Yes.

Have multiple partners? Maybe.

Have irresponsible sexual behavior? Not sure what you mean exactly by this

One night stnads? Irresponsible but no immoral

Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Friends with benefits no. Friends with benefits when there is somebody at home, yes. (a little ambiguous what you meant)

Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Only if it interferes with healthy relationships or leads to immoral activities.

Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life? Depends.

 

[dnsmith]

Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Yes.

Have multiple partners? Maybe.

Have irresponsible sexual behavior? Not sure what you mean exactly by this

One night stnads? Irresponsible but no immoral

Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Friends with benefits no. Friends with benefits when there is somebody at home, yes. (a little ambiguous what you meant)

Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Only if it interferes with healthy relationships or leads to immoral activities.

Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life? Depends.

In my opinion sex outside of marriage is immoral. There are degrees of immorality from simply fornication between unmarried folks, to adulterous sex with a married person other than ones spouse.

 

[windowdressing]

Paying for dinner and a movie and not getting laid.

you give libertaians a bad name ... shame on you :rock