• This is a political forum that is non-biased/non-partisan and treats every persons position on topics equally. This debate forum is not aligned to any political party. In today's politics, many ideas are split between and even within all the political parties. Often we find ourselves agreeing on one platform but some topics break our mold. We are here to discuss them in a civil political debate. If this is your first visit to our political forums, be sure to check out the RULES. Registering for debate politics is necessary before posting. Register today to participate - it's free!

What is Sexual Immorality to You?

digsbe

Truth will set you free
Moderator
DP Veteran
Joined
May 13, 2009
Messages
20,229
Reaction score
14,235
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Other
In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.
 

Helix

Administrator
Moderator
DP Veteran
Joined
Jul 1, 2011
Messages
72,366
Reaction score
55,347
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Independent
My own definition would include cheating. Basically, any act which creates a victim might be considered immoral.

If you want to have sex with someone else, break up first.
 

lizzie

DP Veteran
Joined
Oct 22, 2009
Messages
28,580
Reaction score
31,551
Location
between two worlds
Gender
Female
Political Leaning
Libertarian
Well, I'm getting on the old side, and pretty darn old-fashioned as well, so my views on sexual morality are that sex should be a part of a loving relationship, which includes commitment to your partner. It's the way I was brought up by my parents, and that attitude seems to foster more stability in a relationship.
 

CLAX1911

Supreme knower of all
DP Veteran
Joined
Nov 12, 2012
Messages
51,268
Reaction score
10,271
Location
Houston, in the great state of Texas
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Conservative
In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

My views only apply to me, of course.

I View immoral sexual acts to be acts of sexual assault, aggravated sexual assault, sexual conduct with a minor that is not your spouse. Using sex to blackmail your partner. Telling your partner that they are the only one while you go around and have sex with others. Sex with multiple people, menage a trois, orgies, so forth. Pornography.
 

specklebang

Discount Philosopher
DP Veteran
Joined
Jan 13, 2012
Messages
11,524
Reaction score
6,769
Location
Las Vegas
Gender
Undisclosed
Political Leaning
Other
The only thing I consider immoral, aside from those that are already illegal (force or consent issues), is adultery without consent of your life-partner. The immorality is in the deception, not the sex itself.

Otherwise, I approve of everything. Sex is natural and fun. I've done everything sexual at least once (again, other than force or consent violations). Some things worked, some didn't. None were immoral (to me).

Sex is just sex no matter the gender, the positions or the volume. Lying, stealing, defrauding, injuring and killing are immoral (to me).
 

braymoore

Member
Joined
May 28, 2013
Messages
173
Reaction score
63
Location
Rio de Janeiro
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Independent
In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

Well my views and beliefs come from my religion. Every single thing you listed in my opinion is sexually immoral. Sexual relationships are extremely sacred and should only be done with your spouse who you are legally married to. I believe in "the law of chastity" so any sexual relationships outside of marriage is a no-go. Pornography is very sexually immoral and at times destorys marriages. I'm sure many think I am going a little overboard and am very strict but these are my views and beliefs on the subject.
 

Hard Truth

Banned
DP Veteran
Joined
Jan 4, 2013
Messages
9,122
Reaction score
3,751
Gender
Undisclosed
Political Leaning
Undisclosed
Anything that causes avoidable harm. In most cases, causing shock or offense does not count.

Harm includes, but is not limited to:
  • Rape, coercion, unwanted groping, harassment and using deception to seduce
  • Knowingly spreading a disease
  • Lying about birth control
  • Taking excessive risks that endanger others (i.e. unprotected sex with multiple partners whose disease status is unknown)
  • Sex with anyone incapable of informed consent such as children, seriously intoxicated people, unconscious people, mentally disabled or mentally ill people, slaves)
  • Deceiving your partner about use of birth control, getting pregnant and holding the father financially responsible
  • Sex with the partners of friends, neighbors and other associates without consent from all of the affected people
  • Using sex for control of others, such as blackmailing a co-worker
  • Spreading private information (including photos, videos etc.) about someone without their consent
  • Treating someone disrespectfully after they had sex with you
  • Not respecting limits
  • Failing to take sufficient safety precautions (esp. for BDSM)

Basically anything you wouldn't want done to you.
 
Last edited:

AGENT J

"If you ain't first, you're last"
Supporting Member
Monthly Subscriber
DP Veteran
Joined
Apr 25, 2010
Messages
62,951
Reaction score
18,504
Location
Pittsburgh
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Independent
In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing?
1.) Is it sexually immoral to cheat?
2.) Have multiple partners?
3.) Have irresponsible sexual behavior?
4.) One night stnads?
5.) Sex outside of monogamous relationships?
6.) Is porn a form of sexual immorality?
7.) Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white,
8.) or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

hmmmm
i made this statement in a similar thread

if sex is consensual, between adults, general safe and honest (no lies, cheating, blackmail etc) then it just is what it is. Most importantly its nobody's business at all.

1.) yes but some people dont consider cheating (sex with someone else) cheating, then some nutcases call masturbation cheating
2.) no if it fits the statement i gave in the beginning
3.) again "irresponsible" is so subjective, i would need examples. Having sex with the door unlocked could be irresponsible, so could having sex while swinging form the ceiling fan?
4.) no if it fits the statement i gave in the beginning
5.) no if it fits the statement i gave in the beginning and also see number 1, depends on the people
6.) no if it fits the statement i gave in the beginning
7.) this many questions and vague, definitely grey, not black and white
8.) well of course they are only for me and my sex life, how could they be for anybody else. Its none of my business what others do. Unless theres a victim, rape/assault etc I could never be so ignorant, arrogant, pompous and stupid to ever think that it was or to judge.
 

Goshin

Burned Out Ex-Mod
DP Veteran
Joined
Mar 16, 2009
Messages
45,524
Reaction score
50,126
Location
Dixie
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Independent
In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.



Pretty much anything that isn't consensual or involves any sort of deception, betrayal or breaking of vows.... and at least arguably anything outside of a loving and committed relationship and/or marriage.
 

clownboy

DP Veteran
Joined
May 22, 2012
Messages
26,087
Reaction score
10,860
Location
Oregon
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Other
Basically two categories:

1) doing something sexually that YOU yourself believe to be wrong when anyone else does it.
2) infidelity.
 

Gathomas88

Banned
DP Veteran
Joined
Feb 4, 2013
Messages
28,659
Reaction score
18,801
Location
Charleston, South Carolina
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Very Conservative
In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Have multiple partners? Have irresponsible sexual behavior? One night stnads? Sex outside of monogamous relationships? Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.

Being both religious and rather traditional in terms of cultural values, I find pretty much all of the activities mentioned above to be not only immoral, but generally bad ideas as well. After all, there is a reason why socially problematic conditions such as STDs, divorce, and teenage pregnancy have all virtually exploded since the dawn of the so called "sexual revolution," and it certainly isn't abstinence.

That being said, however; I am willing to admit that some of the acts mentioned tend to be far more immoral than others (i.e. unmarried sex in a loving and committed relationship is less immoral than promiscuous sex, which is less morally objectionable than cheating, and so on, and so forth). I also acknowledge that pretty much all of them are more or less unavoidable in society at large to some degree or another. I've engaged in a couple of them myself on a few occasions.

What can I say? I am only human. :shrug:

I do not take this to mean that sexual restraint and self discipline are inherent wastes of time, as so may others in today's world seem to, but rather that they are a goal to which human beings should aspire regardless of whatever obstacles simple biological weakness might happen to place in their way. In the long run, I firmly believe that those who approach their sexuality with a responsible sense of temperance and emotional maturity will end up being far happier, healthier, and emotionally well adjusted than those who do not.

In the end, playing with fire is, and always will be, a dangerous business. You might be able to get away with it once or twice, but sooner or later, you're going to get burned one way or another.
 
Last edited:

Medusa

DP Veteran
Joined
Oct 9, 2011
Messages
39,861
Reaction score
7,847
Location
Turkey
Gender
Female
Political Leaning
Other
In your view, what do you view as sexual immorality or do you believe that there is such a thing? Is it sexually immoral to cheat?
yes

Have multiple partners?

yes

Have irresponsible sexual behavior
no but it is ignorance

]One night stnads?

not exactly but it is not something to be appreciated

Sex outside of monogamous relationships

yes

Is porn a form of sexual immorality?

if the partner knows about her job ,no l think

l dont want to judge porn stars, prostitutes etc ,maybe they are kinder people than the ones who claim to be ethical

Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?


these are personal things ,l have greys in this life

Most of you probably know what my views are, but I'll share mine later in the thread since I don't want the main topic of discussion being my view, but rather how we view sexual immorality.


...................
 

Northern Light

The Light of Truth
DP Veteran
Joined
Jan 7, 2013
Messages
6,897
Reaction score
4,271
Gender
Undisclosed
Political Leaning
Undisclosed
It's sexually immoral to violate commitments and agreements that you and your partner have made, or to actively sabbotage specific understandings you've formed together.

Outside of that, anything goes.
 

douglas

Active member
Joined
Jun 22, 2013
Messages
458
Reaction score
290
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Libertarian - Left
I'm not religious and pretty much open to anything. I think morals are relative and separate from law, but they typically coincide. Any form of sex that violates consent is immoral to me and nearly everyone I know. Cheating is immoral in a way, but I think it's a gray area; sometimes cheating can help dissolve a self-destructive but comfortable relationship. I also think that "cheating" is defined differently by different people; where some people have problems with their partner even kissing someone else, I've met couples that have open sexual relationships with strangers and don't consider it cheating since they're using a condom. It's all relative, there aren't too many absolutes. If there was some sort of universal guideline for sex and morals, we wouldn't be discussing it right now.
 

CLAX1911

Supreme knower of all
DP Veteran
Joined
Nov 12, 2012
Messages
51,268
Reaction score
10,271
Location
Houston, in the great state of Texas
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Conservative
Being both religious and rather traditional in terms of cultural values, I find pretty much all of the activities mentioned above to be not only immoral, but generally bad ideas as well. After all, there is a reason why socially problematic conditions such as STDs, divorce, and teenage pregnancy have all virtually exploded since the dawn of the so called "sexual revolution," and it certainly isn't abstinence.

That being said, however; I am willing to admit that some of the acts mentioned tend to be far more immoral than others (i.e. unmarried sex in a loving and committed relationship is less immoral than promiscuous sex, which is less morally objectionable than cheating, and so on, and so forth). I also acknowledge that pretty much all of them are more or less unavoidable in society at large to some degree or another. I've engaged in a couple of them myself on a few occasions.

What can I say? I am only human. :shrug:

I do not take this to mean that sexual restraint and self discipline are inherent wastes of time, as so may others in today's world seem to, but rather that they are a goal to which human beings should aspire regardless of whatever obstacles simple biological weakness might happen to place in their way. In the long run, I firmly believe that those who approach their sexuality with a responsible sense of temperance and emotional maturity will end up being far happier, healthier, and emotionally well adjusted than those who do not.

In the end, playing with fire is, and always will be, a dangerous business. You might be able to get away with it once or twice, but sooner or later, you're going to get burned one way or another.

Teenage pregnancy did not explode, actually it has gone down. It only just became a taboo recently. 150 years ago it was perfectly normal fir teenagers to have babies. Why we think people need to be I'm their twenties or thirties to have kids is beyond me.
 

Gathomas88

Banned
DP Veteran
Joined
Feb 4, 2013
Messages
28,659
Reaction score
18,801
Location
Charleston, South Carolina
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Very Conservative
Teenage pregnancy did not explode, actually it has gone down. It only just became a taboo recently. 150 years ago it was perfectly normal fir teenagers to have babies. Why we think people need to be I'm their twenties or thirties to have kids is beyond me.

Rates of teenage pregnancy are higher now than they were one hundred years ago. They simply happen to be down from the historic highs they reached during the latter half of the 20th Century.

You are correct in pointing out that teenage pregnancy isn't anything new, but in the past it was generally a result of the tendency of people to marry young. This is not the case anymore, which is actually one of the leading reasons why our society is currently having such an epidemic problem with single motherhood.
 

tessaesque

Bring us a shrubbery!
DP Veteran
Joined
Apr 13, 2011
Messages
15,910
Reaction score
12,629
Location
Plano, Texas
Gender
Female
Political Leaning
Other
Utilizing sex in such a way that leads to physical or emotional harm in another.

So cheating could qualify.
Rape could qualify.
Risky sex (i.e. lying about STDs or birth control or using faulty protection with prior knowledge).
Using sex a manipulation tool could (though it might kind of be a stretch).
 

DiAnna

Hooter Babe
Dungeon Master
Supporting Member
Monthly Subscriber
DP Veteran
Joined
Sep 19, 2008
Messages
47,185
Reaction score
25,389
Location
Northern California
Gender
Female
Political Leaning
Independent
I'm a pretty live-and-let-live kinda owl when it comes to personal sexual choices between consenting adults.

As for the "immorality" aspect, for me it boils down to two things as indisputably immoral: Rape and Adultery (which includes cheating outside a committed relationship).
 

the_recruit

DP Veteran
Joined
Sep 30, 2011
Messages
4,207
Reaction score
2,615
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Undisclosed
I've done everything sexual at least once (again, other than force or consent violations).

2562612-FrySquint-gif.gif


Everything?
 

Fisher

DP Veteran
Joined
Sep 18, 2012
Messages
17,002
Reaction score
6,913
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Very Liberal
Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Yes.

Have multiple partners? Maybe.

Have irresponsible sexual behavior?
Not sure what you mean exactly by this

One night stnads? Irresponsible but no immoral

Sex outside of monogamous relationships?
Friends with benefits no. Friends with benefits when there is somebody at home, yes. (a little ambiguous what you meant)

Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Only if it interferes with healthy relationships or leads to immoral activities.

Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?
Depends.
 

dnsmith

Banned
DP Veteran
Joined
Dec 9, 2012
Messages
1,622
Reaction score
350
Location
USA
Gender
Male
Political Leaning
Moderate
Is it sexually immoral to cheat? Yes.

Have multiple partners? Maybe.

Have irresponsible sexual behavior?
Not sure what you mean exactly by this

One night stnads? Irresponsible but no immoral

Sex outside of monogamous relationships?
Friends with benefits no. Friends with benefits when there is somebody at home, yes. (a little ambiguous what you meant)

Is porn a form of sexual immorality? Only if it interferes with healthy relationships or leads to immoral activities.

Are your beliefs something that is absolute, black and white, or do they only apply to you and your own personal sex life?
Depends.
In my opinion sex outside of marriage is immoral. There are degrees of immorality from simply fornication between unmarried folks, to adulterous sex with a married person other than ones spouse.
 
Top Bottom